Post # 17
@weeble78 We waited 2 days. We were away with two flat phone batteries. He was so excited and wanted to tell everyone the second we got home. I luckily had about 1.5 mins of battery to call my mum the night of and tell her.
I felt so bad, because he wanted to put it on facebook but I asked him to wait until I had told my immediate family. One of my brothers is unwell and sleeps all day, so I had to wait for him to wake up before my partner could announce it.
I swear the very moment I said to my brother “We’re engaged”, my partner was on facebook announcing it.
To be honest I was so excited, but I actually enjoyed it being something that only we knew about for a short while (with the exception of me telling mum – turns out he told her about 6 weeks earlier).
I don’t really like a lot of attention on me, I didn’t even want everyone at work to know, or have to annouce it, so I simply told 4 ladies who I work closely with and they quietly spread the word.
Once everyone knew the amount of congratulations and well wishes we recieved were so overwhelming. It was nice, and way more than I ever expected.
Post # 18
I was underwhelmed about our engagement, but for a different reason. We had been together and living together for so long, and talking about getting married for so long, that when he finally proposed I was obviousy happy but not over the top excited like I always thought I would be. I wasn’t not excited because I was having second thoughts, but because I was so secure in our reationship that it didn’t feel any different or come as a surprise at all; it was more like a really nice present. Maybe that’s where your Fiance is coming from?
Post # 19
I think that was us, too.
We lived together for about 2 years before, we talked about engagement and our families knew it was coming. The night after, we put it on facebook and then didnt talk about our wedding or engagement again for almost a year, We just were not ready to start the influx of attention that it brings! We are 4 weeks out from our wedding and he and I are now starting to get excited, but I know for both of us it was totally not the big, happy occasion that everyone says it is or “should” be.
Post # 20
Thanks so much for all your stories and considered replies
We’d talked about getting engaged by the end of last year but turned out he thought I’d be much more easygoing with delays by just being told ‘be patient’ than I was (ha!).
I’d got to a point where I was wanting to buy a house and move forward whereas he was still spazzing out about the actual committing to all the things he has wanted for a long time.
So that’s our background. I think he finally got to the right stage, but he always needs a LOT of time warming up to big decisions – that goes for life in general *sigh*. He takes things slower than me, and perhaps that’s what he’s doing here.
Whoever said perhaps I was overexcited well you may be right – I LOVE to celebrate and spread the cheer!
He updated his FBK this morning, and has been overwhelmed by all the kind messages he’s had – it’s been lovely – he’s sent some very excited soppy messages to me too. So yes, i feel better!
Thanks Bees x
Post # 21
So happy to hear this update!
And, congratulations to you both! A happy and healthy life together to you both.