(Closed) Any tips on developing a healthy relationship with food??

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Omg–maintaining is something I can not do. (Just made a post yesterday on the fact that I ate everything in the apartment. I’m excited to see what other bees say!

Post # 5
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Having a personal trainer is awesome…I am hoping I can fit mine back into my budget this new year.  

Have you talked to a nutritionist?  For me, I know what it is that I have to do…but I suck at actually doing it.  I think if I talked to a professional about meal planning, I’d be more likely to actually plan out my meals. 

The other thing is…don’t not eat anything “bad” because you think it’s bad.  Have a little bit.  Or…apparently you burn 1 calorie per push up.  So…have a piece of chocolate but only if you’ve done 50 push ups!  I know it doesn’t equal out, and it’s sort of a bad idea to make food a reward, but it makes you do the push ups…  


Post # 6
4436 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@theEguarantee:  I’m awful at maintaining as well- I just love food! We travel a fair amount and it’s hard to have will power in vacation. Try to not deprive yourself of everything and cheating once in a while is ok! I love dessert, so I’m trying to have a piece of fruit or low fat yogurt after dinner to satisfy my sweet tooth, but it’s so hard to stick to!

Post # 7
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Intuitive Eating. It’s the practice of eating mindfully and creating peace with food. Retraining yourself. I have several books on the subject and there are many more out there. PM me if you want to know more. I am on my crappy phone ATM.:)

Post # 9
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@theEguarantee:  I have the same problem!! I’ve gone to see a nutrionist and this is what she said – it might be things you’ve already heard though. I have a hard time following everything she’s told me but maybe a few of these things will work for you!

Follow the Food Guide (Canadian in my case) regarding servings. Make sure to get at least the minimum of each group each day.

If you’re craving something, eat it. Don’t associate guilt with food because it’s a negative emotion towards food. If you really want that peice of chocolate cake, have a reasonable portion and really savor it. Take the time to taste it. When you have a bite in your mouth, put your fork down and chew it. Once you’re done, you need to say, “ok, I ate that peice of cake, it was delicious.” That’s it that’s all. then you go back to your healthy food options. (Hope it makes sense) She says that if you feel guilty or bad about eating something you really want, you’re more apt to eat more of it than if you acknowledge it and move on.

Healthy snacks to chew on (almonds, grapes, etc.)

I’ve used My Fitness Pal to help keep track of calories which helped me a lot to at least get an idea of where I was going wrong with food.

I also don’t keep junk food in the house – I rarely buy chips, cookies, soft drink. It’s mostly when I’m out that I get into those.

Anyways, hopefully this helps!! I know I want to hire a personal trainer in January and give myself a kick in the butt. Good luck!! 🙂

Post # 10
1311 posts
Bumble bee

I’m also an emotional eater and a chronic overeater – I’m really bad with portions.  The more the better.

I’ve found that when I’m truly happy, I don’t need to eat my feelings.  My SO has been a big help with that.  With his support I feel able to tackle things in a more positive, productive way, so I don’t need to eat stuff to fulfill me. 

When I want to eat my feelings, the urge is STRONG.  I try to tell myself that eating will not actually make me feel better – at least not in the long term.  It certainly won’t solve my problems.  It also helps that for the past few times I ate a ton of unhealthy crap, I noticed that the food wasn’t as tasty as I remembered.  It was nowhere near as good as I’d fantasized – I kind of romanticized the flavours in my head because what I was craving was comfort and emotional support.  So I remind myself of that too.

Post # 11
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I weigh myself every day. I lost 51lbs over two years, with REALLY long plateaus where my weight stayed the same.

The best thing I could do was drink a TON of water, make sure my food was PORTIONED, and weigh myself every day (and record it!) to keep me accountable.

If I went more than 5lbs up, I’d calorie count my way back to my original weight.

Post # 12
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I have a very fast metabolism and I drop weight very VERY quickly even with just a mild change in diet. I have had a lot trouble maintaining in the past.

