Post # 1
I’m new to Weddingbee — well, I’ve been reading posts on and off since I got engaged in Feb, but this is actually my first post ever. I’m SO addicted to this place, it’s like crack!
Aaaanyway, I was wondering if any of you ladies are inviting/have invited your boss(es) to your wedding? I’m having a small wedding of roughly 115 guests and I’m only inviting peopel I feel close with, including a few of my coworkers but not all. I feel kinda awkward that I’m leaving some people out from my office, but I really don’t feel strongly about inviting everyone in my team. I do like my boss, and was wondering if I should invite him… but it’s not like we’re close nor that I’m all that comfortable around him as he’s the boss and all. So I’m debating what to do.
Post # 3
I think it’s okay to not invite people from your work that you aren’t close to as long as you aren’t going around talking about your wedding at every chance you get.
Post # 4
We invited all 3 of our boss’s, but we waited until the absolute last second to let them know. We like our boss’s a lot, so it was never a question of if we wanted to, but since things change so often at work we thought it would be wise to wait.
Since you like your boss I say go for it! You can’t go back in time and invite yoru boss after the fact and you will probably regret it, especially if you are inviting other people from your office.
Post # 5
I work in a very small office of 6 people total so I just invited everyone, including my boss.
Post # 6
I am my boss, so I will already be there, but we are also inviting FI’s boss. We aren’t really close to him, but we think that it is only proper.
Post # 7
Both of us have invited our bosses (as well as other co-workers whom we are friendly or even friends with). Both have us have great relationships with our bosses though. If I didn’t, I doubt I would invite her.
@ModernDaisy You made a good point about waiting until later “just in case”. I didn’t think of that-sent the Save-the-Dates last October. If I had left the company for some reason, that definately could have been awkward or problematic!
Post # 8
My personal thoughts on inviting coworkers (boss or not): Don’t invite them unless you actually hang out after work, and would still be friends with them if you left your job today.
I don’t think coworkers generally expect invitations to weddings, anyway.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2010 - Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas
I was debating about inviting my boss, and a week ago, he asked my manager if he was going to my wedding. My manager said, ‘no, it’s in St. Thomas, but I am going to the home party!’ and apparently my boss started asking him all about the home party and who was going. So I kinda felt obligated to send out a last minute invitation. Not a big deal though, cause I was thinking about inviting him anyway.
Post # 10
I agree with MissAB – you shouldn’t feel obligated to invite anyone from your office, but make a concerted effort to not discuss it all the time.
I for one am inviting my boss…but we’re a really small, close-knit nonprofit and I consider him a really good friend. He’s actually somebody that it would mean a lot to have present.
Post # 11
I invited my boss but I am close to her and wanted her there. I think you should only invite someone if you really want them there, not because you feel obligated to. I would like to think most people would understand why they werent invited.
Post # 12
We had the same issue where if we invited some and not others it would probably cause a problem. We both just invited our immediate bosses and kept it at that. Anyone that asked we could say we did it out of respect and tradition or whatever.
Post # 13
No boss – not even coworkers. I am not sure if I’ll even be at this company come wedding time, and I don’t socialize with anybody but 1 person outside of work (who is my neighbour, so I know her from life before work, and she’s invited).
Post # 14
No bosses. My boss is pretty, erm, type A robotic. Not very close to her. I told her I was getting married, and her response was “Ok”. No gushy girl reaction. Definitely not invited.
Post # 15
I’m inviting mine…but that doesn’t mean you have to if you don’t want to. MissAsB is correct. If you don’t want to invite everyone, just don’t talk about your wedding around everyone. If you want your Boss there, you should invite them.
Post # 16
I was only going to invite one coworker who I am close with but a) I talk about my wedding some at work (can’t help it!) and b) I work in a small office so it would only be 20 or so more people. I’m not sure what I’m going to do but am leaning towards inviting them, I just think it would be awkward not to!