- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
@Akbridezilla: am doing.
yes i was for the first 5 years of our relationship,then i worked for four almost 5 years(bought my kids to work,daycare)then moved into a bigger house and now run my own in home daycare,but im still at home and do all the wifey stuff and at the same time bringing in income.i been with my Fiance 20 years btw and our daughter will be 19 and our son is 15.i did not want to work and put them in daycare,thats why i choose what im doing.
however,times have changed from when i first got with my Fiance 20 years ago,many women still stayed home rasing kids ect….now most have to work to make the bills,but….
i rasied my daughter different then how i was rasied,although i was supported and encouraged to go to school and have a degree in something incase i wanted to work,needed to ect…but i was rasied around women who stayed home and took care of the house and kids and that what i wanted to do,however we need to incomes to live.
i always talked to my daughter and encouraged her to graduate high school,then collage,then get your carreer going,then after you get all that then thats when you if you choose to,to get married and start a family.
i didnt tell her to do it,but i try to help her see that edcuation is #1 because you never know what life is going to throw at you and i sure dont want her to depend on a man to take care of her.if they divorce i dont want her struggling to try and support herself and her children on minumin wage.
so she graduated high school and is looking forward very happliy to start her carreer in something that she loves and when she gets married and has children,she will (if they are fine finacially)be able to stay home with her children,she will be fine and able to take care of herself and children if she had/has to.
anyway,i know you didnt need all this information,i just like for women to think about if they choose to stay home,to please have a back up should something happen,to be able to support their selfs and children if they had to.i seen women struggle after divorce or a death(my mother in law for one)and its really hard♥
Oh ya we are part of a real estate group online and the people in ATL seem to be moving properties like no ones business! We lived in TX before moving here (though I’m from CA) and the market was great there too. CA is terrible and it is awful here. I don’t forsee us buying in RI. MA maybe, but I really don’t think we will settle down here. That would be great. Once my dad passed away my mom shut down their jewelery business and became a Realtor so that she could still spend as much time as possible with us. She tried getting into property management, but it never really panned out for her. I think that’d be a great part time job for a mama :]
No, it is not a career, nor a job. You just happen to get to stay home all day. You cook and clean? Good for you…so does everyone else. You take care of your kids? Okay…so did my parents, but they happened to work as well.
Honestly, I find it demeaning to women when other women say how happy they are to stay home to take care of their husbands. Seriously? Have we come no where in the past hundred years? And what, your adult husband cannot take care of himself? And how much taking care does he even need? I mean, I know it’s your choice and if you can afford it, fine, that’s great for you. But don’t act like your life is in any way similar to someone who works AND cooks and cleans.
I know this comes across strongly and somewhat judgemental, but I’ve been judged for wanting to work, so maybe that’s why I feel this way. I was told, by my fiance’s older brother, that women who go back to work after having children don’t care about their kids. It seems that all the women who willingly give up their careers for their husbands just perpetuate the idea that it’s totally okay for people to say misogynistic things like that.
It is a job, but not a career.
If you can’t make a living off of it, it’s not a career.
By The Way, I have a career AND I do housework, cause I don’t have a cook or a maid. Does it mean that I have two careers? No.
The topic ‘anybody else think being a housewife is a career?’ is closed to new replies.