(Closed) Anybody else's SO….?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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lesbimarried:  Just saw your newest response. I worked in Jewellery stores for a long time, and the 3-months salary ‘rule’ is well known, but this is the first time I’ve heard of the carats-age rule! Man, we could have upped a lot of stones if it was more common-place 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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lesbimarried:  Holy smokes, I really didn’t think people still followed that! My Fiance spent about 1/2 a months salary on my entire set. Spending 3 mos. salary on a ring is insanity.

 

If she’s really hung up on the name brand thing, maybe check out Overstock. They have seriously discounted Tacori settings (with CZ in them) that you can pruchase and have reset with a diamond. She would have to be a white gold/platinum girl though, because they don’t have any other colors.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Loveless Barn

Side note, is the ‘rule’ pre-tax dollars or not? 😛

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t know how much my ring cost, but I REALLY hope it wasn’t 3 months of his salary. I’d feel so uncomfortable wearing something worth that much on my hand!

Post # 37
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Helper bee

He is not so much set on the “rule” but he is definitely prideful. I do NOT want to be wearing that much money on my finger and have told him NUMEROUS times that what I really want is a moissnaite ring. He refuses to believe me because he thinks that all girls want a huge diamond on their finger and that my sole purpose for wanting moissanite is to save him money… Sigh…

Post # 38
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Helper bee

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RobbieAndJuliahaha:  That is EXACTLY what my SO thinks. He doesn’t believe me that I really do not want him to spend that much. And it isn’t because of him actually spending it, but because I am a very clumsy person and I would feel absolutely terrible if I ever were to lose it or break it. Plus- I feel like that money can be much better spent somewhere else.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Nope. 

He spent… I think two weeks or so of his take-home salary (after taxes) on my e-ring? That three-month rule is diamond industry BS. 

He did waste a lot of time trying to “do it right” in regards to the ring, though. There were several months of him derping around trying to find the perfect colored gemstone when I said I DON’T EVEN CARE ANYMORE, JUST GET ME A PLAIN GOLD BAND AND BE DONE WITH IT since we had been living together 4.5 years and I was so over it. 

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Rustic barn/ pavilion

A company called De Beers whos clever advertising and prior monopoly of the diamond market made up these “rules” to increase sales and manipulate consumers. There was time when this company controlled 90% of the world’s diamond market. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/De_Beers

Post # 41
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Blushing bee

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futuremrsm2889:  That’s my Fiance exactly. I made it a point to show him the exact ring I wanted, the first time we talked about marriage. It was moissonaite and diamond ring and a price I was comfortable with. When he realized it wasn’t a diamond he made it clear that was not going to happen, since he is dead set on all women want huge diamonds and I only wanted a moissy due to the lower price. I did get the ring I wanted, just not a moissy… He pretty much found the same exact ring and surprised me with it March of this year… Men… Sigh…

Post # 42
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Sugar bee

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lesbimarried:  LOL at all those rules! I wonder if anyone has gone by those ones!? CRAZY! How on earth does the carats must match her age rule work? I am 29, would he need 2.9 carats or 29? If it’s 29 I will be waiting a while… HAHAHA

To me (and SO) all that matters is that I love the ring and that he likes it.

We won’t even be spending 3 months salary on our wedding (IF we stick to the budget we set!) lol. We just can’t justify more than $10k for a wedding when we desperately need to save for a house.

Post # 43
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Blushing bee

The rule is bull sh!t, just like valentines day.

Celebrate love often, not on a fabricated “holiday”.

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