(Closed) Any young brides? 25 and under?

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 137
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m 25 now. Will be 26 at the time of the wedding.  My fi is 29 and we have been together almost 6 years so we don’t get any looks.  Our colors are blush and gold.

Post # 138
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m 23 and no one has said a word about how young I am. I’ve finished both college and grad school, so people just sort of assume I have it together. I know people my age who have been told that they’re “too young” but I really don’t understand what the cutoff for ‘old enough’ is.

Post # 139
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@future_mrs_taylor:  23! Getting married on January 18th 2014. Overall my reactions have been good. My family is excited and his seems fine with it.. they arent exactly the !!!! family.. like mine is. More just “…okay..blah” about everything. My coworkers and his are all excited for us. His were telling him to put a ring on it since day 1 ahaha Friends all are happy for us but some found it to be weird and early in life.

We get our “crap talk” from strangers mostly or distant coworkers/acquaintences. I thought I would freak if anyone said anything negative but really ive just been humored by it so far. 

 

In the end, you’re happy. Stay happy and let everyone else roll off your back. Try and find amusement in their meddling instead of annoyance.

 

Best of luck! xoxo

Post # 140
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I was 19 when I got engaged in 2011 (my fiance is 8 years older than me) however by the time we get married, we would have been engaged for 3 years and I’ll be 22. Of course I got the “You’re so young!” and the “Are you sure he is the one?” and my favorite “Dont you want to live a little?”

At the age of 19 I was very mature and ahead of others that were my age. I was a semester away from finishing college and had a full time job, owned a car, and was mere months away from putting a down payment on a house, and that was all by myself. My fiance and I chose to have a long engagement not because of my age, but moreso for me to get better established in my career and to let our finances stabilize after the purchase of our home πŸ™‚ Im also very fortunate to have an understanding fiance who has given me my independance and have let me grow on my own. He lets me go out with my friends and do what I want, of course within reason. He often encourages me to go out and do more, but I just dont want to. I have my responsibilities at home so for me, acting like your typical 21 year old just isnt me.

At the age of 22 I feel as though I will be ready to be a “wife” .. besdies, I’ve already been playing the “wife” role since I was 19 (mortgage, bills, housework) so the saying “I do” part wont be a problem.

My fiance and I have been together for 4 years and we have literally been through hell and back. Health scares, personal crisis, financial setbacks, and everything else in between. My biggest pet peeve is when people ask me “What is the rush?”

What is the rush? No rush. I have finished school, I have a job, I own a home, and I have been in a long and committed relationship for 4 years. What is the next step in my life to take? Marriage, naturally.

Sometimes though, I feel that there are some people who get “engaged” just for fun. They dont realize the seriousness of taking that next step! Some people think its just all about the bling. Those people tend to be the ones from 18-21 and unfortunately, it is because of those instances where girls who are acutally real and pure about their intentions (such as myself) are often looked down upon and judged… but of course, thats just in my personal experience πŸ™‚

Congrats to all young brides! Best of luck and happy planning πŸ™‚

Post # 141
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Started dating at 19, 23 when we got engaged, and married at 24. Lots of people told me I was young (he’s six years my senior), but I shrugged it off! πŸ™‚ I know me. 

We went with navy blue, deep coral, goldenrod.

 

 

 

Post # 142
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Highfield House, Stanley, Tasmania

I may just be the youngest here, I will be 18 by the time I get married πŸ™‚

Post # 143
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I will be 24 at the end of this month, so 23 at the time of engagement and 25 by the wedding. Although I am frequently mistaken for a teenager.  In fact, when a friend at work noticed my engagement ring for the first time, a UPS worker overheard the conversation and exclaimed, “Married?!  You don’t look old enough to DRINK… MILK!!!”

 

On the other hand, my grandmother used to always tell me that before she got married at 19, she was worried that she was going to be an old maid because all of her friends were already married and having babies.

Post # 144
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My fiance and I are both 22. He’ll be 23 when we get married. We’ve had a very long engagement. We’ve been engaged since we were 18. πŸ™‚

Post # 145
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was 16 when we got together (him 19), 17 when we moved in (him 20), engaged at 20 (him 23) and married at 21 (him 24). The girls wore baby blue. My life began that day πŸ™‚

Post # 146
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I got engaged at 24 and married at 25 and will be a first time mommy at 26. I LOVE being married!!! Our wedding colors were gold & lavender πŸ™‚

Post # 147
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Sugar bee

I was married at 25. 

We’re still married.

We’re still romantic.

We’re still in love.

We’ve been married over 26 years.

 

Post # 147
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Newbee

Well 19 and 25 are a HUGE difference, especially in maturity and life experience. Even 19 and 22. Its the same as trying to explain to a 14 year old that they really arent as adult as they think they are. There is a reason why brides 24 and older have more concerns and hesitations in getting married, because they have maturity and insight that just isnt there so early on in age.

Plus statistics on divorce show its the couples who get married later in their 20’s and have been dating longer than 2 years that are much much less likely to divorce.

Theres a lot of life expriernce that someone not in their mid 20s yet hasnt exprienced

Post # 148
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

this post is two years old. 

We aren’t seriously dragging up this debate again, are we? 

 

Post # 149
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think it’s a bit different for everyone.  I’m quite amazed at how accomplished some of the younger women are on here, seeing as where I’m from, at 22 (my age) you are generally just finished university now and starting your careers and starting to build your lives.  It’s interesting to see a lot of younger bee’s have great careers, degrees, owning their own homes (brought on their own, not with their FI), have travelled and pretty much done a lot more than me in my 22 years hahaha.

I definately agree there is a huge growth in maturity between the ages of 18 – 25.  Some people develop a little faster and earlier than others, and some take a little longer which is fine.  My partner asked me to marry him at 18 (after dating for 4 years), and while I said yes – it was a yes for the future, not for right then.  I knew we needed to be able to stand strong independently and be confident in our own decisions and beliefs.  It is a little selfish, but I think your early adult years is your time to think about your career, your dreams, the things YOU want to accomplish.  A lot of the time these dreams and things you want to accomplish align with your partner anyways, and you end up with bigger and more dreams than you have time for haha.

Post # 150
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement

Me! I just turned 22 in September, and my fiance is 24. People always say that we’re quite young, but nobody has really said it in a negative way…yet. I’m sure there’ll be someone like that eventually. There is nobody else in the world I want to spend the rest of my life with. Marriage is the next step forward in our journey together.

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