Post # 1
my fiance and i have just started planning our wedding but are already beginning to feel overwhelmed with how stressful and complicated it is, and we are starting to wonder if this big wedding is really "us". neither of us is very fixated on the big day itself. we’re just excited at the prospect of being married to each other and spending the rest of our lives together! we’ve started to discuss the possibility of eloping, just the two of us. we are still early enough in the planning process that we can back out with minimal losses and our families may be a bit disappointed but are mostly understanding that the big wedding isn’t for everyone. given that, my fiance and i are openminded to looking into the possibility of eloping. does anyone have any tips?? ideally, we’d like to be somewhere beachy and tropical like hawaii, although we’d be okay with any destination that would serve as a great honeymoon! i have no idea how elopements work and where to even start researching so please pass along any tips, ideas, or information you might have. thank you!!
Post # 3
My mother recently offered me a $1000 to elope. I almost took it. But then I remembered all of the contracts I have already signed. I suggest running to a few travel agencies and taking as many brochures as you can carry. Once you have picked through the junk and have a clearer idea of what you want, you can start planning. Tips:
- Know you budget.
- Decide if you want all-inclusive or not.
- Do you prefer adults-only?
- Do you want to experience the area’s culture or will you be happy in bed most of the time?
- Need air conditioning or are fine with a net over the bed?
- Are you looking for adventure, like scuba diving or want to spend more time in the spa?
- Ask about wedding services at the resort, they have wedding coordinators who can help you plan.
And that is just to get you started!
Post # 4
I’ve heard that Sandals has an all inclusive wedding package for eloping. Lots of Inns and B&Bs have elopement packages as do places in the Popconos.
If you search for elopement packages online then you can find ones for every state. This way you can elope but still have it be romantic. You can even invite just your parents.
Post # 5
Both sets of parents are paying for the wedding- but they also said we could elope and just have the money for our life together. It was tempting! I think eloping just the two of you is ver very romantic. And if your family wouldn’t be hurt so much the better. IJust remember that if you are planning on having party/reception when you get back the costs and headache can be the same as if you did the whole thing at home.
All the inclusive resorts have wedding packages that make it pretty easy. I have heard though, that if you want to get married in Mexico you have to take a blood test when you get there!
Post # 6
The big thing is the marriage license. (One reason Las Vegas is so popular – no blood test and no waiting period.) You will need to figure out what it takes to get a marriage license wherever you are having the ceremony, and factor in the time to get it plus any waiting period, and make sure you take whatever forms of ID are necessary… plus figure out how the license gets filed after the ceremony and how to get official copies to take home with you – for name change, etc. That information is all available on the internet, so just start surfing!
Post # 7
I have a friend who eloped in Hawaii last year. She found a package deal that included the officiant, photography, flowers, and a place on the beach for the ceremony. Afterwards, the bride and groom had a romantic dinner for two in a cabana… with a wedding cake! (I think it cost about $1000 for everything). Her pictures were gorgeous and it looked so romantic! They looked so happy and unstressed in every photo! Everything turned out perfectly and she highly recommends the experience.
Post # 8
When we eloped, we married at the local courthouse, and then went on a honeymoon right afterward. The paperwork was easy that way.
Post # 9
We were pretty tempted to do that, too… but I think we’re deciding against it. Maybe instead of eloping, just have a small intimate ceremony and take your closest friends and family out to dinner at a great restaurant. That way, you won’t have to worry about DJ costs, centerpieces, a fancy photographer, wedding cake… of course you can still do any of these things, but at a less "wedding" level.
Post # 10
Sandals does something called a "Weddingmoon" — it is worth looking into. We are doing our honeymoon at Sandals, and eventhoug we will already be married it includes the "weddingmoon". The packages are priced per couple, not per person, and right now most packages are 1/2 off with a 7th night free. We ended up paying a total of $3035 for the two of us — all inclusive (including drinks), butler service, room service, and a private pool. The "weddingmoon" packages include the service and some other nice freebies as well.
Post # 11
YAY!!! that’s totally what we are doing!
we’re going to hawaii in august – just the 2 of us – and getting married there… but to also include our family and friends (and to receive the sacrament of marriage) we are going to hve a church wedding and reception on our one year anniversary next august!
PM me if you want my travel agent who hooked me up with hawaii "eloping" specialists!