Post # 1
Im new to this site, as you can see im not engaged but I have a date in mind. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 and a half years. The date I pray we get married will be June 23, 2012 (our seven yr anniversary). Do you think its bad luck to have a date set with no proposal yet? I know the ring is comming soon end of 2010 or early Jan 2011. Like many other brides I have a binder full of ntes ideas etc. My Boyfriend and I have talked about marriage so he is in agreement with the date. Before anyone asks why we arn’t engaged yet (as many people question us), my boyfriend got laid off a few months back, as a result, the money he saved for my ring and proposal was used for bills and emergency expenses. Believe it or not I wouldnt mind going to the JOP but my boyfriend wants to share our love with our family and friends (which means BIG wedding lol). oh and I am 22, (23 in 2 months) and my boyfriend is 25 still young but I know what I want lol
Congrats to the Engaged Bees
Post # 3
Heck no, I don’t think it’s bad. I had the date picked before we were engaged too 🙂
Post # 4
i don’t think it’s bad luck. and since your bf is in agreement, i don’t see any problems. Just don’t get your heart absolutely set. So many things can happen, even once you are engaged, that force you to move it.
Post # 5
Wow, we must be long lost twins. I too, have been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend for about 5 1/2 years, we have an August 2012 date set (our 7 year anniversary as well, crazy!), and are getting engaged…well I guess that entirely up to him. probably end of the year, or early 2011.
So to answer your question, of course I don’t think it’s weird!
Post # 6
@artlover: Wow!!!! deff long lost twins lol. Ive had so many people tell me i jinx it if i plan ahead 🙁 which i understand things may change situations may come up, but I plan ahead for everything!!! Have you shown your boyfriend rings that you are interested in? Dont you feel a little anxious when people around you who have been together for a shorter amount of time then you get engaged and married? Im excited for them but geeeeez lol i want it to be my turn lol
Post # 7
@retsud: Thank You soo much for the advice 🙂 ive had people tell me what you just said but in a meaner way i guess maybe because im young they feel as if young marriages wont last, statistics show that yong marriages fail (not all) but this is why I pray on our relationship. I say to hell with them lol and most of these people saying to wait are single people GO FIGURE LOL
Post # 8
@kmurley: LOL Thanks 🙂 Congrats on your engagement, how far are you with your planning?
Post # 9
nope, i don’t think it’s bad luck. the mister and i decided on a date in 2012 too even though we’re not formally engaged. it’s good that your boyfriend is in agreement so that should take away any doubt in your mind about it being lucky or not. just go with it!
Post # 10
i say better safe than sorry. try my situation not engaged yet officially but have a june 2011 date…yes about 8 months away. we have been together 3 and a half years and will be 4 years by the wedding . i didnt want a long engagement. if im correct itll be 6 months approx from the timr were engaged til the wedding. ive pretty much planned the majority. to each their own.
Post # 11
I think it’s such a long time ahead that you may get yourself obsessed with the wedding planning and stress on it before you should. But I think it’s good to have a date in mind and a great idea to talk about it so you can start saving the $ for it.
Post # 12
“engaged” means that you have the intent to mrry and you are planning a wedding. You don’t need a ring, but for many of us, that makes it official. We are “engaged” because we have already picked a date, booked a venue, and I have a DIY project list. ^_^
Post # 13
Not bad luck at all! I can’t believe some people have voted for that! As long as you don’t go booking anything or telling people then I think it’s great to have a set date in mind to work towards, I’m not quite engaged yet but we have both decided that spring 2012 would be perfect for us as we graduate next june. It’s only just over 1 1/2 years.
Post # 14
Nope!! I had this date set in my head wayyyy before my Fiance proposed. Like you, we are getting married on our 7 year dating anniversary… Just one week after you!! (How weird is that??)
Fiance and I talked about getting married a lot and I knew that a proposal was coming so I had no problem gathering ideas for our wedding before we were engaged.
Welcome to the bee!
Post # 15
I say once you’re both in agreement with everything go right ahead. Nothing to jinx, the way you describe it you basically decided to get married already at this point the ring is just a technicality. Good luck and welcome to the hive!
Post # 16
To me this comes down to – does he agree?
If you’ve both agreed to get married in June 2012, then to me, you’re engaged. That’s a commitment to get married, and the ring can come later or not at all. It’s a symbol, not the be-all-end-all!