Any Wedding Day Regrets?? Poll

posted 6 months ago in Logistics
  • poll: I would change...
    Different vendors : (14 votes)
    11 %
    Different Dress : (8 votes)
    6 %
    Change guest list (add or remove some people) : (18 votes)
    14 %
    I would have told myself to relax and enjoy the day more! : (18 votes)
    14 %
    Different wedding location : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Money! Smaller or Bigger Budget : (13 votes)
    10 %
    Different or no bridal party : (8 votes)
    6 %
    Other (feel free to explain!) : (11 votes)
    9 %
    Nothing! I loved my wedding : (34 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 16
    1145 posts
    Bumble bee

    I wish we would have gone with an all-inclusive venue. Dealing with decorations, ordering table clothes, etc. was a nightmare. And I think we actually spent more on decor than we would have at an all-inclusive venue. 

    Post # 17
    152 posts
    Blushing bee

    I wouldn’t have waited until the day before to draft my shot list for photographs.  We got a lot of great pictures but there were a couple of really important ones that I didn’t get because they just slipped my mind.  I wish I had been a lot more thorough about making sure everything I really wanted was on that list.

    Post # 18
    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    justanormalgal :  [comment moderated for TOS violation]

    I made it clear in my post that I did not expect them to make it a priority and by “doing something” I meant buying a dress which you stated is all they are supposed to do , It’s not wrong to be stressed since I can’t get them to do the one thing they are supposed to do, which is buy a dress… [moderated]..never ONCE did I mention asking any of them for money OR help with planning my wedding ….if anything I’m trying to reach out to them to see if they need MY help with anything! By saying “one has backed out and one is pregnant” that means I would have been better off without any  bridesmaids because now it looks like I might not have any, and I could have saved myself the added stress, I’m not attacking them for their choices…….


    Post # 19
    1210 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    First wedding: I picked “different dress,” “smaller budget,” and definitely “relax and enjoy the day more.” I also would have done more research and gone with a different photograper, I paid way too much for subpar work, which is even more evident with the photographer we have now — 1/3 of the cost and her work is amazing. Her personality is great and doing our engagement shoot felt like we were hanging out with a long-time friend. Our comfort level definitely came through in the pictures. Live and learn.

    This time around, I don’t anticipate having any regrets, but I guess I won’t know for sure until it’s over. I definitely learned a lot from planning my first wedding, so I know exactly what I DON’T want (and what just wasn’t worth it) this time around.

    Post # 20
    923 posts
    Busy bee

    I would’ve double checked my hair before leaving the dressing room – I had a crazy strand that was out of place. It eventually settled down, but you can see it in the pics where I’m walking down the aisle. 

    I would’ve asked the photog to do at least one pic of me and Darling Husband with all our kids. We didn’t do any posed pics, but I would’ve liked that one to be done. 

    I would’ve tried harder to convince Darling Husband let the DJ (his friend) in on the fact that we were getting married, so music cues could’ve been more seamless. 

    I wouldve double checked our officiant’s pronounciation of my parents’ names 😂

    Everything else that “went wrong” was unforeseeable and we laugh about them now. 

    Post # 21
    1246 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I regret doing my own hair. It looked fine when I did it but it was a humid day and my curls fell out almost immediately.

    Post # 22
    6155 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    LadyNyx :  Generally, our wedding felt perfect and I loved it. The only two things I would change:

    1- We missed getting a picture with my husband’s uncle so he isn’t in our wedding photos.

    2- I have a long time friend (and her mom and sister) who I lose contact with for years and then regain contact. We’ve done this pattern for 3 decades and it’s for no reason other than than we both have full busy lives and aren’t great at keeping in touch. By the time we got to the wedding/invites going out, I was completely burned out- we bought a house and moved and I was working full time and wedding planning all within about 5 months. Tracking her down and getting their addresses just felt insurmountable in those last weeks. I think I reached out and then didn’t hear back to follow up and just let it go so they weren’t there. I still wish I’d just pushed through and gotten their invites out. It would have been really sweet to have them there.

    Post # 23
    9629 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    Please keep this discussion respectful ladies!

    Post # 25
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

    I ended up being sick on my wedding day 🙁 I wish I would have just sucked it up and did more photos of just the two of us and I wish I had gotten some more family photos. 

    Post # 28
    10 posts
    • Wedding: May 2018

    This isn’t a regret about the actual wedding day, but more about leading up to the wedding day…

    I regret not taking better care of myself in the weeks leading up to our wedding. I was non-stop planning, and not getting enough sleep because I would stay up late pretty much every night, and I also had a full-time job. I was going to the gym and pushing myself way too hard because I didn’t want to look fat on my big day, and I was restricting my food for the same reason.

    Stress + not getting enough sleep + not eating the right foods resulted in me waking up on the wedding day feeling like absolute garbage. I had developed a cold or sinus infection of some sort, so my sinuses were all clogged, and I had almost lost my voice (I sounded like a raspy teenage boy when reciting my vows to my husband). When my bridesmaids and I were getting ready, I broke down in front of them and started crying. I was just so frustrated that I had put all this time and energy into planning the wedding, and the one thing that went wrong is that I felt like death.

    But I ended up powering through it – I kept telling myself I would regret leaving the reception early or not dancing to the band or not saying hello to everyone. Everyone told me leading up to the wedding that I needed to be prepared for something to go wrong on the big day. I just didn’t realize it would be my health.

    I’m able to laugh about it now – there is one funny story I like to tell people. When I was reciting my vows, I began to tear up and start crying. Well, that opened the sinus floodgates and snot cam pouring right out of my nose in front of my husband! I quickly covered it up with tissues, so I don’t think anyone but my husband and our officiant noticed, thank goodness!


    Post # 30
    2357 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I did not get all the photos I wanted even though I told my photographer. So I missed an important shot of me with my aunts and me with my stepfather. There is only one picture of me and my stepfather and its blurry as hell. Its truly upsetting.

    The other issue is I wish I had gotten long sleeves. My sleeves were ugly, cap sleeves. Everyone said no dont get long sleeves you will be hot. In the end my sleeves were just what I DIDNT want. I also wish I had chosen a v neck instead of a heartshape neck for my dress. 

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