Post # 1
I have a wonderful Maid/Matron of Honor who is trying to make every one of my wedding related events as great as possible, but it seems like no one cares to show up. I had my bridal shower last month, hosted by my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor, and out of around 30 invites, only family, Bridal Party, and 4 friends showed. I really embarassed and felt like a loser with no friends. And to me, its not even about the gifts, they all could have come empty handed for all I cared, I just wanted them to share that day with me.
My bachelorette party was planned for 2 weeks from now for a weekend trip to Charleston, SC. I totally understand that money is an issue, but again, out of around 25 invites, the only people that have said they are definitely going are my Maid/Matron of Honor and one of our friends. I mean seriously, whats the point in even going now? The tentative plan now is to drive an hour to the beach and spend the night…just the 3 of us.
I really do get the fact that this is my weddig and wedding related events so they mean a lot more to me than anyone else, but I would love just a little more support from my friends. I almost feel like they don’t even care at all, which I know deep down isn’t the case. I guess I’m just hurt and sad about it all. And I’m so happy for all of the other bees that are posting amazing bridal shower pics and bachelorette party stories, but I wish I could do the same
Sorry for the long, “oh poor me, my life is so horrible” post…I really just needed to get it off my chest. If you stayed this long to read everything, thank you for your time.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I would be really disappointed too if my wedding events weren’t very well attended. 🙁 My only advice is to make the best of a bad situation. Getting it off your chest is a good place to start!
Post # 4
Most of my family and friends live back in Louisiana and I won’t be able to travel there before the wedding. So I’m not even having a bridal shower. As for a bachelorette party, I’m just going out someplace local with a couple of my friends in AZ. Also some of my coworkers are taking me to dinner. I’m appreciative of those that want to do something for me, even if it doesn’t “measure up” to what other brides are doing.
Post # 5
@nursemel: Don’t get me wrong, I’m very appreciative as well. My Maid/Matron of Honor is absolutely amazing, I just wish my friends were more involved.
Post # 6
I think it’s about perspective have your feelings but don’t let them cloud or mar your events. If it makes you feel any better the best bachlorettes I been to have been the ones with less people. 25 sounds nuts! Imagine having that many girls to get ready, and get to places on time, it would be a nightmare. If having more friends there is important consider having a party locally which would be only a few hours rather the a whole weekend. I don’t know how old you are but I find in my group of friends where most of us are in late twenties to early thirties people aren’t so gung ho to take trips for bachlorettes for a variety of reasons.
My advice is rather then thinking about people who aren’t there, take the time to enjoy those who make an effort and take time out of their lives to celebrate with you.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you’re disappointed. Weddings create a lot of expectations which can be hard to meet…we see that over and over again in the threads created here. Also, there is a culture now of showing off your life on FB, message boards, etc. It can lead people to feel insecure about their own lives. Please try not to compare your life to someone else’s photographs. Because there will always be people with nicer photographs. But you know, it’s not unusual to see posts from Bees who feel they have no friends, no one to go dress shopping with or anything. Those women would probably envy you for having such a wonderful Maid/Matron of Honor.
For what it’s worth, a weekend with a couple of great friends sounds a lot more appealing to me than one with many less close friends.
Post # 8
*hugs* I know how you feel!
Post # 9
I can understand your feelings, but I agree with the other bee’s make the best of it with those who do want to be there with you!
And have you talked to some of those who haven’t replied that you REALLY want there to see why they aren’t coming? Maybe it’s the money and the shorter beach drive would be preferred? OR maybe they just forgot that they didn’t respond and are planning to be there (I admit this happened to me one time, I felt terrible!).