(Closed) Anybody else depressed about how wedding related events are turning out?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry you’re going through this.  I would be really disappointed too if my wedding events weren’t very well attended.  🙁  My only advice is to make the best of a bad situation.  Getting it off your chest is a good place to start!

Post # 4
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1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Most of my family and friends live back in Louisiana and I won’t be able to travel there before the wedding.  So I’m not even having a bridal shower.  As for a bachelorette party, I’m just going out someplace local with a couple of my friends in AZ.  Also some of my coworkers are taking me to dinner.  I’m appreciative of those that want to do something for me, even if it doesn’t “measure up” to what other brides are doing.

Post # 6
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it’s about perspective have your feelings but don’t let them cloud or mar your events. If it makes you feel any better the best bachlorettes I been to have been the ones with less people. 25 sounds nuts! Imagine having that many girls to get ready, and get to places on time, it would be a nightmare. If having more friends there is important consider having a party locally which would be only a few hours rather the a whole weekend. I don’t know how old you are but I find in my group of friends where most of us are in late twenties to early thirties people aren’t so gung ho to take trips for bachlorettes for a variety of reasons. 

My advice is rather then thinking about people who aren’t there, take the time to enjoy those who make an effort and take time out of their lives to celebrate with you.

Post # 7
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sorry you’re disappointed. Weddings create a lot of expectations which can be hard to meet…we see that over and over again in the threads created here. Also, there is a culture now of showing off your life on FB, message boards, etc. It can lead people to feel insecure about their own lives. Please try not to compare your life to someone else’s photographs. Because there will always be people with nicer photographs. But you know, it’s not unusual to see posts from Bees who feel they have no friends, no one to go dress shopping with or anything. Those women would probably envy you for having such a wonderful Maid/Matron of Honor.

For what it’s worth, a weekend with a couple of great friends sounds a lot more appealing to me than one with many less close friends. 

Post # 8
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

*hugs* I know how you feel!

Post # 9
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can understand your feelings, but I agree with the other bee’s make the best of it with those who do want to be there with you!

 

And have you talked to some of those who haven’t replied that you REALLY want there to see why they aren’t coming? Maybe it’s the money and the shorter beach drive would be preferred? OR maybe they just forgot that they didn’t respond and are planning to be there (I admit this happened to me one time, I felt terrible!).

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