- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
So, i did. I mean we didn’t technically end it but we haven’t spoken since the say of my wedding, even that day we didn’t really talk. It’s so unfortunate.
We had been best friends since preschool. It was only natural to ask her to be one of my 7 bridesmaids. She seemed so excited when i asked her!! She wanted to know all the details and was genuinely happy… i thought.
As the wedding festivities drew closer she just stopped responding to the groups emails. The girls really didn’t know eachother since they were from different points in my life; preschool, middle school high school, college, family members, and it was hard to get them together before the wedding since they were in 4 seperate states, but they were fast friends joking with eachother on the email thread etc… i did notice that the other girls would ask FRIEND a question and we would see the email was read but she never replied.
She was the very last person to order her dress and had to pay a rush fee because no matter how many times i reminded her and my Maid/Matron of Honor reminded her she ignored us. She didn’t attend my bridal shower and didn’t bother to RSVP to my mom or Maid/Matron of Honor who were throwing it. My Maid/Matron of Honor called her the day before and she said she was too busy with work so she couldn’t come. 4 days after my bridal shower I saw on facebook she was going to Atlantic City to celebrate a work friends birthday for 3 days. I guess she wasn’t too busy for that… That really hurt me. A person only gets ONE bridal shower, there are plenty of birthdays. She didn’t show up to my bachelorette party (that really wasn’t a big deal, we got our nails done and went to dinner and a comedy club) and told my Maid/Matron of Honor that she was “too busy at work” again.
At dinner my girls presented me with a sweet card that they all kissed with lipstick on. Two of my maids couldn’t make it since one was in North Dakota and one was in North Carolina so they scanned their lips to my Maid/Matron of Honor who scanned them onto the card which was so sweet. No lips from FRIEND. Then my Maid/Matron of Honor surprised me with stories she collected funny moments I’ve shared with the girls and i had to guess who’s story was from who it was so fun. Everyone sent one in… except FRIEND.
Wedding day rolled around and everyone showed up at my house on time to get ready, have breakfast and head to the church. My mom catered a beautiful brunch for everyone. FRIEND arrived 5 minutes before the limo arrived all disheveled and complaining she was tired. Turns out she went drinking the night before and was hung over. I honestly didn’t let it bother me at the time. I was too absorbed with the fact that i was marrying the best man ever and my other girls and i were enjoying ourselves. Looking back it’s a little annoying though.
My grandmother who i was EXTREMELY close to passed away in november less than a month after my wedding. Every single one of my friends including all my bridesmaids either sent a card or a thoughtful text or came to the wake if they wre able. FRIEND sent nothing, nor did she acknowledge the passing of my beloved grandmother.
That was the last straw for me. We haven’t spoken since the wedding and i dont care to speak to her again. She certainly didn’t care about me. Anyone else lose a friend after they were a bridesmaid?