(Closed) Any wives whose husbands are gone for long periods of time?

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 2
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342 posts
Helper bee

With my ex, either he was deployed or I was deployed for the majority of our relationship. Very stressful at times, obviously, with very little contact.  It was very easy to become complacent and be taken, which is comforting, without putting in the effort.  So, I will be in the advice column saying that the distance isn’t going to be that bad as long as you continue to put in the effort. Make your emails count, say all the things that you are thinking, even if it sounds silly.  Both of you will be better for it.

Post # 3
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780 posts
Busy bee

I am fiercely independent so when my husband leaves for business it’s almost relieving. I don’t have to worry about being home to cook or clean the house. I can find someone to pop in and care for the dogs and take off for a few days to see friends or family.  It’s nice to not have anyone relying on me or expecting to see me. Not to say I don’t miss him when he’s gone,  but I really appreciate having a couple weeks at a time to just me. 

Advice: spend a lot of time around friends, enjoying hobbies; all the fun stuff you like to do on your own. Try to make it as positive an experience as you can. 

Post # 4
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4233 posts
Honey bee

 

Yes.

It is what it is. Focus on quality of life and quality time. Quantity time is great, dont get me wrong, but I’ll take quality over quantity, any day.

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Post # 5
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband is currently deployed and won’t be home for a few more months. Spend time with family and friends if you can, it definitely helps. We don’t have children yet so I think it makes it easier for me since I’m only taking care of myself. If you don’t work, maybe a new hobby or volunteering might keep you busy. 

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