(Closed) anybody else have significantly fewer gifts than guests?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What was your gift to guest turnout like?
    Almost everyone who came brought a gift (or at least a card). : (14 votes)
    36 %
    About half the people who came brought gifts. : (11 votes)
    28 %
    Fewer than half of our guests brought gifts. : (7 votes)
    18 %
    very few guests brought gifts. : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Other, which I will explain below! : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Have you taken into acct couples and families (who would typically only give one gift or card from both/all)?  I can’t even go to a friend’s house to watch a football game without bringing something, so I definitely don’t understand the wedding guests that arrive emptyhanded, but gifts aren’t obligatory and some people really do feel their presense is your present.  Also, some people live by the rule that you have up to a year after the wedding to give a gift so you never know.

    Be happy everyone was able to make it and you had a great time.  Congratulations on your marriage!!!

    Post # 5
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    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Well, I’d give it some time – I know a lot of people send gifts after the wedding, so there’s a chance more gifts are on the way.

    Post # 6
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    1119 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    There were plenty of people who came to our wedding and didn’t bring a gift, but sent one to us later on. This may be the case with some of your guests. Our wedding was in July, and we were still getting gifts and cards in November!

    Post # 7
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    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’d give them some more time, sometimes people don’t bring them to the wedding, they send them later! It’s only been ~2 weeks 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I never BRING a gift to a wedding, I always have it shipped directly from the registry. I know something just arrived this Monday for a wedding I attended on the first weekend of December.

    Post # 9
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    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    we had some came later, but mostly, a lot of people didnt give gifts or cards. Chuck it up to the economy. Just never know someone’s financial circumstances, and some people just cant afford a gift. Thumbs down to the people that dont even bother to bring cards though.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I never have and never would go to a wedding and NOT bring a gift or card. I think it’s very rude that they attended all the festivities and didn’t bring something. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it so you’ll just have to move on and send nice thank you notes to those who did give you gifts. Congrats on the marriage!

    Post # 11
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    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t go to any wedding without bringing a pretty sizeable gift (depending on my relationship to the person getting married).  But, 20+ for a 65 person wedding sounds about right.  If you contemplate your parents and bridal party, who didn’t really need to get you anything, and couples, the number of distinct gifts (cash and actual presents) you should have gotten would probably been around 25-35.  What does the hive think about my calculation?

    Post # 12
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I attended a destination wedding and didnt’ bring a gift, but I had already bought the bride a shower gift so I thought it was okay. I wasn’t a Bridesmaid or Best Man or anything and had already spent a lot of money on transportation and hotel and the original shower gift which was over $100. Now this post is making me think I should have gotten her a 2nd gift, I honestly didn’t even think about it at the time!

    Post # 13
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    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee

    honestly, I didn’t count, and we had a pretty big wedding, so a good portion of our registry (except maybe linens) were bought

    I was a little sad some people didn’t give us cards, but I was just so overjoyed at the gifts we DID get!

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    @moderndaisy-If I give a gift a shower then I don’t bring one to the wedding.  Most of the time I get invited to the shower and bachelorette parties so I feel like if I contribute to both events then it shouldn’t be expected to give something at the wedding too.

    Post # 15
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Out of all our guests, we had all but two bring/send gifts. I hear from my mom that one is on its way (four months later), and the other, well … it’s a long story.

    In my family, you just don’t come to a wedding without bringing a gift. No one in my family ever shows up to anyone’s house empty handed – that’s just how we are. Now, I didn’t EXPECT gifts of course because technically, I know they’re not required at weddings. But I wasn’t surprised to see we got one from almost everyone.

    I know weddings can be expensive to attend, but a $20 gift usually doesn’t make or break the bank, you know? I mean, unless you’re in an extreme financial strain, I don’t see why a guest wouldn’t be able to give a little something to wish the couple well.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    Don’t worry – according to Emily Post the wedding guest has one full year to send a wedding gift!  We received wedding gifts up until 6 months after our wedding.

    Also, if I give a gift (not money) I don’t take it to the wedding either.  I have it shipped directly to their home.

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