Post # 1
Im new to this site, as you can see im not engaged but I have a date in mind. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 and a half years. The date I pray we get married will be June 23, 2012 (our seven yr anniversary). Do you think its bad luck to have a date set with no proposal yet? I know the ring is comming soon end of 2010 or early Jan 2011. Like many other brides I have a binder full of ntes ideas etc. My Boyfriend and I have talked about marriage so he is in agreement with the date. Before anyone asks why we arn’t engaged yet (as many people question us), my boyfriend got laid off a few months back, as a result, the money he saved for my ring and proposal was used for bills and emergency expenses. Believe it or not I wouldnt mind going to the JOP but my boyfriend wants to share our love with our family and friends (which means BIG wedding lol). oh and I am 22, (23 in 2 months) and my boyfriend is 25 still young but I know what I want lol
Congrats to the Engaged Bees
Post # 3
@Mrs062305: Welcome to the bee!!
“Engaged” means that you have the intent to marry and you are planning a wedding. Just because you don’t have a ring yet, doesn’t mean you aren’t engaged. I am engaged without the ring/proposal but we have already set the date and booked a venue.
Now if you haven’t had the marriage talk and you both aren’t on the same page, then yes, it is a little crazy to be planning when you really don’t know!
Post # 4
Because I am a teacher, I really need to plan our wedding around summer vacation! So although we are not “officially” engaged yet, the proposal is coming sometime this year and I think it’s ok to start planning a little bit. We’ve narrowed down the date to one of two weekends, and are giving ourselves a lot of time to organize and figure out what kind of venue we really want.
I don’t think it’s bad luck at all! If anything, it’s really practical and will hopefully let you book the venue of your dreams 🙂
Post # 5
We just found “the” ring this week and already have a bunch of the details for the wedding picked out. We’ve known for the last three years that we’re going to get married so we already kind of feel engaged. Just have to make it official!
Post # 6
Just wanted to pop in and say that my now-husband and I set a date for June 2010 in the winter of 2009, but we didn’t get engaged until August 2010. We had some of our vendors and I had tried on dresses already, but he just hadn’t gotten the ring (we were fresh out of college and broke). I still had a surprise proposal that was very romantic and special, and we are now happily married, so no, I don’t think it is bad luck 🙂
Post # 7
Me me me!
Boyfriend or Best Friend has talked of a spring/summer 2012 wedding, and an engagement this coming spring/summer. 6/9/12 is such an appealing number to me…I’m such a geek!
As to the bad luck thing…I’ve resisted posting on weddingbee for fear of having it cosmically backfire, but hopefully that won’t happen!
Post # 8
When we had been dating for 3 years and started talk of marriage, I had set my date for 10/1/10. Well, the proposal didn’t happen until 10/23/10, and for me, prematurely setting a date brought on a lot of anxiety and unnecessary pressure for my then Boyfriend or Best Friend (when are you going to do it already??!). We’ve set our date for 2012, and it’s nice to have time to plan and enjoy the engagement.
Post # 9
So glad im not alone..not engaged, but planning a wedding….how do you gals remain calm..like not getting overly impatient?
Post # 10
@Miss Tattoo: So glad im not the only woman in the world with a date and venue and not engaged…i have been feeling overwhelmed with emotions because of that ya know? How do you deal with it?
Post # 11
My first post! Ring is still being paid off, but have a June 30, 2012 date. My grandparent’s 72nd anniversary, and the reception is in the same room my grandparents 50th anniversary party was held. The reception is the same day of the week the anniversary party was held on. Saturday, June 30, 1990 and Saturday, June 30, 2012.