(Closed) Any tips for planning a formal wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You should try to stick to traditional wedding etiquette as closely as you can.  With a less formal wedding you can get away with a little more, but a formal affair requires all the proper etiquette-related details.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

If you’re trying to keep things super formal, I would do a few things:

1) Long bridesmaid dresses

2) Tuxes on all the gentlemen in the wedding party

3) Evening reception (and possibly ceremony, too)

4) Stay with traditional etiquette

If you can give us a few more details about what sort of wedding you’re envisioning (theme, colors, etc.), we can probably give you better tips!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I second greeneyedmoon’s list, especially the attire for the wedding party.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

It’s so nice to see someone else who has decided to have a formal, evening wedding! I enjoy seeing many of the really fun, creative, themed, and more-casual weddings pictured on WB, but, since I had a formal, evening wedding, I’m glad to find someone else who wants one, too! I loved being able to have my bridesmaids, and the mothers, in long gowns, and the groom and groomsmen in black peak-lapel tailcoats and white formal pique vests and bow ties.

One of the first ways that I indicated to my guests that they would be attending a more formal event is by choosing formal, traditionally worded, engraved invitations.  I was thrilled when my then-boss, a Senior Vice President, remarked that he had never seen such beautiful wedding invitations.  Another coworker’s wife said to him, upon receiving my invitation, “Well, I can tell you one thing, we’re GOING to this!!” I also had coordinating, professionally printed (though not engraved), formal wedding programs.  I loved them!

Another touch I employed was hiring a professionally trained, expert calligrapher to hand address all of my outer and inner invitation envelopes as well as my escort cards and the table number cards to be placed inside of the escort cards.  Her work was absolutely perfect, to the point where some people actually thought I must have had them printed! And I made sure that all of the invitations were addressed in a formal manner, using guests’ formal, social titles and, whenever possible and applicable, their full (first middle and last) names. 

I commented about this earlier today on another post. However, I will comment again here as well. A great reference manual for brides is The Wedding Blue Book:  The Official Guide to Wedding Correspondence Etiquette, by Crane & Company.  It was very helpful! There is even an online version, available at:

http://www.crane.com/etiquette/wedding/marriedcouples?RPL

I hope you enjoy planning your wedding as much as I enjoyed planning mine! Best wishes to you and your Fiance on a beautiful wedding and a wonderful life together!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I just went back in the post and found the link you posted.  Beautiful!! (I also used pin-tuck linens similar to those pictured in your link, as well as the alternating, elevated and lower floral arrangements.) Your rose-petal pink, floor-length bridesmaids’ dresses will be lovely! Good choice! 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Umm, don’t invite children! Lol!

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Escort cards get people to their table. Place cards tell them exactly which seat to sit in at their table. We did place cards for our 34 person wedding, and it was a pain getting the seating plan done with just that many people. It was worth it, but depending on how many guests you have, it may not be.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I’ve never been to a formal evening wedding where the food was served buffet style, so are you fully set on that particular service?

I think you’re fine with Black Tie Optional, and escort cards as well.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Formalwear is not conducive to chasing your kid around, and good luck getting the pre-teens and teens to buy into formalwear, too. Kids are fine, but they will definitely reduce the level of formality at your wedding. I also agree that the buffet serving style doesn’t quite fit with a formal wedding. Would you consider serving a plated meal instead?

Post # 16
Bee
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  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

We had ours in a formal venue room too – I second the long gowns, request ‘dress code is formal’ on the invitations, and perhaps something like string music or a pianist? 😉

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