(Closed) Any thoughts on NOT providing favors for wedding guests?

posted 9 years ago in Favors
Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We did not do traditional favors for my wedding in June.  Instead, we donated to two foundations that were near to us and our wedding party.  Two party members have autistic children so we did Autism Speaks and my bro-in-law has MS so we donated to the MS Foundation as well.  I just made little tent cards to put on tables saying that we had donated in honor of our wedding party and guests to the two causes.  There were several people that came up and told me how happy they were that we had donated and my brother-in-law cried when he saw what we had done.  I woudn’t change anything about our decision!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 48
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I honestly had never really thought about favors before I got married – my friends didn’t ever really give favors.  I have to say that I’ve never noticed the lack of favors at a wedding.  

For our wedding, my mom made homemade chocolate truffles.  We put 2 each in a little pink box, and slapped on a monogram sticker.  We mainly did this because my mom makes amazing truffles, plus I love tiny pink boxes & using a monogram sticker.  If none of these things had been true, we would not have had favors. 

Picture courtesy of my bridesmaid ๐Ÿ™‚  In case you can’t see past the massive amount of pink crap at my wedding, I circled it for you.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 49
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Favors are only useful to me if they keep me from buying something or allow me to enjoy something I don’t normally get to.

“Hey, it’s great that the favor was chocolate/small tin of expensive tea bags/high-quality soap/dip/salsa. Now I get to enjoy ___, which is something that adds tastiness or pleasant bathtimes to my life.”

Contrast that with:

“Hey, it’s great the favor was a single wine glass with the bride and groom’s name on it! Now I won’t have to go to IKEA, buy a wine glass, and write the names myself! This totally saved me a trip! I’ve always wanted an odd number of mismatched wine glasses!

or

“Hey, it’s great that the favor was some cheapass Made in China, Dollar Tree tchotchke. There was really a void in my life that I’ve been looking to fill with a ceramic dolphin paperweight/aquarium rocks in a tulle bag/funny-smelling candle that’s white on the inside. This is SO USEFUL! .. Gee, ya think they were just giving us this cause they felt like they had to give something, rather than it’s something they thought people would geniunely enjoy?”

I prefer no favor to either of the last two scenarios. I’m an environmentalist, so if you give me one of those favors, all you are doing is giving me some guilt over adding to a landfill, or giving me guilt for being a bad guest when I accidentally-on-purpose forget to take it home.

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly, I would rather not get favors than to get something I will 1) never use/keep or 2) never eat. Both of these scenarios have happened to us. We’ve had Out of Town friends regift favors (e.g. a succulent) to us because they couldn’t bring it back home (or didn’t want to). We’ve tossed out a number of favors, unfortunately, and others we’ve gifted to Mother-In-Law (e.g. a decorative tea set).

With this in mind, we didn’t do favors specifically. We did charity donations and had a photobooth. We had rave reviews about our photo booth (during and post-event) and a lot of people we know are displaying their photos at home or snap a picture of it to post on FB. As far as I know, no one was offended we didn’t have traditional take-home favors. We also had some positive comments about the charities we chose to support, which are very near and dear to our hearts.

If you must do favors, I would just leave them at a table (versus leaving them at each place setting) and let people take one, if they wish. That way, people who don’t want one (me) can just gracefully bypass the favor table and those that do want one can pick one up.

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why dont you include a candy/cookie buffet and have that be your favors, not only does it make a great late night snack, but it also makes a great favour, many people will only take what they want so you know everyone will get to enjoy it.

Post # 53
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re making a charity donation and I’m going to leave a donation note for all the guests on their place setting, we’re also leaving little envelopes and should the guests wish to contribute they can leave a donation and post it in a vintage mail box. My hubby to be and I have both lost those very dear to us, we wanted to help our local hospice rather than wasting money on gifts that are still left on the table when the guests have gone home

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am NOT doing favors.  Most of the favors I’ve gotten at weddings were pretty disposable and I honestly prefer the couple to skip favors.  One less thing to worry about, one less expense.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

@sablemuse:  Oh, yeah, that birthday party bag was the bomb for little girls! LOL

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You have a lot of people, I think you will be fine without it.

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Here are my wedding cake favour boxes. Aren’t they cute. Theymatch my black and white theme too. Only 80 to fold and pre thread the ribbon onto 29 done now. 

Cake Favour Boxes 2

Cake Favour Boxes

Post # 58
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re not doing “favors” at the wedding but we are making goodie bags that the hotel will give the out of town guests (about 90% of guests are out of town) when they check in. SO kinda like favors, but since they’re not handed out at the wedding, not sure if it counts ๐Ÿ™‚

Haven’t bought the goodies yet, but thinking a local area map, couple water bottles, gum or mints, single packs of tylenol, candy, maybe some other stuff, and a hand written note from us.

Post # 59
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My matron of honor had a card with her menu that said the couple made a donation to a charity in lieu of favors to honor the memory of the groom’s mother who had passed.  You can always do something like that.

Post # 60
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think that favors are a nice little something that you can take away from a wedding. Whether something that you’ll consume in the next 24 hours or somethign that you’re meant to keep for a long time.

Some of the best favors I’ve had:

2 local Seattle carmel and sea salt chocolates in a classy box. It was yummy, small, consumable and since it was a destination wedding for about 75% of the guest, something nice to commemorate their time in Seattle.

The prints from a photobooth with the name of the couple and the dates of the wedding. The photobooth printed double prints- one to post into a guest book for the brides with a little note, and one to take home. We really treasure those pictures of us!

A small photo frame with the note that a donation had been made in my honor to a charity. I got a very small (cheap) photoframe thatI could fill later with a picture to take home, but also the knowledge that the couple was using their resources for good.

Not good favors- random irrelevant dollar store candles, and none, I don’t know- I really want to take home a little something. There have also been many favors that have been in between- no need to mention.

 

Right now we’re thinking that since I’m well-known for liking to bake our favors will be cookie bags with actual home-made cookies from me (I’ll make the dough a couple of days in advance and either bake them or delegate that someone else bake them the day before) with the recipe. Simple, homemade, cheap, and very heartfelt and personal to us. And everyone knows that the most important ingredient in cookies is love!

A nice easy and cheap thing might be to make gift boxes like @adalita and let people know to take home something from your dessert table.

 

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