Post # 1
I might have worded that the wrong way, but just wondering if there are any waiting bees here where it will be your second time down the aisle?
It will be for me. I got married the first time to the wrong man 10 years ago this year. I was 22 and thought I was in love. My dad paid for everything the first time around, but now that I’m older and have my own career I know I can’t ask him to do that. My boyfriend and I are planning to pay for everything on our own.
So my question is…. what are you spending on your dress since this will be your second time around? The first time my dad spent over 2000 on my dress, all accessories, and alterations. I can’t fathom paying that much on my own. I’ve looked on David’s Bridal website and I’ve found some really nice ones for 300 to 600. I really don’t want to spend more than 1000 on everything, but I still want to look nice.
My mindset now that I’m older is that honestly I will only be wearing this dress for a few hours and the money I will spend on it could be better spent on a nice honeymoon or on something we need for the house.
My boyfriend asked why can’t I just rent a dress like he does a tux. I don’t even know if that is possible, but I don’t think that’s something I want to do. I would like to have the experience of going to try on the dress, but I don’t want to spend a lot of money that could be spent on other things.
Post # 2
I don’t think you can rent a dress because the dress has to be tailored to fit you exactly, but you can buy a pre-owned wedding dress, if you’re willing to consider that option. It will be cheaper than buying a new dress, and you might find one you really like.
Post # 3
Second time bee here ♡ I definitely want to elope this time. I dont see a point in having a big wedding anymore!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV
Second time for me as well and I never had anything fancy the first time and I am just wanting something simple this time. I have been looking at DB dresses too and for what they are some of them are pretty nice.
Post # 5
My first time, but my fiancé’s second time. He’s 50, and I’m 42. Personally, I would be perfectly happpy with a courthouse wedding, and an inexpensive dress. I too cannot imagine asking for my parents to chip in at my age. And the money my fiancé and I would spend on a wedding, I would rather put that money toward a home. Most-likely my fiancé and I will elope in Vegas or Reno. We’ll have a small party at home to celebrate afterward.
I was at Goodwill recently, and saw a few lovely wedding gowns in their dress section for about $30. If men rent tuxedos for weddings, I figure what’s wrong with wearing a previously worn gown?
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2019 - San Antonio, TX
This will be both mine and his 2nd time. We would both prefer to elope but I’m not sure how his family will take that and I feel like I need to include my kids too. So I’m not sure what we will do. I would marry him today but he has to ask me first LOL.
Post # 7
I would be willing to elope. We are very close to the Smoky Mountains and could just go up there and have a party when we got back. However, this is his first and I know he wants his family involved. We have already found a venue that is only $1900 and we get $250 back from that for a security deposit. It still sounds expensive, but compared to some other prices… it is very reasonable.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
Third timer :/. Long story short my first husband left me while I pregnant with his 3rd baby after 6 years of marriage. I sort of rebounded with my second husband. He’s sweet and fun and really caring but totally irresponsible! Another 6 year marriage but now we’re better off as friends.
Fast forward to today. Two years with a kind, mature responsible amazing man. I believe in love and marriage and we plan to do it. He’s never been married and wants a small wedding. I’d rather elope, but it’s not just about me. I’m all about keeping it small and tasteful.
Post # 9
Second time here and super excited…
Honestly, I never thought I would want to marry anyone after getting divorced. I was also 22 when I got married….
I had a beautiful but small wedding. No frills kinda bride…
This time… I am going to have the dress of my dreams…shoes of my dreams… I will have everything I want.
I personally…think you should do the same!
Whatever you want …DO IT! Second time be damned! You do you and have whatever kind of wedding, dress, food, and music that you desire.
<3 <3 <3
Post # 10
I believe you can rent on in Vegas so I’m sure that can’t be the only place. Might want to try google.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
courtney487 : You actually can rent a wedding gown. Usually you can’t have alterations, so unless you’re close to a standard size, that might not be the most flattering option.
I am a 2nd timer and I set a $1k budget for my gown as well. I got married at the courthouse at 19, so even though it will be my second marriage, it’s still my first wedding.
I ended up getting a great dress at a consignment shop. It retailed for $2300 new, and I got it as a sample with tags still on for $300
There are lots of pre-owned wedding websites, amd lots of cities have resale wedding stores. I’d check that route; you can sometimes find a brand new or very gently used dress for a huge discount.
Alternatively both David’s Bridal and BHLDN have beautiful new gowns for well under $1000 so that’s an option too. You can still have a beautiful new dress without breaking the bank, if that feels important to you.
Post # 12
This will be the second wedding for both of us. We’ve agreed neither of us want a large, expensive wedding. We want to make sure the focus is on us and our marriage this time around, something small & intimate, not about a big, fancy party.
However, I didn’t love my dress the first time around. I found the whole wedding planning process to be overwhelming and stressful, and I ended up going with the first dress I picked because my mom & grandma loved it and I just wanted to get it over with. I always regretted it, so this time I’m getting my dream dress, on a budget lol. The maximum I’m willing to spend is $800, so I’ve been checking out pre-owned wedding dress sites.
Post # 13
This will be my second engagement when SO proposes, but first marriage. He wants a pretty decently sized wedding but I’d be so happy with a small wedding. We will see what it comes down to. Like you said, the dress will only be worn for a few hours so I don’t want to spend too much on a dress either. Hopefully around 600.
Post # 14
This will be my second time- this is actually my second time on the board. Next time (unless the Mister wants a huge wedding) I am fine with a simple pretty white dress and going to the JOP and a nice honeymoon. My wedding cost $20K the first time and that was too much money for my (now ex) husband to meet someone else, get confused on what he wanted and us end up divorcing.