Post # 1
I had a change in the number of people in the wedding party, how many guests we will be having, and even switching one of the wedding colors so I thought even though we’re a year away I’d set up a meeting with her to go over the changes just so she knew. I emailed her a week ago and still nothin’. I follow her on Facebook and see her posting all the time so I know she’s on the Internet. I also was contacting a makeup artist I really wanted to book. She messaged me back where she normally meets and I messaged back the days I’m free and said if we did a weekend I could go up to her, but if she can’t do weekends we’d probably have to meet halfway (30 minutes drive for each of us…nothing crazy). Haven’t heard back from her since lol Anybody else having this problem? What do you do when this is the case?
Post # 2
Do you call or email her? Is she your wedding coordinator or the venues?
Post # 3
I’ve had this problem so much it really got frustrating for me. I would email potential vendors for quotes & especially with caterers, like half them didn’t respond. If a vendor doesn’t email me back I will send a follow up to make sure my last email was received. Or call if I need to.
Post # 4
Yup, I think wedding vendors are notorious for their slow response rates. I was so frustrated too. I thought they were ignoring me, but my wedding planner told me that that’s just the way they operate. If you’re emailing your wedding coordinator at your venue and your wedding is months away, they will get to you eventually, but probably not right away. They prioritize the upcoming weddings.
Post # 5
Honestly, speaking as a wedding vendor I doubt they are ignoring you. They are more than likely insanely busy in the thick of weddings. September & October are prime wedding months, in fact they’re probably the most busy wedding months out of the entire year. Yes it’s certainly not an excuse because they should get back to you, but this time of year all of us are running not so normal office hours as we’re in and out for events, meetings, etc.
All that being said, I’m going to give a little bit of tough love. I mean this in the nicest way possible (seriously)…..I know that switching your wedding colors, changing the number in your bridal party, and increasing guest count seem like a super big deal to you. However, your wedding is a year out and none of those issues are anything that your vendors are going care about until it’s much closer to your wedding. I’m not saying they aren’t important to discuss – but even someone like a florist isn’t ordering or designing your flowers until much closer to your date….telling them about your wedding color change while they’re in the middle of executing weddings for their current and immediate clients – it’s just not something they even have on their radar right now.
Post # 6
Most of mine usually had a 1 week delay. It was frustrating at first, but I got used to it and now expect it lol. I don’t really mind as long as I know they haven’t forgotten about me and do eventually get back to me. October is still busy for most places, with the ever increasing popularity of fall weddings.
Post # 7
What PP have said, basically. We signed contracts in January for an October wedding and, with the exception of our venue, caterer, and coordinator, no one needed to speak with us until about a month out.
These vendors have seen it all! They know that wedding party members and configurations change all the time.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry too much. Our vendors tended to be MIA until just weeks before the wedding. I think it it because they are juggling a million different weddings at any given moment, so they must prioritize the ones that are soonest. On the other hand, we are super hyper focused on our wedding and get frustrated when the vendors appear to be MIA. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. We had several vendors (including our day-of coordinator!) who were nearly radio silent until much closer to the wedding and everything worked out fine. 🙂
Post # 9
Thanks everybody! Glad I’m not the only one lol
I completely understand! I even said in my email to the florist that I know this is a busy time for her so if after the hustle and bustle of the wedding season dies down works better for her than that’s fine. I’m more so just speaking in general about vendors taking a long time. Nothing personal, was just wondering if everybody planning had this experience:) I’m not sure what kind of vendor you are, but I emailed her right away because a wedding florist I had asked about it said that the sooner you let them know the better because if the wedding is smaller than expected she can do another event that day and she’ll need to draft up another price estimate if multiple aspects are changing. Plus, if my wedding flowers end up cheaper than previously thought then I can spend that money to upgrade the bar or something, which would be awesome to know!
Post # 10
Currently 3 days waiting on a response from my DJ 🙁
Post # 11
All my vendors here in Cali were super slow to respond until I put deposits down, then they were on the up and up, lol!
When I lived in the south (Arkansas) and planned my sister’s wedding, it was the other way around! Weird!
Post # 12
+1 on the tough love. Not exactly a super important reason…
Honestly, I haven’t had to wait very long for vendors to respond when we’re trying to book appointments for us to hire them. There have been a few who are slow to respond and while its never the deciding factor, timely responses are important to us. Since then, I also don’t reach out unless its something somewhat serious like scheduling the dinner tasting or sending in a payment in early and we’ve always gotten quick responses.
Post # 13
it took 2 months to book our rehearsal dinner. i wanted to strangle the woman through my computer, but it’s finally done