- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
Hope the TWW ends well for you! If you can’t bring up all your ttc thoughts on weddingbee than where can you??
I do think it’s a little petty but I’ve for sure had these thoughts myself. My brother will have had all 3 of his kids before I or my sisters have any. Their third will be a girl, and there was that tiny part of me hoping they’d have all boys so I could have a chance at having the first granddaughter. DH and I constantly joke that nobody will even notice if/when we have kids. At least that would mean less meddling from the grandparents! And I for sure don’t want twins even if that would be “special”!!
In the end I know my kids will be loved so much by us AND the grandparents/aunts & uncles no matter what. I agree with PPs from my experience growing up that after the baby/toddler stage birth order won’t matter as much. Although I was never thrilled being one of the younger cousins TBH, mostly due to the way my cousins/siblings treated me, not the adults. And there are definitely worse things than a kid not having a “special dynamic” with extended family. I’d take my siblings having 10 girls, 10 boys and 10 sets of twins before I have kids (hey lots of hand-me-downs!) if I could trade that to have my Mother-In-Law cured of Alzheimer’s. Even if we have kids she’ll never get to experience being a grandmother…