(Closed) Any Tips? Self Esteem issues and trying on dresses.

posted 7 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Make certain they have real plus sized samples. If you are a 16 in real life, you’ll most likely be a 20-22 in bridal.

Post # 4
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Don’t pay attention to the number-size first of all. I literally tried on from an 18 to a 26 and I am usually a size 20. All of them fit relatively the same.


Think about how much your Fiance loves you. When I tried on a dress that did nothing for me, I just remembered there is someone who loves me so much and would probably tear up seeing me walk down the aisle in a paper bag.


If you can find a place that allows you to wear make up, go for it. It made me feel better to get a little dolled up before going in and trying dresses.


The first time I went shopping, I didnt wear any shapewear, and needless to say, it made me dislike the dresses even more. I could only think about the pudge of my lower stomach shadowing in future wedding pictures….I purchased my dress the day I took in my tummy-slimmer.


And, go for what YOU want. If you feel beautiful, that is what’s important…don’t think you can only try on a certain “type” like aline or empire waist or whatever you thought or read in a magazine….when you love the dress, you will feel beautiful in it.



Post # 5
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@anonymouscabage: That is so true! I’m a size 18 and I tried on dresses that were size 24-26 that were tight in the hips. Its easier said than done, but try not to focus on the dress size and focus on what the dress compliments. That helped me feel better.

Post # 6
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I consider myself super curvy n I’ve had body issues like crazy but what helped me a lot was try not to focus on the size number like other bees said.if the dress fits n u feel amazing in it disregard the size..n have fun remember that your fiance loves you and whatever you wear he will love it..I’m sure you are gonna look faboulous! I tried on a couple of dresses that didn’t fit n made my body look weird n instead of beating myself up I laughed!!! LOL I joked around and had fun..wedding dress shopping should be a wonderful experience:)

Post # 7
2542 posts
Sugar bee

As others have said, don’t let the size on the tag get you down, because in a bridal size you will be bigger than what you normally wear in street clothes. Focus on the fit and how it makes you feel.

Also, try on a lot of styles, even if you think they are hideous on the rack. Sometimes when you get them on, they are amazing and not at all what you thought!

As for the undergarments, I would say shapewear underwear and a good bra, possibly with removable straps if you plan on trying on strapless, one shoulder, or halter style.

I thought I would hate trying on dresses, too, as I am a size 18/20 and have never been comfortable with my weight. However, I’ve actually had a lot of fun trying them on! They are usually very structured so they tend to push in the tummy and push up the boobs! When I put the first one on i was amazed at how much they can flatter!

My last recommendation is also what someone else mentioned, if you’re allowed to by the store, put on a little makeup and style your hair nicely. It will give you a better picture of how the dress will look on your big day!

Post # 8
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am trying to steel myself to try on dresses too, so these tips are very helpful!  Thanks everyone!

Post # 9
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Think about 1 or more parts of your body you DO like then think of 1 or 2 (not 10) parts of your body you don’t want to empahsize and tell your consultant.

If you like your boobies, a v-neck, or sweetheart is nice. If you hate your hips, go for a ball gown.

Post # 10
861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Check out the post “Not afraid to show your curves….” here in full figured.  Look at all of the  women with all sorts of shapes and sizes-don’t they all look beautiful in their wedding dresses?  You will look beautiful too-you’ll see! 

Post # 11
9 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with all of the above posters! I am a street size 22, and I just ordered my dress this weekend. As long as you go to shops that have samples that you can try on, all the self-conciousness goes away, and you just end up amazed at how awesome you look in the dresses! The dress I ordered was actually a size 10 sample, but the consultant was able to actually get it on me so I could see it on my body before I ordered it–she was amazing!! Wear your Spanx, and a strapless bra, and you’ll be fine! My mom thought it was really funny because I couldn’t stop admiring myself! I never have luck shopping, but somehow wedding dresses look awesome on me! If you do some research ahead of time, I am positive you too can have an amazing experience. Let yourself enjoy it!

Post # 12
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I just went for it. If your consultant is worth her salt, you won’t have time to worry about the flaws you think you have, you’ll be too busy being amazed at how you look in the dresses.

Post # 13
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i totally understand how you feel. i was the same way for months until i finally just went shopping. i agree with PP’s. IRL, i’m a size 12/14 and the dress i ordered was an 18. which at first really upset me, but you have to remember that it’s just a number. 

you’re also right to remember Fiance will think you’re gorgeous no matter what. 

as far as tips, i think once you find “the one” nothing else will matter and that’s how you’ll know it’s the dress…you’ll feel beautiful and confident!

Post # 14
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I second or third or whatever the idea to go only to places with sample sizes you can actual try on and wear, not squeeze kind of ish into. Because a dress that could look beautiful in the correct size will look like a sausage casing in a teenie sample size and will just be discouraging. And remember, there IS a dress style that will make you look beautiful on your wedding day. Don’t get set on a style before you go, try on lots of things then move on from there. 

Post # 15
10 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel your pain, I’m a uk18 (us16 I think, on bridal charts anyway?) and my BMs are both size us6. I totally had these issues before going shopping. You will be surprised though how much a good assistant makes all the difference like someone else said. There aren’t really any plus sized shops here but I was in size 10 samples and one shop I went to had extenders for the button dresses in just a plain white material – best invention ever! Needless to say that’s the shop I bought from and I felt amazing in the dress. Seriously it’s not all about who’s skinniest and I realise now that I found my dress that I am going to look amazing and my girls will look lovely but no one can outshine a bride! I have never felt prettier than when I was swishing round the shop in the 4 sizes too small sample of my dress!

I also recommend not obsessing about the size charts (some of them will make you want to cry, seriously!) the dress I bought was a sottero & midgley which seem close to street size (I’m a uk18, bought a uk18) but I was debating between it and another which would have seen me in a size 22!!

You will find the perfect dress, as PPs have said just be open to trying anything and most of all enjoy the experience! You only get to do it once (hopefully) so have FUN!

Post # 16
375 posts
Helper bee

I’m going this weekend for my first round of dress-shopping (expect it to take more than once, especially with 2 years before the wedding) and my big goal for this appointment is just to find out what I like the looks of. 

I’m bringing a couple of friends whose opinions and sense of humor I value but leaving my mother out of this one because I know that she could say the same thing a girlfriend does but it would hurt more (because she’s Mom, you know?). So my advice is to pick your shopping companions wisely.

I also plan to do my hair and make-up before the appointment (it never occurred to me there are salons that prohibit this?! do they make you take your make-up off at the door?) so that the pictures we plan to take will be a good example.

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