(Closed) Anybody ever take a chance on their last baby being a specific gender?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My best friend’s parents wanted a boy and 2 kids total, but had 2 girls. They tried for a boy with their third kid and had a third girl!

That’s the only story I know of personally where a couple took a chance on having an extra kid just to have the other gender. It can really go either way. 

I say have the number of kids you’re comfortable and happy with having. If you don’t want 4, which is a lot!, stop at 3. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

No. But I am the product of that last chance. After having three boys in a row, then a girl and then another boy, my mom and dad always wanted a second girl. By then my siblings were big enough and also wanted a baby sister. And well, along I came! Lol. They were lucky enough that they got what they wanted. I am thankful for being here but I am not sure I would have risked it if it was me with 5 Kids already! That being said, my mom is 77, and those were definitely other times. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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karmalkween:  I’m one of three girls. My parents had my younger sister because they wanted a boy…it didn’t happen. My fiance is the youngest of three boys…he was supposed to be the girl.

Apparently, my mom wanted to try for #4, but my dad didn’t want to. 

FWIW, all 3 of us were c-sections.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Lol, I grew up with a family who really wanted a son and they got one eventually…after having EIGHT daughters.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I would not have more children than we wanted as a family in order to try for one sex or the other. DH and I decided that we wanted three, and it would be doubtful that we could afford to educate more than three, so the sex of the babies didn’t matter. 

My mum’s family had five children, with the youngest being a boy. He was the golden child who could do no wrong, and I’ve always been suspect of families with larger numbers of children who stopped after having one of the opposite sex. I feel sorry for the children who were “placeholders” until the “right” sex turned up.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - His Way Church & Chesapeake Room @ Downs Park

I have heard that can diet play a vital role in creating a vaginal environment that favors a specific sex. High calcium and magnesium creates an acidic environment which girl sperm survives better in. Boy sperm cannot survive in that environment. If you’re trying for a boy, your diet should consist of high salt and high protein. Of course, nothing is 100%, so you’d still be taking a risk. But I would start the “gender diet” about 2 months before TTC. Good luck!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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gijanedoe:  Ive heard that lots of bananas = girls

and FWIW- I told my DH that if we dont get a girl in 2 tries, we are NOT rolling the dice biologically  but will adopt a baby girl as the third baby. I’ve always wanted to adopt and boys run strong in my DHs family ( he is one of 3 boys, his dad has 4 or 5 brothers, his brother has only had sons ect) so I don’t like my odds- best of both worlds.

 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

DH and I have said we want 2 kids. We both really wanted a girl, and luckily our first was a girl. We would actually both be really happy to have another girl, and when we talk names we’re always talking girl names. If we had a boy, I wouldn’t try for another to possibly get another girl.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I know so many couples that keep trying for boys. And I know it’s mean to say they didn’t want their daughters, but I know they definitely would not have had any more children if they just birthed 1-2 boys to begin with.

I have a friend with 3 daughters under the age of 4, her husband mentioned their imaginary future son being their ‘golden child.’ I have another friend who had 1 son then 3 daughters trying to have another boy. One sad story I know a couple who had a stillborn son and then kept having healthy daughters (2 and preg. with a 3rd now), they won’t be satisfied until they birth a healthy son to make up for the one they lost (they said this). I feel really bad for those girls and I hope they don’t grow up feeling like consolation prizes.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am one of six girls. So I wouldn’t take the chances! I really want a boy but I’m pregnant with my first and it’s a girl! I think I wouldn’t mind adopting if we couldn’t have another child/boy but I don’t think I will rish having six girls and never getting the boy I wanted haha! 

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Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My fiance and I talk about having the most 4 kids. We have a son now but if we end up with a girl net round than I would be 100 percent happy with just two kids. If we end up with four boys than after the fourth boy I am calling it quits. Not havong a fifth kid hoping it will be a girl cause it most likely wont be. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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karmalkween:  there’s a family in My hometown, and they had 5 sons, they trird twice more for a girl and had two more sons. It’s definitely risky because you have no control over the outcome! 

DH and I would like one of each, but 2 kids total. If they both end up being girls or boys, we’ll be ok with that!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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Helper bee

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MadameHibou:  There’s a family like that down the road from me, except they had ten boys before they finally got their girl! Thank goodness for them they have a huge dairy! But their dad’s side of the family was ginormous. He had 16 brothers and sisters, so eleven kids might not have seemed like a lot to him.

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