(Closed) Any young brides? 25 and under?

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 77
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We were both 25 when we got engaged. I will be 26 and he will be 27 when we get married. We look young for our age but we don’t let it get to us. We are still mulling over our color theme. 

Post # 78
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was 24 and Hubby was 25 when we married, we still will get some comments about beeing really young and married… mostly because we (okay, mostly me) look several years younger than we are. To be quite honest we get more of a reaction, even now neaIrly four years later, over how quickly we became engaged (4 days from first face-to-face meeting to him proposing).

In both families, most of us married young. All 5 sets of grandparents were in their late teens/early 20’s most married just prior to deployment or joining the army or navy. Both sets of parents were in their early 20’s (my biological parents were 20, his mom was 24). And with the exception of my older brother who was 30, my younger brother who is a Catholic deacon and will be ordained a priest next year, and my youngest sister who may never marry, most of us have married by the time we were 24.

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am 24 , Fiance is 29, we’ve been together for 7 years and my family has been encouraging marriage for about the last 5. We’re doing a rustic outdoor wedding at his dads ranch and I am paying for the majority of everything while there are some volunteer tasks taking place.

Post # 80
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My FH and I met when we were 12, started dating at 16, got engaged at 21 and now I’m 23 and he will be 24 when we get married in September! Sometimes you get lucky and grow up together in the same direction! Not that it wasn’t difficult at times but I’m truly marrying my best friend! 

Post # 82
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was 22 when we got engaged and will have just turned 24 when we get married.  Fiance was 25 and will be 26, about to turn 27.  (wow I feel like we are getting old!!).  Luckily, we didn’t get comments about being young; our families were super excited and our friends are very supportive.  Although Fiance did mention it once; it was like he suddenly remembered my age, and he goes, wait, are you worried about being too young to get married? I was like ummm no. 🙂  I really don’t consider myself a “young” bride.

Our colors are maroon and gold.  We have no real theme, but we are getting married surrounded by redwood trees (which I love – have one tattood down my spine!) so trees will be incorporated in several ways (fingerprint tree guestbook, trees painted on the favor boxes, tree slice table numbers, etc)

Post # 83
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was 24 when we got engaged and will be 2 weeks short of 26 when we get married. No one made any comments but my family agreed it was a good idea to have a long engagement (19 months.) At the time that we got engaged I knew that I needed a little time to grow into the shoes of a bride, and now I’m so glad we waited because I feel totally ready and eager for the next step.

It wasn’t about being sure of my Fiance, but more about being mentally and emotionally ready to be a good wife. I feel like the engagement process has been sort of like me going into a cocoon to come out a butterfly. I have become much more modest and distanced myself from social media and the need to compete through fashion, photography and witty statuses. For the first time ever I’ve learned to completely and thoroughly reject the guys who hit on me, be open and transparent about all of my relationships and tell my Fiance about anyone who crosses the line or makes me uncomfortable (I learned the hard way how letting these things slide can backfire in your face.) I’ve also learned to trust someone beyond all measure, and to be at peace not having to second guess his motives behind every little thing. He’s not perfect, and he still tells white lies or says he’s just stopping by his friend’s place to say hello and then stays for the whole basketball game, but it doesn’t hatch venemous snake eggs of doubt in my brain.

I think when you are mentally and emotionally ready for marriage, age really isn’t an issue. Unfortunately it seems that a lot of girls 25 and under are not mentally and emotionally ready and marriage is still very much a fantasy role that they are playing out, similar to playing “house” as a child. If you don’t have time to reconcile that role with the real thing, you will be in for a big shock when suddenly your imagination is no longer the limit.

Post # 84
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

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@CatyLady:  Thanks. 

Post # 85
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68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m 21 and will be when we’re married, I’m heading into the second year old my masters program so no one ever believes my age. Fiance is 22 and working full time and will finish his last 1.5 years of school when I graduate. Our colors are classic black and white. 

Post # 86
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Fiance is 23 and I am 22. We will be 24/5 and 23/4 when we get married. All the reactions from our families and friends have been variants of “congratulations” and “finally!!” since we’ve been dating for 3 1/2 years and living together for 1 1/2 years.

I am nervous about the age judgement thing though because I start a new job Monday at an engineering firm which has all guys that are 30+

 

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@springbride23:  Love your colors!

I was 22 when I got married and nobody was too surprised. I graduated high school a year early and already had my BS when I was 21. To me, age is only a number. 

Our theme was Elegant Country Spring and our colors were blue, white/ivory, with pops of yellow. Check out my recap!

Post # 88
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255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

20! Will be 21 in July and married in September! Would have been married THIS month, but wanted to be legal to enjoy our all inclusive honeymoon. 😉

Post # 89
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m 19, getting married in three weeks. I was 18 when we got engaged. I definitely get looks and comments from people all of the time, but I have begun to learn that no matter what you do, someone is going to have something negative to say! You have to do what makes you happy.

 

My colors are lavender and lime.

Post # 90
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m 25 and getting married in 7 weeks, and I’ve not gotten a single look or comment about being engaged. However, I think that for a LOT of people 25 is the “magic” number. Like, once you’re 25 you’re suddenly mature and wise and have lived long enough to know what you want and don’t want. I say this because my cousin, who just got married at 24 (engaged at 23) got several comments about “maybe waiting another year”, but from those same relatives I got nothing but well-wishes. I was almost 25 when I got engaged and my cousin had just freshly turned 23 when she got engaged, and the comment had been made when she was 23. (Just as a comparison of how “age” an really effect people’s opinions. I am only 1 1/2 years older than my cousin, and we got engaged 3 months apart.)

Honestly, I think there is a significant difference in peoples’ opinions when it comes to someone 19 (just using the OP’s age as an example) and someone who is 25. While a 25 year old is still a “young” person, there are significantly less people who think 25 is “too” young in relation to a 19 year old. However, I don’t think other’s opinions matter. It doesn’t matter if anyone else thinks your relationship is going to last or end in divorce… it either will or won’t, and their thoughts aren’t going to change that. (So Ha! lol)

As for my “theme”, we don’t have one! My colors are Plum, Silver, and Black and things are coming together beautifully! Just finalized my flowers and cannot wait to see everything together.

Post # 91
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I got engaged at 21, married four days after turning 22!

My family (extended) has no idea how old I am (I work full-time, and they seem to think I’m 25 or so. I have no idea why…)

I got some funny looks from the parents in my classroom (I work in early education), but I always made a joke about “I’m not that young! I have a bachelor’s degree. I’m sure I look like a BABY to you guys, though!” Since they’re mostly in their 40s.

 

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