(Closed) Any Women with Much Older Fiances/Husbands?

posted 6 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

I’m 31 he’s 42 :). I’m like you in the older wise provider thing. I also feel like women mature emotionally faster than men. I just love him for who he is so age didnt matter.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ve always liked older guys. I’m 25 and he is 32!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Well, I like older men–I haven’t seriously dated someone less than 10 years older than me in over a dozen years, but I guess it’s got more to do with the fact I find them more self-aware, secure in themselves and know who they are and to be frank, better in bed. I don’t need a provider. I’ve been providing for myself since I was 18 just fine. I ‘m in my 30s, Fiance turns 50 in the spring. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

My husband is 10 years older than me.  I decided a long time ago that I wanted to marry a man that was older than me.  I looked around at the guys my age, driving their raggity hoopties, living with their parents, and broke and decided that I wanted a man that was old enough to have his life together and know what he wants.  I think it is great when people want to struggle together but I wanted a man that that had already done his struggling and could offer me a comfortable life.  I am glad I thought that way because I love the way life turned out.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

@Bunny_the_Bride:  I agree in the previous generations and how they were raised. My Fiance was raised by a single mother and her parents. He was particularly influenced by his grandfather who faught in WWII. He is very chivalrous, and wants to be a provider. He pushes me to be the best me, and be happy. He is also always there for me when I’m not at my best healthwise. He’s taken on the role of a step father easily and amazingly. All of this can be attributed to how he was raised. I’ve dated guys my age in the past and maybe it was just bad luck/bad choices by me but none of them handled my health situation well let alone other things. There is something to be said about well raised men particularly one with a couple of years on you they mature like a fine wine. The bad eggs however they become bad vinegar if they’re lucky.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Not quite the age difference that you have, but we’re about 8 years apart. My grandparents were also 8 years apart and were “like swans” as my mom always put it. I didn’t really think too much of it and initially my mom mostly was a little judgmental about it, but everyone shut up pretty quick when they met him and saw us together. 😉

One of my friends likes MUCH older men and she and I joked before saying that even though we’re 21 we’d feel like we were robbing the cradle if we dated someone under 25 (as the minimum). =P

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsFuzzyFace:  I agree about the comfortable life. I’m in the struggle stage right now trying to get my life together – its nice having someone who has experienced it there to support me and be a rock to me. Not that there is anything wrong with going through struggles together, but I get what you mean.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

My husband is just four days shy of being 18 years older than me.  I joke that he is old enough to be my father!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m 32 and he’s almost 50. I neither looked for or tried to avoid someone that much older than me. We were friends first, and tbh I didn’t even know how old he was until we started dating! I was drawn to who he is, and the age thing is just how it is.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am 37 and my Fiance is 51. I don’t think anyone even notices, because he looks younger and I look older (wonderful). My only concern is the idea of maybe having extra years of widowhood, but I choose to love this person and will accept the hand I’m dealt. 

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