(Closed) Any young brides? 18-25?

posted 9 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 77
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Busy bee

We’re also not officially engaged yet, but according to my SO it’s coming this year, and if it’s when I think it is, he’ll be 25 and I’ll be almost 24.  My parents love him, but they’re very firm about me finishing law school first (they were originally concerned about SO taking on a lot of debt for when he goes to law school this fall, but he just knocked the lsat out of the park so he’ll probably be getting a nice fat scholarship :)).  But we won’t actually get married until we graduate, so I think they’ll warm up to the idea since they like him so much.  What I’m most concerned about though is how young we look.  We both have baby faces and we’re short, we both still get carded everywhere we go, even for R rated movies!!  One time we went to stay at a beach condo for my birthday and as he was checking in I heard the lady behind the desk say to her coworker really loudly “make sure you look at their IDs, they look WAY too young to be staying here!”  It really pissed us off!  So we’ll probably get tons of mean comments like that from strangers :(.

Post # 78
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i was 19 when i got engaged. will be 20 when getting married. he is 24. we didnt really have a date that we starting dating, just kinda happened. so excited getting married in june. my parents, espically my mom LOVES him. dad is okay with it, suprisingly. ha. his parents and family are VERY supportive.

Post # 79
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m happy to see that there are other young brides like me, although in my family, I’m on the older side at 22! My mom, future sister in law, future mother in law, and grandparents were all married at 20 or younger, I believe. I’ll be 8 days away from 23 when we’re married.

I’ve always felt like our situation was one that needed a little explaining since we are somewhat young and still in college:

We’ve been together coming up on three years, living together for coming on two years.

Living together is a HUGE no-no in my FI’s family, so we’ve been facing a lot of pressure from people who don’t even realize that they’re putting it on. We’ve always felt the same about eachother, married or not married, so living together was never a big deal to us. At the same time though, we grew tired of all the BS that came with not being married. We were starting to get impatient with a long engagement anyway, so we moved the date up 6 months.

My Fiance, who is 20 (21 when we get married) has always been the most mature guy I know, even though he’s a little younger than me. We’ve been best friends since he was 16 and I was 18, then started dating later.  He’s a smart guy, so he skipped two grades in school, then skipped another year in college with extra credits. He now has this amazing co-op job at an engineering firm.

Because of this wonderful job, we’re financially able to put him through the remainder of college and probably pay off some of my student loans.  In the history of our time together, nobody has ever thought he was two years younger than me. Everybody assumes that he’s just a young looking 25 year old.

His job really does make this marriage possible right now. We’re are frugal, we’ve both been living away from our parents for years (he has longer than I have because he went away to a high school for math and science when he was 16), and we know how to handle our stuff.

So with ALL that said, the only people who have questioned our marriage are the people who don’t know all that about us. 

Novel, but I’m sure some of you guys are used to defending your chocies too sometimes.

 

Post # 80
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

i’m 19, just turned 19 when my fiance asked me to marry him…but he’s also 25. we are six years apart, my dad never knew until i told him a little later. he was shocked at first, but my parents are really care-free so they didnt seem to mind. my mom got married when she was 19, so getting married young is nothing new in my family.

Post # 81
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My fiance and I are both 23 and will be 25 when we get married…both of our families could not be happier!

Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m 21 hes 24, we got engaged on christmas eve everybody knew except me literally everybody knew. We will be getting married this August and I will be 22 and him 25, I’ve had a few comments on the fact that I’m stupid for wanting to get married so young but none from our immediate family. I knew from the beginning that we were going to get married. We started dating when I was 19. We wanted to get married young because we want to start a family right away and we want to be young parents. He’s my soulmate and I’m glad I met him at such a young age. I’m just lucky I guess.

Post # 83
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m 24 but was 23 when he proposed. My Fiance is 28 (27 when he proposed). We’ve lived together for the last 3.5 years, moved across the country with one another, and traveled Asia for 6 months. Considering all our experiences together, I feel that age doesn’t really matter. I also don’t feel that young these days.

Post # 84
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We got engaged at 22 and will be married when we are 24. We have been together since we were 19 (knew eachother since 18 and started officially dating a month after bdays in Sept), and have now lived together for two years.

 Our families were very hesitant to allow us to move in together, however now they are more than excited that we are getting married. I don’t think the age is as important honestly. If you have been together, are dedicated to eachother, and are able/want to take the next step I don’t think age should stop you.

 

I also was engaged once before, at 18, and my parents were…less than supportive. I moved out of the house at 18, had been with my boyfriend for two years, and moved with him and his parents. Quickly thereafter he became physically and emotionally abusive however I felt like I loved him and couldn’t tell anyone. When he proposed I said yes, not knowing what else to do and afraid that I would be beaten if I said no. That fall i went to college an hour away and realized just how out of control my relationship was and how I now had a great opportunity to escape. I met my now Fiance and couldn’t believe how much different he was- but was adament that we just stay friends. After a few months of us being friends, me driving to visit my exFI every weekend and dealing with that crappy relationship, I broke things off. MY now Fiance and I remained friends for another few weeks before starting dating. We took things realllllly slow because I was so…damaged.

 

Anyways, looking back I think getting engaged (under ANY circumstances) at 18 is too young becuase you haven’t really experienced life or discovered who you really are yet.

 

 

 

Post # 85
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m 21 and he’s 19, but he will be 20 when we get married. My parents were all for it since they both were married at 18; his parents were against it for a bit, but are now fully on board. 🙂 My Fiance is a really hard worker and is very responsible, which made it easier for my parents to agree to us getting married; and my dad is actually pretty close with him. We will be together for a little over 2 years when we get married.

Post # 86
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Double post! 

Post # 87
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m 20 and my husband to be is 21. We’ll be 23 and 24 when we marry so I’ll still be a young bride! We’ll have been together 5 years when we get married! xx

Post # 88
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am 22 and he is 23 (as of yesterday), we will both be 24 when we get married. Our families were very happy/supportive…both sides were there when he suprised me and asked me to marry him.

My friends are happy for me but I am the first to get married. I did get …”we never thought you would be first”. And I still get “but your so young”, from people I am not as close to but I guess that is a common theme with young brides…. MY Fiance and i are both ecstatic and thats what matters 🙂

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

MY Fiance and I will both be 25 by our August wedding =) Culturally, our ages were pretty much accepted. I was 23 when I got engaged on my FIs bday

Post # 90
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Newbee

When we got engaged, I was 20 and he was 25. When we marry, I’ll be 21 and he’ll be 25 (almost 26). My family thought it was about time. Fiance and I will only have been dating for 1.5 years when we get married (short engagement) but all the women in my family married very young. My grandma was 18, my mom was 18, my oldest sister was 20 (almost 21), my next sister was 19 and my sister-in-law was 19. I think his family thinks we are too young though and that he should finish school first. But age has never really been a factor!

Post # 91
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was 23 when he proposed, will be 25 when we marry. Everyone was super happy, they LOVE my FI! But I think my mom is scared i’m going to “get everything started too early” and have kids right away after we get married… (she’s a career gal)

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