- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
First I want to say my husband is great and I love him. However, it is very hard to adjust to his family. Mainly his father. FIL is a rude, annyonying, and EXTREMLY sexist jerk. His wife cannot stand up for herself or her kids. She was a SAHM until the kids were in HS.
His father has said the following
-After finding out we were going to Europe on a honeymoon “No, you are not. There are plenty of place here in the US to visit.”
-When I said I would be spending fathers day with my grandfather while husband visited with him “Your dad is dead, why do you need to go anywhere else for fathers day?”
-“Why are you not sharing your honeymoon suite? We dont want to have to drive home, let us have it!”
I could recount stories about his behaviour all night. He annoys the shit out of my husband to spend time with him and DH thinks of every excuse known to man to stay away. He cant stand his father.DH’s siblings are constantly put down by him mostly his lesbian older sister, who I adore. He loves to belittle his wife who Im beginning to dislike just as much as him because she never stands up for herself. He tells her that women are just not as smart as men, weak etc. Im not used to a woman who acts like a mousy little puppet or a man who loves being an annoying pain in the ass.
I never take shit from this man. I tell him out right that hes being an asshole and not to speak to me that way. He really pitched a fit about the honeymoon suite and I finally said “Have you lost your fucking mind? You will not be staying with us and we will not give up our room. The conversation is over.”
No, I would never talk to my dad or grandfather like this, but they neer acted like he does. Hanging out with my MIL is a pain in the ass. She wants us to be close, but she then just uses that time to tell me all the horrible shit he’s done to her. Which I dont really need to hear, because yes it does take a toll on my own marriage.
When he drinks he will say the worst shit to my husband about how he will never be as sucessful as him blah blah blah.
So my question is, does this ever stop? Has anyone had a FIL or MIL that just changed for the better? Did it take a family meeting to inspire the change? We dont have kids right now and I wonder if things will be better or worse with him.
Sorry for typos