Post # 1
I have an idea of where I could get some info about whether or not he’s moving forward and if I have a good reason to have possible suspicions… but it’d be pretty invasive, I don’t know if I’d want him doing that so I resist temptation.
But… IT’S SO TEMPTING! Does anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
I’m guilty for snooping, but it only ended up upseting me. I didn’t find anything really bad, but I didn’t find what I was looking for, and found stuff I wished I hadn’t. I’ve stopped snooping, and force myself not to anymore. Either way, you’ll either ruin the surprise, or find that he’s not planning anything and get upet. I know it’s hard, but DON”T SNOOP! Good luck and keep strong! 🙂
Post # 4
@BrandyQ: Legit. I did this. Found out he had a bucket load of money. Meaning he had saved up but wasnt making a purchase. I was gutted.
So dont do it. He proposed like 3 weeks later….haha but still dont do it.
Post # 5
I’m a self-admitted snooper.
I snooped, totally knew DH had bought the ring, I even saw a pic he took of it to send his friends. Looking back, I really wish I hadn’t been so eager to know. I think the “surprise” would have been so much nicer, if I had actually let it happen.
So, in short, though i know it’s tempting – DON’T DO IT! Buy yourself something nice, pick up a hobby, whatever you have to do to avoid snooping!
Post # 6
I am a natural born snoop. I am the girl that opens all my Christmas presents when no one is around and rewraps them. SO anytime I see anything out of the ordinary…I have to see what it is. And I am not going to lie…this led to many let downs when I thought he might be proposing.
Although I did end up ( accidentally!) finding out my FI has purchased the ring when he left the shipping confirmation email open in his email…and left his blackberry with me while he was at work. He doesnt know I found out…but I refused to snoop around after that because then I really didnt want too. I coldnt wait for the surprise. And the surprise was SO worth it…even if I did know it was coming soon.
Be strong 🙂
Post # 7
@MsLouella: LOL, i am you….i have found my snoop-sister-from-another-mister 😉
Post # 9
I’m ALWAYS tempted… and occassionally give in.. Last time I snooped on the computer, I went back for more the next day. I think I was caught he had the computer locked with a password! He never said anything, but it’s soooo embarassing that he might know. It’s also very disappointing when you can’t find anything.
Post # 10
To snoop or not to snoop, that is the question…hehe!
Im a little sad that I ruined the surprise factor a bit. We had an all out arguement one night (because he wouldnt tell me ANYTHING! I was looking for a timeline (a year? a month? But all he would say was it wasnt right to say anything…it should be a surprise). Well, SO didnt understand the word “timeline” and he told me I needed to wait until November. Later, he said it was really important to have alone time during the upcoming family vacation…in November. 1+1=2? Im sad that I pried and then figured it out, I was hoping to be taken completely off kilter…
…but now I know he has the ring, and I find the urge to snoop. And I know where he hides all of my surprises. But, we didnt do the “go to the store and pick out a ring” thing…so I have no idea what it may look like. So, while I want to snoop, I figure that this can still be a surprise and I dont want to disappoint myself AGAIN because I cant keep my thoughts/emotions in control.
Post # 11
I know he’s going to propose in a couple of weeks at most, so I’m really tempted to snoop. Before all this secretive engagement stuff started happening, I’d read his text messages just because I was bored (right in front of him, not like secretively). So I had to promise to stop doing that, which I did.
Yesterday he left his computer open while he took a nap in the other room. I was SO tempted, but I just closed the lid and sucked it up.
Post # 12
I’m a snooper, but I’ve forced to stop myself. Like BrandyQ, I didn’t find what I was looking for, but I did find thinks I sure wasn’t wanting to find!
Post # 13
@pharmy: I know how you feel and good job for not snooping! I’m 98% sure I have 19 days left before he proposes so it’s getting hard not to. I accidently found out he bought the ring (3-4 weeks ago) when I went to get the mail one day and there was a statement from the jewelry store. Now he’s obsessed with getting the mail so I don’t see the statements or anything from them. But ever since then, I’ve really wanted to snoop. I’ve stopped myself because I promised I wouldn’t about 5 months ago. *Sigh* These 19 days better go by quick!
Post # 14
I tried snooping the day before yesterday lol. He looked like he URGENTLY needed to poop (sorry tmi lmao) so when he went to the bathroom I dashed to his computer! Turns out he just had a cat hair stuck in his eye and as I was shutting the comp back down after it JUST loaded up and i heard him coming back, he walked in. I was all “:O I thought you were takin a dump and would be a while so I thought I would bum around on pchlotto but then you’re here now so I shut it off…” his face was like “O.o okay..” lmao I’m so awful.
Post # 15
This is why I don’t snoop too – I’m no good at being smooth and covering it up.
“What were you doing with my computer?”
“uh..uhm….<.< >.>…LOOKING THROUGH YOUR EMAIL O__o”
Post # 16
I’m tempted to snooped but I won’t ever do it. I know I don’t like when others do it too me, even if I have nothing to hide. Its one thing if I hand you my phone & say hey can you check that message for me etc, have free rein but to look just for the soul purpose of hoping you find something whether good or bad isn’t good.