(Closed) Anybody else hate where they live?

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Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

vent away, girl!  

i don’t HATE where i live, but it’s definitely not a perfect place.  ^^

Kinda funny how when people find out I live in Florida, they wonder how I could ever not LOVE it, but the truth is, here in Orlando, it is very transient and touristy.  IMO it lacks the neighborly feel of some places I have lived before – plus, the city is very spread out and you have to drive everywhere to get anywhere and public transit is lacking – of course, it’s getting better, but it will be a while.  

And though it’s nice to have a not so frigid winter, the summer – ugh – I don’t even want to think about it, heh!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I feel your pain! We moved two years ago and we HATE it.We moved to Indiana to be closer to my brother, SIL, and niece because they were here by themselves. But, we just don’t feel like it was worth it. Not that I regret seeing my niece grow up, or being able to spend time with my brother and SIL, it’s just we don’t get to see them very often. We maybe get to see them once, maybe twice a month. It just doesn’t feel like it was worth turning our lives completely upside down for these monthly visits. I miss my mom and friends so much I cry some nights. I live 15 hours away from my best friend, and she hasn’t been able to visit me here. I went from seeing her several times a week to seeing her 2-3 times a year. I know my Fiance is miserable, he hasn’t been able to really make any friends, (not that he’s unfriendly, its just he works with men almost twice his age). Also, we moved to a small town. Everyone has known everyone since elementary school. It is so hard to fit in.

So.. I guess instead of venting also, I just meant to say, I can totally empathize with you.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’ll join, I hate where I live! SF sucks; it’s dirty, poorly run, and expensive. The schools here are terrible, the neighborhoods unsafe; I would never want to raise kids here. My fiance hates it even more than I do. We’re moving to Portland, OR 2 months after we get married, and I cannot wait! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

I don’t love where I live, but I don’t love where my family lives either. The thought of a Chicago winter really turns me off, as much as I’d like to be near my family.

We like to think of places in the south we’d move, but we have no real connection to any of those places. While my fiance does have his immediate family here, he doesn’t have the relationship with them that I have with my family.

I’ve also noticed that because we treat living here as temporary, we haven’t made big strides to meet more people. I’m sure if we put ourselves out there more, we might start to like DC a bit more.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well.. I wanted to move here so bad so I can’t complain. But my plan was always to live in NYC for 3 or 4 years then move to CA. I wanted to live in a lot of cool places before getting old and definitely on the beach. Of course, I started dating Fiance and my plan was thrown out the window. It’s hard to move now b/c our lives are so ingrained in this city, we would be giving so much up.

But to your point, I understand how hard it is to make friends in a new city after college. People aren’t as inclined to try to talk to you and hang out, everyone has thier own lives and agenda. But I can tell you it happens. Slowly, but it does. You start to have things in common with coworkers who introduce you to their friends and slowly your network grows. Two out of 5 of my BM’s are ex-coworkers. 

Just take it one day at a time and keep doing things that interest you. It will get better, I promise!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

There are days when I think I hate it here. I get sooooooo tired of the hills of Pennsylvania after living here all my life, and the winter months are incredibly dreary. Spring rolls around and I feel better, but right around now? Yeah. Not lovin’ it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We want to move somewhere warm year round but I am so afraid I’ll hate it as much as youi guys hate your new towns.  I usually make friends easily also, but I think that’s because I’ve been in school forever.

On that note though maybe you could sign up for a fun class at the local college (assuming there is one where you live).  It would be a great way 2 make some new friends!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’ve hated my hometown my entire life.  I find it extremely depressing (kind of sounds like the suburb of Toronto with endless strip malls…I swear, every time I go home a new area has been deforested and replaced with a strip mall that includes a generic nail shop, a bank, a generic Chinese-American restaurant, and a Dunkin’ Donuts.  I cannot tell you how many malls we have with these precise contents, it’s unreal).  When I moved away to college, I was happier by far than I had ever been in my entire life (though this might have something to do with the fact that I met Fiance almost immediately).  I basically NEED to live in a city.  I feel most alive in NYC.  I don’t really know what it is.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Yeah, I think part of it has to do with the thinking of “the grass is always greener on the other side” kind of thing – I used to live in WA state for college and I grew up in near Tokyo, Japan, so yeah…big differences!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

lol good thoughts, noopnoop!  

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

So happy to hear that I am not the only one who hates where they live.  Fiance and I moved to VA last year after I got a teaching job here.  It was a quick move, I moved 2 weeks after getting the position from Upstate NY. But since we’ve moved here it’s been horrible.  Everyone we have met is 20 – 30 years older than us.  The only co-worker of mine who is my age lives about 40 minutes from where we do and has a 7 month old, so she doesn’t do much.  We go to a church, but again there isn’t anyone who is our age.  I am just so frustrated that no one is friendly, you always hear about Southern hospitality, and we just haven’t found any.  When we lived in Albany, we always had people over and were always entertaining.  There was always something to do.  Now, it seems like all I do is sit in front of either the idiot box (tv) or my computer.  My Fiance hasn’t really met anyone at work.  All I can hope now is that I can find a job near DC because we have many friends who live there, including our godson and soon to be born god-daughter. 

Just a rant – but we just got 10 inches of snow, and coming from living in the snow country all my life, I can’t get over the fact that EVERYTHING is shut down since yesterday until at least Tuesday.  It just boggles my mind.  I just want to move back home for so many reasons.  One of the major reasons is my Aunt who I am very close to just got diagosed with Stage 4 cancer and I know that I will not be able to see her until Easter when my Fiance and I go back to the Northeast to do wedding stuff. 

Sorry, I just have a ton of emotions going through me right now.  Thanks for listening!!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

It’s not that I dont love Adelaide and South Australia, all our friends are here close by. I am just bored and restless I want to pack up and move somewhere different. However Fi’s carreer is going amazing and I have almost finished my Masters. Once we are married and I have established my career. maybe we can move. I want to move somewhere with heaps of water and lush vegetation so I can have a nice garden, either the tropics like Cairns or Darwin or somewhere like Tasmania or the Mountain countrty n Victoria. living in he driest state in the driest continent is starting to frustrate me.

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