Post # 1
I won’t let anybody help me do my DIY wedding stuff. I want and NEED help but I won’t let anyone help me…it’s stupid. I am a control freak and worry that they will mess something up. I am frustrated with myself but don’t know how to let go and welcome the help. HELP ME!!!!
Post # 3
No advice… I just do what I have time for and buy the rest if I still want it.
Post # 4
I had this problem too. I also felt bad asking people to do things soley for MY wedding and then wanting them to do it perfect. I didn’t get over this until the final month beofre my wedding and then it was only out of desperation that I said “yes” to those that offered to help. To help ease my mind and nerves I only invited 1-2 of my friends over to help at at time and then we all worked on the same project. For the first few minutes I would be super nervous and hoover, but then once we started laughing, joking, and umm drinking, I totally forgot about everything being perfect and just had a great time. In the end, I couldn’t tell if I had made something or if one of my friends did. Don’t worry I think many DIY brides feel this way, your still a little bit away so as you get closer you will really appreciate the help.
Post # 5
I could SO easily be the same way! I’m very type A, organized, independent…etc. That said, I bit the bullet and asked Fiance to paint a few things. He made a Holy Mess, and they weren’t perfect, but I took a step back and realized that he loves me enough to paint stands for table numbers that he doesn’t really care about just so that our wedding is exactly what I want. I know that our guests won’t be critiquing our table number stands, they’ll be enjoying the open bar, chowing down on great food, kicking back to some music, and enjoying their day. It does bug me a little bit that the paint has a few streaks, but in the grand scheme of things, it’s not a big deal. OOOOoooooooh-saaaaaaahhhhhhh 🙂
Post # 6
I’m exactly the same way!! I’m a “no one will do it as perfectly as I will” person! I drive myself (and my FI) crazy. I just don’t complain about how much I have to do so I don’t have to explain my massive anal-retentive tendencies. 🙂
Post # 7
Decide which things you absolutely must do yourself and which tasks you may delegate to others.
I would also really think about what to ask of whom based on their skills for certain tasks and their personality.
This way you are confident that the people you ask for help will be able to help you complete certain tasks.
Post # 8
Same way, too! I get like that because I’m the type of person that needs to stay busy a lot of the time so I keep a lot of projects to myself to make sure of that.
Post # 9
I like the idea of having one or two friends/bridesmaids over to help do stuff, that way I can somewhat supervise. I do have like 4 things that I will not let anyone touch since they are more important things…like all the invites, escort cards, programs…basically paper products. But when it comes to like putting together favors or mindless tasks, I should ask for help and welcome it.
Thanks for the help ladies….it is always appreciated.
Post # 10
First of all, let me just say that I understand completely! I’m a serious control freak, OCD, perfectionist, whatever you want to call it and I have a hard time accepting help. I have basically been using wedding planning to break myself of some habits. I recently let my fiance help with embossing our save-the-dates and I can honestly say that he was much better than me and the ones he did looked so much better that I let him do the rest of the process. He is a outdoorsy, laid back (read: non-perfectionist) sports guy – not some creative, artsy man so you can imagine my shock.
Maybe start with something that people can help with and that you can tweak if needed to your standards?
Post # 11
I think it’s okay to do it yourself. As this is your wedding and others won’t be as picky as you.
However, I would definitely delegate something for others to help you (given you have a lot of family/friends to offer help). You can always do all the prep work and have them assemble, or have them run errands for you on teh day of, if needed.
Post # 12
@future_mrs_sommer: I’m exactly the same way! Not only am I a control freak but in the last wedding I was in the bride had everyone doing her DIY projects and she didn’t even help. I think I might have gotten about 3 hours of sleep that entire wedding weekend! I refuse to make any of my friends or family feel like they are being used so I’m paranoid about letting people spend their time on my projects. I know. I’m crazy.
Post # 13
OMG! I AM THE SAME WAY!!!! But I think it is with good reason! Last Christmas my Future Mother-In-Law offered to help me wrap Christmas presents for my kids and I told her exactly how I wanted it done… Each item in its own box so that the kids have the same amount of presents to open… Simple… I thought. She finishes and has 7 less presents for my son then I had for my daughter! SHE WRAPPED TWO OR THREE THINGS IN ONE BOX! AHHHH! So I have taken an oath that no one is allowed to help me with the wedding! I will just do it all myself….except for my Fiance… He knows to do it exactly like I say and no one gets hurt!!! LOL