(Closed) Anybody ever take a chance on their last baby being a specific gender?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 31
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karmalkween:  God no! I’m too lazy to sign up for a whole nother KID just to see what kids with the other genitals are like. Especially since the odds are 50% against you anyway. That’s up to 3 more years of diapers and 8 more years of teen angst. For even odds that this one might be able to pee standing up? No way. I’m just not that curious.

Post # 32
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karmalkween:  My parents had 3 girls and then a boy – they were hoping for a boy.  Then dad and step mom also had a boy which was unexpected as my dad was ‘old’ and apparently the chances of having a girl increase with male age (so I’ve heard, might be an old wives tale)

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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I have family friends that wanted to have kids. She got pregnant. She was hoping for a girl. He was hoping for a boy. They got twin boys. Double win for him! About a year later they tried again because she really wanted a girl. They got…..two more boys!!! Seriously! Two sets of fraternal twin boys in a row. That’s 4 boys under the age of 2! After that they were done!

I also have a friend who just had her fourth boy. I don’t know if she’s planning to keep trying but that’s a lot of boys!

Personally, I’d have the number of kids you want and can afford and stop there, regardless of gender.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
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If your kid is the “wrong” gender, they’ll be able to sense it.

My parents desperately wanted a boy but got me instead. My sister cried when I was born and my father said, “Ugh, name it whatever you want” before leaving the room. 

This is so painful, Bees. Adopt if you will be disappointed, because even though they NEVER told me I was unwanted, I could feel the disappointment my whole life. I just didn’t know why until my grandma let it slip before she died. 

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MsGinkgo:  Interesting to know that, even if it’s an old wives tale! DH will be 36-37 when we start TTC… so that gives me some hope! His side currently has 4 boys – so a girl would be nice to add ot the mix!

Post # 36
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Honestly it really irritates me when people have more kids just for the sake of trying for a different sex. If you would be EXTREMELY disappointed with another child of the same sex, ffs do not try for another kid. That’s just wrong IMO.

Post # 37
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LadyKM:  That’s my concern! We’ve been talking about having just one child, but I get the feeling that if it was a girl, DH would want to go for #2 to see if it’s a boy.

Men. ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 38
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karmalkween:  I’m the oldest of 6 kids.  My Dad really REALLY wanted a boy.  He had 3 daughters, then my mom miscarried, then 4 years later she had another girl, two years later he finally got a boy on their 5th try, then he was so sure the next would be a boy so they had a 6th and sure enough a boy. 

Personally I only want one kid, maybe two…but if I had two I’d almost want one of each and there is no guarantee so I don’t think I’d take the chance on a 4th if 3 is all you want.  Good luck if you go for it! 

Post # 39
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Westwood: 100%. I really wish they hadn’t rolled the dice with me. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
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I know someone who had 2 boys and tried for their girl. They had another boy. It wasn’t so much ‘trying’ for the girl but they said ‘this is it – no more after’. They probably would have loved a girl but they love the boy and always only hoped for a healthy happy baby. That wish was granted ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 41
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It depends on how many kids you want or are willing to have. My Aunt and Uncle ended up with FIVE boys doing this. I’ve never been lucky gambling. I am set at only wanting to have two children. My first was a boy and we are trying for #2 now. I always imagined myself with a little girl, but I can honestly say that I don’t care if it happens or not anymore. If I do have a girl, awesome! If I have another boy, awesome…. and I’ll get to reuse all the clothes ๐Ÿ™‚ Family planning and size is so individualized to each couple, but I personally wouldn’t keep trying just to get a girl. I also don’t feel that financially we can afford to have more than two children and plan to pay for college, take vacations, etc. Personal preference.

Post # 42
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karmalkween:  I know a friend who wanted a girl so badly, and had one at her third child, but I felt like she would have tried one more time if the third would have been a boy.  For us, we’ll stop when we feel like it, not because we want a specific gender.  My cousins wanted a boy, but got a second girl and stopped at that.  They didn’t want three children.

Post # 43
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karmalkween:  I’d probably stop instead of trying again, but it’s ok to try again if you want to. 

My ILs had 2 boys and decided to stop there, even though they would have liked a daughter… But then they got surprise pregnant! It was unexpected because they had to really try for the first 2. They had another boy. But it worked out really great in the end. All 3 boys like the same sports, etc. Now they’re grown up and are all very close. 

So it looks like boys run in DHs family, and I would really like a girl. I guess we’ll see!

Post # 44
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Busy bee
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I really want 3 kids and DH only wants 2.  So I actually almost hope the first 2 are the same gender so I have an easier time convincing him to go for a third!  ๐Ÿ™‚  But I really don’t care if I get 3 girls/3 boys/combination and would never want a 4th to try for the “right” gender. 

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weddingmaven:  Good health is obviously the only thing that matters.  But I’d prefer a girl.  Why?  Because I’m as girly girly as it gets and I just don’t relate to men very well.  Of course, I’d love my child regardless, but I’d have a much harder time talking to a son.  

I have a brother that’s two years younger and a sister that’s ten years younger.  I am so, so much closer to my sister because we have the same interests.  

I’d love a little boy, but I suspect that my adult relationship would be much stronger with a daughter versus a son.  So yes, I’m selfish.  But having children is an inherently selfish thing.  That’s okay.

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