- 4 years ago
- Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.
A thread about somebody else’s husband’s health woes and how he went to a clinic instead of the ER when he needed a lung operation in the long run has made me think of my own issues. Especially since I just got off the the phone with FH who finally went to the hospital and left because he hates them, it’s expensive, etc. He may possibly have an erroded stomach now. Sorry if it this is long, but, I need somebody to talk to.
I’m not sure how long it has been going on before we met in 2012, but, I did notice he always had stomach issues. Mostly issues with pain/aches. He does have a big appetite and overdid it sometimes, but, I began to realize even normal amounts of food and also certain alcohols triggered them. He said he had an ulcer and issues with reflux, but, Tums & Prilosec helped. He stayed in bed sometimes all day and it seemed like he was asking me atleast once a week to rub his stomach, so I knew otherwise not always. But,he still insisted that nothing was serious.
That same year around August he started these fainting spells (wasn’t there for atleast 1 of them). I had to force him to go to the hospital by calling an ambulance before he regained conciousness. They didn’t do anything except for scans, x-rays, urine analysis, monitoring his vitals, giving him fluids. They thought it may be neurological. Discharged him with dehydration and also intoxication because he was drinking.
It didn’t happen again that I was aware of anyway, but, I did notice his stomach issues continuing. In the wintertime, he calls me up while I was home while he was out on errands & other things and says he went to the doctors and he’s had an ulcer that’s been bleeding for a while and needs to set up an appointment for chest x-rays and start an evaluation for surgery. Everything that seemed unrelated made sense. He went to donate blood early in our relationship and was told he was anemic and started taking iron, but, it didn’t seem to help much which also made the fainting make sense. I also found out he was hiding episodes of puking, sometimes with blood because he didn’t want to worry me.
He went to prison before he got the surgery and occasionally had issues sometimes while behind bars, but, it seemed like they did improve. Atleast by what he told me. He came home this October that just passed. This Spring, I realized it was flaring up again. And the past few weeks, I got on him about going to the doctors, ER, something. First, he made an excuse about insurance (he got laid off from a job before the benefits came on). That’s why there’s sliding scale and community health centers! Then, he was more worried about getting his car fixed. There’s some kind of short and it won’t start. That can be repaired & replaced anytime; HE CAN’T. Since the beginning of last month, he’ll just suddenly be like,”I feek sick…” and seconds later bent over getting ill. It’s happened atleast 4 times in my presence. We aren’t living together due to roommate issues that caused us to move back to our parents’ homes so I don’t know the extent. It wasn’t until it was becoming more like bloody bile and seemed worse that he’s attempting to go to the hospital. I’m coming home from my babysitting gig (staying atleast 3-5 days a week in a neighborhood 20 minutes away by car to save on transportation costs) and if he still is at home, am dragging his ass and making sure he is seen & diagnosed properly. He is 31 and should be perfectly healthy…this is serious!
- This topic was modified 4 years ago by MissFormaldehyde.