(Closed) Any young brides out there??

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I was engaged at 21 and will be 24 when I’m married. I’ve had a lot of people see my ring and exclam “You’re engaged?!?!?!? How old are you?!?” then I tell them yes, my age, and don’t get a congrats or anything after. I just proudly tell them yes I am and I can’t wait to get married! 5 years ago I would have NEVER expected to even have a boyfiend now, let alone planning a wedding!!

Post # 18
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m 24 now and I’ll be 25, getting married next year. Part of my family is LDS so they don’t mind me getting married young lol. I’ve always told ppl it’s the maturity of the relationship. You can’t let others influence your relationship because they’re not in it. It’s just you and your SO. 

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m 21 now, will be 22 when I get married. I get a teeny tiny bit of judgement from strangers when they see the ring on my finger, but that may be because I look like a child. Often people think I’m 16 and I’m always carded for R rated movies. But many strangers will ask how old I am once they see my ring, and once I tell them, the judgemental looks fade. It’s fairly normal in my area to get married so young. The people who know me know that Fiance and I have been together for 5.5 years, so they’re supportive!

If people are judging you, that is their problem, not yours. Don’t let them steal your joy! Ignore them!

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Most people have been supportive!! I was judged before we were even engaged though… I’ve been with Fiance since I was 14 and (obviously) the only serious boyfriend I’ve had.. so needless to say I’ve had a few relatives basically tell me to “shop around.” 

Since we’ve been engaged, people who know us know we’ve been together 5 years so most are very excited. My immediate family is excited, my dad was really great with it. He was excited we were engaged but was surprised I think to learn the wedding is only 2 years away ๐Ÿ™‚
I am thankful my parents are supportive as both of their first marriages were when they were 19/20 and it didn’t work out. ๐Ÿ™‚

We’ll see how it goes! Thinking positive!  

Post # 22
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565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park

Honestly, it’s hard sometimes. I was engaged at 18 and married at 19. One person actually called me trashy because I got married so young. However, the support I have gotten has far outweighed the negative comments. In the end, all that matters is if you are happy and you have friends/family who support you

 

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I haven’t gotten any judgment in real life (except for Future Mother-In-Law, but that has nothing to do with age). My family and FI’s dad side knows us and our relationship. We’re currently 23 and will be married at 24. People usually aren’t too fussed about it because we tell them that we’re getting married on our 8th anniversary.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I’ve never been judged.  If someone did say something rude to me, I’d probably just say something rude back.  LOL!

Post # 25
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Newbee

@KatNewby +1

 

The thing that drives me crazy is that it seems like people my age (20) are treating engagements and marriage like it’s a trend. It irritates me that my boyfriend and I (who have been together for three years, never broken up, live together, own a dog together, pursuing our degrees together, etc.) will be judged for getting engaged when there are people I know from high school who have been with their SO for like 6 months and are engaged. It makes the whole process seem trendy, like I’m going to be judged when I get engaged because everyone and their dog has, despite the facts about my relationship.

 

That being said, I don’t give a shit what anybody thinks about my relationship. I know what he wants, he knows what I want, and that’s all that matters.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Eckle:  This (unfortunately) made me LOL. Because I should have said the same thing about Future Mother-In-Law. I can only imagine the thoughts running through her head Undecided

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@ashleekathryn:  I’m not religious enough for Future Mother-In-Law and I intimidate her because I am a research scientist and she is a lunch lady. Also I was supposed to be the ‘starter’ girlfriend and Fiance was supposed to date around before getting married, not marry his first girlfriend ever. I think her last reason (actually told to FI) is the most ridiculous one that I’ve ever heard.

Post # 28
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123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Eckle:  SO rude! She should be thankful that her son has chosen a successful woman!!

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@ashleekathryn:  You would think, but instead she seem resentful because she can no longer completely control Fiance. Oh well, she can go be miserable in the corner by herself if she wants, I’m going to go be happy with my Fiance.

Post # 30
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123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Eckle:  GREAT plan!! That’s what I will do too!! 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m now 20, my Fiance 21. We met at ages 17/18 and will be married at 21/22, exactly the same as his grandparents (super sweet!) I take it as a sign, as we had NO idea until after the date was set etc. ๐Ÿ™‚

I havent had any judgement, everyone is so happy and excited for us! But I know old friends and people we know will be judging on the sidelines, everyone always does ๐Ÿ™‚

I just think about the fact that they are all living their lives in an attempt to find what we have, or they are old snotty people with knickers up their hoo-haa ;D

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