(Closed) Any Student Brides feeling discouraged?

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Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m right there with you. Ugh. Hopefully other bees have advice for us. And this is because I went back to school to learn Spanish so hopefully it will work out.. sigh.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I just wanted to encourage you and tell you that there are jobs out there! I just got my first full time job though i have been working since i was 16.  Getting a good job isnt easy buf its definitely possible especially for a college grad.  I am still a student, going for my masters in spanish.  I suggest you talk to your schools employment counselor or go to a resume workhop. Universities usually have some resources to help their students find employment after they graduate. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I’m with you, I have graduated from a Bachelor’s degree in Arts, and about to start a Masters in Commerce part time, and hopefully work part time or full time. However finding a stable job is hard! I do have a casual job at the moment, but it is by no means stable, and it varies month to month whether they will need me or not. 

Fiance has a stable full time job, but it pays a miniscule amount, and would barely cover living expenses, with NO extras (dinners out, clothes, presents for family/friends at birthdays & christmas, holidays) And he is hoping to start university next year full time, so would also need to find a part time job.

We are lucky that both sets of parents are paying for the wedding, but at the moment we are both living at home with our parents, and need to move out

Post # 6
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Newbee

I’m going to school part-time right now, and working part-time as well. I worry about my student loans also but I’m confident that I will be able to find a job that pays more than what I have right now. I’m going to go into the next phase of my life with an open mind. Even if it isn’t exactly what I want in a career, if I find a good opportunity I am going to take it. I’ve been at my current job for over 4 years, and I’m hoping that the experience I’ve obtained there has prepared me for a vast array of different fields. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am also in my final semester right now, graduating in May. I am also very nervous that I won’t find a good job. My fiance makes a decent income but it is my responsibility to work to provide insurance. I feel so much pressure to get into something right away. Additionally my fiance lives in a different state so I have to move there as soon as I am done with school and I honestly don’t know anyone. I think it would be easier for me to find a position in my hometown or where I am doing my internship.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@michelledarlenehiggins:  I’m in the same boat you are! Fiance and I both live at home with our parents (ugh!) as we finish college, both done in April. We are getting married in April 2014 so we can, hopefully, have a house. I’m worried I wont be able to find a job as I got my degree in teaching and Michigan has an incredibly competitve teaching job market. I’m really worried that we won’t have good jobs by the time we get married and will struggle to pay the bills. Totally feeling ya!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It really depends what you’re taking. In my situation:

 I’m 23 as of friday. I’m on my second undergrad degree, just started my second term. I have a four year BA in developmental psychology (aka lol you thought you’d get a job with that?), and am now in a BScNursing degree. I am guaranteed a job (or two part times, whatever) when I graduate, which is why I’m back. Fiance has a BSc in bio and is taking a 3 year upgrade for medical lab science. Again, jobs aplenty and specializations are common, so no worries there.

We both have a combined $25,000 in student debt right now. Mine is owed to the government at low interest, most of his to his parents. We’ll come out of these degrees with a combined $45000 if all goes as anticipated. We have $6000 in savings as of the moment, and I have a yearly line of credit. 

Our budget for the wedding is 10k. We’re having it at a resort near our current city, a beach wedding with full dinner service and a dance reception. My parents are paying for about $5000 of it (the cost of the venue and all food and drink), and we’re taking the rest out of the line of credit, including the honeymoon, and paying it as we can.

 

It sucks not knowing where the money’s going to come from, and I really feel for you. Just make sure, if you’re borrowing to fund your wedding, that you have safeguards in place to make sure if you don’t get jobs, you’re not going to be bankrupt. Theoretically I could pay for the rest of our wedding out of our savings and not go into the red on the line of credit, but what if we can’t find jobs this summer? It never hurts to have a back-up plan (or four)!

Post # 12
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Newbee

@michelledarlenehiggins:  I am not ashamed to say that I have cried over them! They are a necessary evil. My SO just about died when I told him, he was in the Navy for several years & has been fortunate enough to have his education provided for by the government. I don’t think he really had any idea how much and how fast education costs accumulated. 

Post # 13
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480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I know how all of you Bees are feeling!! I am currently studying towards a 3 year Bachelor of Teaching (Early Childhood Education) and am starting my second year in March. I left school in 2008, and did a 6month long Certificate in Early Childhood Education From January 2010, through to June 2010, and then had a 6month long break before starting a year long Level 5 Diploma in Early Childhood Education (Pasifika) in February 2011. I origionally intended on doing the certificate and then going on to do my bachelor, but, the place that I did my certificate told us (at my graduation) that they were developing a bachelor of Early Childhood, and that we could cross credit from the Diploma into the seond year of the bachelor. They also told me that they (a small polytechnic) were on good terms with all of the Universities and that we would be able to cross credit everything from the diploma into a University bachelor. Then, while I was in the middle of doing the diploma, they decided to tell us that they weren’t going ahead with the bachelor anymore Frown I then applied to a university and gained entry into their Bachelor of Teaching, BUT, I wasn’t able to cross credit a thing!!!! So, last year, most of the papers I did I had ALREADY done grrr!!! Yell

It also gets to me because everyone I know from school who went to university or studied have already graduated, and are constantly posting pictures of them in their gowns and getting their parchment Frown And, whenever I tell anyone I’m doing my Bachelors they look really confused and exclaim “But you’ve been studying FOREVER” 

I also worry about the job market, and having to compete with so many people. When I first started studying there was a shortage of Qualified Early Childhood Teachers, and the Government put out notices and publications on the benefits of Early Childhood, which made parents send their children to centres. They also were going to make it regulatory for all centres to have at least 80% of their staff fully qualified (at least a Level 7 Diploma) which included all of the cooks, cleaners, administrators etc in this 100 percentile.  And, with that, there was an influx of people going into university to study early childhood. Now, the Government have decided that only 50% of teachers in a centre should be qualified, which means that some centres would rather hire unqualified people because they aren’t required to pay them as much (without being qualified you can get paid about $14-15 an hour, partially qualified teachers/people in my position get $18-$22 an hour, and fully qualified teachers get $25-$35 an hour, depending on the centre or age group they work with, or position) This is super worrying for me Frown Also, after gaining employment, a fully qualified teacher can apply for teacher registration after a year of working in a centre, and which takes 2 years to complete.

Gahhh, I just want to graduate and work NOW! And get married sooner, it feels so far away! 

Also, I’m looking at a loan of about $30,000 Frown

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Not a bride yet but I know our date is going to be when I’m in grad school and grad school is an absolutely REQUIREMENT for my job field and so I know I am feeling discouraged already about that. Also, the amount of student debt that I will aquire.

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