Post # 1
Anybody else’s SO hung up on the “3 months salary” rule?
No matter how many times I say I don’t care about that rule my girlfriend mentions how an engagement ring HAS to be 3 months salary.
She has mentioned before that even though I wear the ring every one congratulates her on the choosing, “brand name”, size etc. Is this a pride thing for her? Did anyone else find this about their SO?
It’s really sweet but I don’t need to be carrying that much money with me everywhere for the rest of my life….
Post # 2
My Fiance didn’t care about the 3 months salary rule. In fact, I’m not sure if he’s even heard of it.
Post # 3
Mine spent less than 3 month salary. He designed a ring I love without regard to price. I think the wedding industry made up that rule.
Post # 4
You DO NOT need to spend 3 months salary my fiancee didn’t and my ring is beautiful (in my opinion).
I agree about the rule being made up by the wedding industry!
Post # 5
lol – don’t I wish! If he had followed that rule I’d have a HUGE rock on my hand.
Acutally, I’m just kidding about wishing it were true (but not about the fact that my rock would be bigger). That “rule” is nothing more than a marketing campaign by DeBeers to get people to buy more, and I love my ring the way it is! And since diamonds are really a bad investment, I probably would think he was crazy / not responsible if he did follow that rule.
Post # 6
my SO was hung up on what he envisioned engagement rings “should” cost. He still is I am sure. I showed him 1k options originally and he completely refused saying it was too low for a ring. Uhh okay? He’s never been engaged before so I’m guessing that he is going off our friends’ rings which are ridiculous. They were the down payment on my car. So yes, I feel your pain.
Post # 7
We joked about the “rule”, but I don’t think he stuck to it. I told him not to anyway. His 3 month salary is comparable to the annual salary of some ppl and I couldn’t imagine having a luxury car on my hand.
Post # 8
I remembrt when it was the 2 month salary rule. The people selling the rings are yhe ones making these “rules” :/
Post # 9
Ok so I’m not the only one with a stick in the mud.
Post # 10
I don’t think mine knows about the rule, but he does know that the standard ring is a white gold or platinum setting with diamonds. I completely threw him for a loop when I showed him the rings I liked. (Moissanite and sapphire with various unique settings.) The last time we talked about marriage (when we had the timeline talk) he ended the convo by saying “Are you sure you want one of the rings you sent me pictures of? I showed ___ and asked for opinions and they said none of them look like engagement rings.”
Post # 11
I could guess where the rule comes from. Lol. Well, she seems pretty determined, I’m not ungrateful that she’s happy to spend but I just wonder if it’s her pride too?
In terms of engagement she wants to help plan the wedding and be at the engagement party. She wants nothing to do with bridal showers, bachelorette parties etc. So maybe this is what she sees as her glory? She gets the compliments on her ring choice, brand, style etc?
Hmmmmm! I will keep reminding her…
Post # 12
My Fiance got my ring based on what he could afford. I’ve never asked him what he spent, but I think I can ballpark it and it’s probably not 3months worth but pretty close…despite me always telling him I’d be happy w a simple inexpensive ring from any store. I wanted a commitment not a piece of jewelry.
Everyone always asks to see the ring and they always do congratulate him on picking a nice one. So I can very much imagine that she wants to be proud of what she’s putting on your finger. I know I would.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
No, we both find it ridiculous, it’s a “rule” created by the diamond industry…so that says it all. My SO will be spending closer to 1 months salary which we both find more appropriate.
Post # 14
(insert super-thinly-veiled humblebrag about how 3 months’ worth of my husband’a salary would have resulted in an OMG RIDICULOUSLY HUGE GIGANTIC rock)
No. I actually had never heard of this “rule” before joining this site, and I doubt my husband had.
Post # 15
I would not feel comfortable wearing 3 months salary on my finger! That would be an almost $17k ring. I don’t think I could ever wear it lol.
Our budget is $5k max, but will more likely be around $3500. And I am very happy with that, so is he.