It’s so nice to see someone else who has decided to have a formal, evening wedding! I enjoy seeing many of the really fun, creative, themed, and more-casual weddings pictured on WB, but, since I had a formal, evening wedding, I’m glad to find someone else who wants one, too! I loved being able to have my bridesmaids, and the mothers, in long gowns, and the groom and groomsmen in black peak-lapel tailcoats and white formal pique vests and bow ties.
One of the first ways that I indicated to my guests that they would be attending a more formal event is by choosing formal, traditionally worded, engraved invitations. I was thrilled when my then-boss, a Senior Vice President, remarked that he had never seen such beautiful wedding invitations. Another coworker’s wife said to him, upon receiving my invitation, “Well, I can tell you one thing, we’re GOING to this!!” I also had coordinating, professionally printed (though not engraved), formal wedding programs. I loved them!
Another touch I employed was hiring a professionally trained, expert calligrapher to hand address all of my outer and inner invitation envelopes as well as my escort cards and the table number cards to be placed inside of the escort cards. Her work was absolutely perfect, to the point where some people actually thought I must have had them printed! And I made sure that all of the invitations were addressed in a formal manner, using guests’ formal, social titles and, whenever possible and applicable, their full (first middle and last) names.
I commented about this earlier today on another post. However, I will comment again here as well. A great reference manual for brides is The Wedding Blue Book: The Official Guide to Wedding Correspondence Etiquette, by Crane & Company. It was very helpful! There is even an online version, available at:
I hope you enjoy planning your wedding as much as I enjoyed planning mine! Best wishes to you and your Fiance on a beautiful wedding and a wonderful life together!