(Closed) Anybody else secretly hoping for a lot of “Declines” on your RSVPs?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am! My future in laws insist on inviting a bunch of people we don’t know so they don’t “lose face.” we’re hoping they don’t show. ugh. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

You will probably end up at that number. We invited a little over 200 and we ended up at 158. That’s with adding a few at the end. I secretly was hoping for declines too.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ll raise my hand to this one.   I feel the same way.  We are sending invites to all of our family, +1’s and kids to be included. When I count the people who will actually make the trip to where I live I have about 125 that I am sure will come… but we are sending out 115 invites… doubling that alone makes me nervous. What if 230 people come?!  yikes.  It would be great to have everyone around but… I understand what you are saying.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ugh, yes definitely!!  I just counted mine up the other day, and out of 180 or so invited, 40 of them are kids!  And I didn’t want ANY (well, except for the 3 in our party)!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I feel this way too mostly because it gets pricey. Also my Fiance and I wanted a small wedding but the guest list just kept growing and growing with obligatory invites to family friends we have not seen in years and so on 🙁

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You are not alone!  I want to hit up our B list sooo bad.  But coming from a big Irish family, fam comes first- including all of their +1’s!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I’m seriously hoping for a 25% decline rate (I have a lot of Out of Town guests).

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yep, we had a bunch of obligatory invites that I was hoping a bunch wouldn’t show up.  We invited 128 and ended up with 82, which was perfect!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@SapphireSun: So you’re saying there’s hope?  ;D

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I felt this way in theory, but unfortunately some of the no’s will be people you love, and many of the yesses will be those random +1s you mentioned.  I wanted to invite 130 and get 100, we ended up inviting 155 (yikes) but are probably going to end up with 110 so it’s kind of perfect.  Except that some people I adore won’t be there, and there will still be a few I don’t know well.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We did too!! We invited, I think, 87? We are now at 82 coming to the wedding. We thought FOR SURE that we would have have about 70 people saying they would come. Oh well, what can you do?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Its not so much a numbers thing, but I’m honestly hoping some people don’t come. Theres a lot of estranged family who usually want nothing to do with me and I don’t really want to pay for them, if their rude to be 99% of the time. but I invited them out of politenss so I know its a possibilty they’ll come.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@misspiglet: My Future Mother-In-Law is doing the same thing! Her side of the guest list has 86 people on it, and she SWEARS that only half will come… I sure hope she’s right, because I have friends I want to invite!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@tinylittlebird: Definitely!!! My guest list isn’t as big as yours, but I really want to stay in my budget. I’d be okay with a 30% decline rate.

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