Post # 1
I swear! I am the worst person to give a gift everything to! I love getting things and I appreciate that went into somebody giving me something but when it comes to me showing my gratitude… I suck! I try but I come out just being awkward. It gets even worse when somebodu offers to get me something. Like this morning, my aunt offered to buy me the almost $70 shoes that I have been dying for for the wedding. Just out of nowhere! I mean, hell yeah I would love for her to get me those! I can’t afford them and they are for the wedding so I would be crazy to turn her down. She asked me where to send the check (she lives in a different state) and my first response is to tell her not to worry about it. I actually don’t know how to say “Sure! Thanks! Here is my address” without sounding like I expected it or that it isn’t a huge deal or something. Anybody else suck at accepting gifts?
Post # 3
I’ll bite. 🙂
I’m a little awkward but I have a great grandmother who I think was trying to get rid of her assets before she dies so that there isn’t a huge fight (her children already have some bad blood) so she always used to just hand us random cash for coming over to see her. It was awkward to receive but she would NOT take no for an answer, and if you tried to, say, maybe leave the cash at her house like you “forgot it,” she’d send it to you in the mail. So basically, I guess I’d recommend that its best to just think of the gifts as something they are doing for you because they love and/or care about you, and if you can say thank you with a hug (or if its on the phone, make sure you’re smiling so it comes through in your voice) I think thats all they really want. Then make sure you write a thank-you letter. 🙂
Post # 4
I hate getting gifts. It makes me uncomfortable. I am getting better though!
Post # 5
It is hard for me to take gifts that I think are over the top and something we couldn’t afford. With the wedding I have had a hard time over saying yes to somethings but I guess I get to deal with it. My Aunt gave us some money for the caterer and is buying my wedding bouquet. Then FH Aunt is giving us our short Honeymoon. I think the one thing I am not wanting to say yes to is Fh parents paying for our dogs to be boarder while we are gone to the wedding and Honeymoon. It would be almost $500.
Happy I am not the only person with the issue.
Post # 6
I’m the same way. Glad to hear other people are, too!
Post # 7
@kfricke89:When I was younger I was that way. My college boyfriend graduated a year before me and would offer to buy me things and I did not feel comfortable accepting it. I got over it as I got a little older. I am open for all gifts at this point. I even ask my SO for gifts now.
Post # 8
Oh I am fine asking for gifts from Mr. Shef or my parents and sisters but when it comes to everybody else, I am the worse person in the world! I can’t even give them gift ideas when they ASK for it! lol