(Closed) any young brides find vendors not taking them seriously?? any advice to give?

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 16
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Oh man, what you guys say about the planning early stuff… I spoke to my reception venue and ceremony venue back in like… September/October. The reception venue let me pay in full and book right then and there (minus catering of course)… but the ceremony venue said “ok”… so I was like “soooo can I pay now?” and they were like “naaahhhh… call back in December to confirm stuff”. So I called back in December and left a voicemail… They called me back all panicked because apparently they didn’t write it down at all and the guy who usually marries people at that church has his vacation booked for our wedding week! So some other guy is doing it now… and even then I was like “ok so how about money and the recital and stuff” and they were like “ehhh… call back in March”… 

I don’t know if that’s specifically because of me being younger though, pretty sure it’s just how they operate. Most people around here don’t do a lot of planning and don’t contact the churches until like 2 months before the wedding.

When I was trying on dresses though, a lot of places seemed to try to tell me that what I wanted (colour, style, even size!) was wrong… nope, pretty sure I have about 24 more years of experience with how clothes fit on my body than you do, thanks…

In the end (with the exception of the pretty pretty church) I’ve just made a point of going with the vendors that are willing to work with you and help you out, even if it costs a little more.

Post # 17
1707 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I was 31 when we started interviewing vendors and still found that if my mom came with me (just for support because we paid for everything ourselves), some of the potential vendors treated me like I wasn’t there and only talker to my mom. 

Those vendors did not make it past the “interview” stage. If you are paying people, they should treat you with respect. If they don’t agree, take your money to someone else. 

Post # 18
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I feel it at 23, it doesn’t help that my wedding date is 2 years away and all of my family are in England so im going solo to dress shopping and expos! I think they listen when you talk about deposits and money and booking in dates. It’s just one of those things 

Post # 19
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I am not shy about going back to vendors who treated me less than. 

I’m 21, American and can afford things because I work. What a concept right! 

My least favorite thing is when unsolicited advice on credit or payment plans is given. Amazing how attitudes change when I plunk down my debit card. 

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