What works for me is not worrying too much about what I am eating. I let myself have a burger if I want a burger, or a salad is fine too if I want a salad. Keeps me from feeling deprived.

What I focus on is the number of times per day that I eat. I eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day, with two snacks. Works like a charm for me and it is something really easy to stick to and remember. It makes sure that I am eating enough, but not too much, because there is only so much you can fit into three meals without completely stuffing your face each meal.

Another thing that one of my friends who is in process of loosing weight says helps her a lot is chewing more slowly. Sounds stupid, but she says it makes her eat less, but feel like she ate more because she appreciates each bite more.

Post # 13
42 posts
  • Wedding: January 2015

So this might not be a popular reply but it’s the only thing that has ever worked for me. I don’t believe in moderation. At all. I think that if you are like me, the type of person who’s weight goes up and down, who clearly has a weight problem, then moderation will not work. Obviously it is somewhat calories in, calories out, but you should focus on eating genuinely healthy meals, not being hungry, and actually changing your relationship with food, not just counting how many calories you eat each day! But I think different things work for different people, so for people who lost weight and kept it off another way, good for you!

About 9 months ago, I just went cold turkey on my eating habits. I “cold turkey” cut sugar, grains, soda, sweeteners of any and all kinds (including artificial and sugar-free), soy, legumes, unhealthy fats and dairy. It’s called a whole30 (you can google for the website and info about it). After that, I added back in some of the things, including dairy, legumes, soy and some grains. Doing that diet for 30 days totally changed how I felt about food. The diet also encourages eating 3 balanced meals a day, as much food as you want at a meal, but limiting snacks. Every meal should be protein and veggies (including carb-y veg) and healthy fats. You are not supposed to feel hungry, but you are also not supposed to eat to feed anything other than true hunger. (This diet literally makes you put into practice the idea that you’re not truly hungry unless you’d eat steamed broccoli and salmon.)

While that degree of strict dieting isn’t sustainable, what it does is make you realize a) how often you reach for food for a reason other than hunger and b) how when you cut all junk, you generally stop craving junk. I do eat more reasonably now, but haven’t gained any of my weight back. I do notice the minute I treat myself (moderation), I immediately want to eat all of the junk food. I cannot have toast with peanut butter for breakfast, because then all day I want cookies. I need to have eggs, veggies and avocado for breakfast, with black coffee. I also learned what foods make me feel like crud (soy, dairy except yogurt, gluten grains) and which are okay (rice, quinoa, oats, yogurt).

Post # 14
634 posts
Busy bee

@lawyeretta:  This. I am fortunate to not have weight woes, but I was eating a very very nutritionally poor diet, because I ate what I thought tasted good. Since then, I have gotten away from processed food and franchised food, and it has done WONDERS for what flavors I find delicious, as well as foods I find unappealing. If you gave me a choice between a McDonald’s combo and a Hwe dup bap Korean salad with sashimi on top? Baby, there is no choice to make. I know where the delicious is.

Something that also helped me steer my eating to a healthy course is limiting myself to 1 high fructose corn syrup item a day. Not because I have solid evidence that HFCS is the devil, bout because it’s in just about every processed food out there, and I would rather use my ration on a terrible for me but ai don’t care soda. 

Also, take a hard look at the snacks you have available, and throw out anything that doesn’t suit your dietary future. Refuse to buy it, make your man buy the groceries if you think you will be tempted, or make a deal that you will shop the perimeter of the store (produce, dairy, meat, etc) while he covers the shelf stable area. Do still buy snacks! But snack on bite sized fruit, or pickled veggies, or little rolls of deli meat, not corn shaped into a flat triangle with flavor powder on top to make it palpable.

Post # 16
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

This book REALLY put things into perspective for me when it comes to a healthy relationship to food and I have never looked back

How to have your Cake and your Skinny Jeans Too.


It’s a cheesy title but the advice is great.  The short version:  STOP calling foods “bad” and eat in moderation.  It sounds like a million other books out there but read the reviews….something about this book and the way the advice is administered is just better than most.

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