(Closed) Anybody ever take a chance on their last baby being a specific gender?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

DH has 2 older brothers, and if he hadn’t been born, his parents would have adopted a girl. His mom was almost 40 when he was born and I guess they decided 3 boys was enough for them though!

On the flip side, I’m also a 3rd child, and when my mom was pregnant with me at least one person asked her why she was having another when she already had one of each gender. Because I’m awesome damn it!

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My aunt and uncle had 2 boys, decided to try for another child and had twin boys – so now they have 4 sons! 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Family friends of ours had three boys and decided to have one more in the hope it would be a girl – and got twin boys!

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My friend had 3 boys and wanted a girl. The 4th one was a boy.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know a gal who had 3 boys, they really wanted a girl and got boy #4. I’d be happy just to have healthy babies, no matter if they’re a boy or girl. As long as you and hubby are on the same page and you’re healthy I say go for it.

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Honestly, Fiance and I want two with an option for a third later down the line, but if we had two girls, I’d probably be happy to stop at two, whereas if we had two boys I’d probably want to go for three. I know I’ll be happy with whatever I get, but I’d love to have at least one girl. Fiance actually only wants girls (Lord knows why), so we always say with both of us wanting hard for a girl, we’ll be blessed with all boys haha. 

In my family, there are three girls and then finally a boy. My parents weren’t necessarily going for the boy. They had my two sisters, thought their family was complete, and then felt the desire to expand their family. Had me, didn’t want me to feel like an “only child” (my sisters are several years older than me), so they had my brother. My mom wanted to go for a fifth, but my dad put his foot down. Four was his magic number. 

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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KitSnicket:  Same thing happened to my parEnts (with girls) and my sister (with boys).

Post # 23
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Honey Beekeeper

If people really think like this they probably have no business having children, all of whom deserve to be wanted and loved for exactly who they are.  When people run their mouths off this way in real life, they also risk hurting their future child. I’ve known of vindictive exes and stupid BILs who told the kids  mom or dad really wanted a baby of the opposite sex. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If me and DH ever have kids I know he wants a boy and I want a girl! I can’t see us having more than 2 kids (I guess you never know though!) and if we ended up with 2 boys I think I’d be happy to call it quits and just enjoy having two sons. however I have a suspicion my DH would try and persuade me to keep trying if we had two girls – not because he wouldn’t love them, just because he likes the idea of having a ‘mini me’ he could do his boys things with!! 

Post # 25
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Blushing bee

I have this fear myself!  I really want one of each.  At this point we definitely want 3.  I think if it came down to it and we had 3 girls, I would let it be DH’s call on if he wanted to try once more for a boy.  If it came down to 3 boys, I would call a halt to reproduction myself, because 3 boys is already a lot to handle… not sure if I could handle risking 4!!  4 girls wouldn’t be too bad, though 🙂  I’m pretty resigned to having 3 boys, though, because DH has two brothers (his youngest was supposed to be the girl), but DH says his house was crazy at some points!  Right now I’m pregnant with #1, team green, so we’ll see!<br /><br />

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

read the book “Perfect Peace” by Daniel Black

i read it for my book club, it was a really great book.

one mother takes this to the extreme.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I really want a daughter, but we are not having more than two children. I would be happy with two boys if that’s how it plays out. I’m a little nervous though because the odds are not in our favor haha. My husband is the oldest of 4 boys & his dad is the yougenst of 3 boys!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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karmalkween:  My Brother-In-Law and SIL always wanted a girl. They finally got one with #6. I know #3,#4, and #5 definately felt like they were way less special because their parents would have never tried for them if they had a girl first. 

If you want another child, go for it. Just pray it is happy and healthy, not for a specific gender.

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

My stepmother knows a couple who, after much agonising, decided to have a third child because they had two boys and wanted a girl.

They had twin boys.

My Mother-In-Law knows another couple who, after having two boys, also decided after much discussion to try for a girl.

They had triplet boys.

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My SIL is seriously thinking of having another, to try for a girl. They currently have 2 boys. The oldest is 6, and the youngest will be 3 next month.

DH’s brother also has 2 boys, so who knows if that’s just the genes in the family – and they are done.

I am hoping a girl gene slips through there, but know SIL will be very jealous.

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