(Closed) Anybody else have a finace that is shorter than you?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I wouldnt worry, I am 5 10 and my fiance is 5 6 and I know the photographer will do some tricks to make us the same height. I found in most our engagement photos he was up a small hill or curb lol. I wouldn’t worry I just mention to your photographer that you want to be the same height

Post # 4
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am considerably taller than my fiance and…honestly…it royally sucks. I am a heel-whore and it kills me when I pass a great pair of shoes that I feel like I can’t buy. For 3 years, other than work, I’ve been flat footed when we go out together. I’m 5’11 though so it’s hard to find many people who would be taller than me in high shoes.

I deal with it too because, well, i guess it doesn’t really matter.

I’ve been spending my days online searching for the perfect blue flats and am hoping i come up with something fantastic (I’m certain I will). There aren’t any methods for your photos i can suggest really -for our engagement shoot our photgrapher positioned us to make it look a bit more proportionate (they know how to do that usually) but it’s still fairly obvious.

Post # 5
275 posts
Helper bee

*Raises Hand*

I definately have a few inches on Mr. Gloss.  I’m wearing flats (as always ).  We are definately going to try to minimize the difference, it doesn’t bother me in everyday life – but obv. I don’t want our pictures to look weird!  (and I don’t want to look giant!).

The good thing is I can keep all/most of my heels at work and never have to worry about not having them on the weekends!

Post # 6
1045 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I’m 5’11" and used to people being shorter than me. My Fiance is taller, but I’ve dated shorter men in the past who loved having a tall girl on the arm. My only advice: don’t stoop and slouch, just for the sake of looking smaller than your husband. Stand tall and proud! Everyone knows you’re taller than him, and it doesn’t make you less of a woman, or him less of a man.

Think of the wedding photo of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes– how silly is it that she’s stooped over, with bent knees, just so that his eyebrows can be a bit higher than hers? Looks ridiculous! We all know she’s a couple of inches taller than him, so why the need to make less of herself, to shrink away?? She looks so much more gorgeous in the photos where she’s confidently standing tall, shoulders back.

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Post # 7
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree with jhphi!

I’m 5’9" and my Fiance is 5’10"… I’m not taller than him, but with heels I’m obviously a lot larger than he is. At first it bothered me. I gravitated towards flats, but then I got over it & realized how sexy being tall is! I don’t think a man’s height makes him any less of a man… and anyone that does is a moron.

I actually read an article once explaining why really short women end up with extremely tall men & why tall women end up with men their size or shorter. It goes back to cavemen days (I think, sorry it was a looong time ago lol) Short women "need" protection & taller women can protect themselves. Be confident & proud of your height ladies! There’s a reason super models are 5’10” and above 🙂 

Post # 8
193 posts
Blushing bee

Argh! I didn’t even think about this until just now. Like RecessionistaBride, I’m just a smidge shorter than my love, so heels are out! Well, ok, out for the wedding. (I haven’t given them up in real life.) Grr… that means that those gorgeous heels I wanted for the wedding are getting demoted to the rehearsal dinner. At least people will actually see them that way…

I wouldn’t worry about the pictures so much, although I know what you mean. Like others have said, it’s so much better to just stand tall and proud – that confidence translates to the photographs. 

Post # 9
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ah, my Fiance is 1/2" shorter than me. I’m 5’11" and he’s 5’10". I have 2.5" heel rule, but it doesn’t bother him as much as it used to. Now that he’s 26, he just think it’s hot that i’m with him!

Our photographer maneuvered us around here and there so that I wasn’t OBVIOUSLy taller than him. Half inch isn’t a lot, but it is when your Fiance is a sloucher. Don’t worry!

I’m wearing heels to my rehearsal dinner, too. But flats for the wedding. The compromises we make! At least our knees will last us longer, right? =] 

I’m with Ms. Ballet Flat. It doesn’t bother me in person, but I HATE to be towering over him in pictures like I’m Godzilla or something.  

Post # 10
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Oh I love this post. I am 6 ft and Mr. FF is 5’10. I love heels and he loves me wearing them. He doesn’t care that I am taller then him. But for our wedding day I am wearing flats and I hope we can have some cool shots that makes us look like we are normal. Which is how we take a lot of our pictures! It is awesome to see other tall women out there. With heels I feel like I tower above most people!

Post # 11
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

LoL, when I wear 4" heels to a bar, I feel like I own the place

And i get left alone cuz all the guys are SKURD! 

Post # 13
8 posts

I agree with jhphi. Be proud and stand tall! There are many ladies who are taller and it hardly matters. 

Post # 14
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@RecessionistaBride: I’m little and I don’t NEED protecting! But Fiance is taller than me and he THINKS he needs to protect.

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