Post # 1
We didn’t have an engagement party and don’t plan on having one. It was mostly because we were too busy with school and most of our friends live too far away to come. Plus nobody went out of their way to throw one. I sometimes consider my 21st birthday as our unnofficial e-party because he proposed the day before my birthday and people kept congratulating us. Why didn’t you have one?
Post # 3
We’re not having one. We talked about it, but no one else stepped up to plan the details, and there are only a couple of times when we’d be back visiting family that we could do it.
Post # 4
We didn’t have one…I think we just figured it was unnecessary. I know some people have family members or friends offer to host a party for them, but engagement parties are not very popular in this area. I have too much else going on to worry about planning another event!
Post # 5
We didn’t have one, since our engagement was only 6 months long.
My parents did approach me about hosting one, but there’s just too much going on in such a short amount of time with all the wedding planning.
Post # 6
Well I don’t know… I just got engaged, but there’s been no mention of an engagement party. Our friends are all dispersed so I’m not sure it would be worth our while. I’d feel bad having friends make a 4+ hour trip, and it seems silly to have a “party” with just a few people? I don’t think they’re all that common by me. I might see if some of my girlfriends from home can all go out together with me for a drink or something near the holidays.
Post # 7
We only have a handful of friends in the area, and didn’t even make a big deal about the engagement. It’s darn near impossible to get anyone in this town together to do anything, so we didn’t even bother considering an engagement party. It’s just not worth wasting the brainpower to plan one, in our opinion.
Post # 8
We didn’t have one bc there would be too many people that would have to travel. Since they were all traveling for our wedding and also a good portion for my bridal shower we knew and felt good about not having one. Our friends here in Seattle through us a lovely dinner with about 12 people. It was perfect!
Post # 9
We didn’t have one because I didn’t realize that people even had engagement parties. And after I realized that people did that and it wasn’t just something that people did in the movies, I thought it was pointless.
So it was never a question of were we going to have one? It was more like, “Why the hell would we do that?”
Post # 10
We didn’t have one. I don’t think they are very common in my area. We are having a long engagement (16 months) but we think e-parties are unnecessary.
Post # 11
We didn’t have one, and honestly I had never heard of engagement parties before weddingbee…
Post # 12
We didn’t have one and now I wish we would have. People wanted to throw us one and give us money and presents but we kept saying no. I don’t know why.
Post # 13
I didn’t. I just didn’t see the point really.
Post # 14
We didn’t.. no real reason I guess, no one offered and we didn’t really think it was needed.
Post # 15
i’m having one a year after we got engaged (6 months before the wedding). it will only be for half our guests though — it’s in my hometown. fi’s mom gave us the option of an engagement party/shower or an after-party (more like a hometown reception), and we chose the latter.
Post # 16
We didn’t have one… We weren’t going to start planning the wedding for several months, as I was finishing up law school and then studying for the bar, so I guess everyone figured there was time to do it when things calmed down for me. Now that they have calmed down, no one’s stepped up, so I guess they figure it’s too late. Not going to lie, I’m disappointed! I wish we were having one.