(Closed) anybody marrying a pastor?

posted 6 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Mine is a bit different.  My husband was a youth pastor, and I hadn’t interacted with kids for a long time, so it was very difficult.  But he moved to wear I live when we married, and no one is hiring youth pastors in our region anymore, but he is an associate pastor at our church though not very active yet.  It is a bit tough, because there is an expectation that you know all of the right things to say and when you don’t….

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m marrying a man who is entering the ministry. He just graduated from Bible college this past week, and recently started a job as a college minister at a local church. He plans to go back to Seminary to get his mater’s degree and eventually become a pastor of a church. It’s funny that your husband may be ignoring the Lord’s call to the ministry, because that’s what my fiance did when he first heard the “call”. He struggled with God for a while and was pretty miserable, but he eventually surrendered to the Lord and now has so much more peace!

I’m wondering how I will handle the pressure of being a first lady too! I’ve heard that it can be quite difficult at times…But I’m handling it by trusting that God has placed me and my fiance together for a reason, and He’ll equip the two of us to spend our lives in the ministry. I’ve also made the decision to surround myself with a support group of other women (hopefully other first ladies) who I can confide in and look up to as spiritual mentors. otherwise, I think it would be easy for me to feel alone and isolated in my future position as a pastor’s wife. I’m also spending a lot of time with the Lord in quite times of Bible reading and prayer, because I always feel so much better when I’m refreshed in the Lord’s presence.

Blessings to you and your husband as you follow God’s calling! You will never regret it in the end! 🙂

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My situation is even more different – My Fiance was planning on becoming a full-time minister when his first wife left him.  Now, we are marrying.  Many of the churches in his denomination still allow him to preach, and he is considered to be an associate pastor in his church.

He preaches several times a month, and we travel to different churches about once a month.  It definitely has taken some gettting used to! I am never really sure where to sit or how to act, because it is such a new role.  I just focus on asking him each time what he needs from me, and then I do my best to fulfill that.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My Darling Husband is the senior pastor of a small-to-medium sized church in a very small town in a rural area.  Before meeting him, I was a never-married, career woman who had lived alone in a suburb of a major metropolitan area in another state for more than 20 years. 

The transition that I had to make in becoming a pastor’s wife truly paled in comparison to my becoming a wife in general and stepmother to DH’s four kids (two adults, two teens) and having to leave behind the life I had enjoyed for so many years (my friends, my job, my house, my church and church family, my activities, and also my favorite restaurants and stores, etc.) and relocate to join Darling Husband in his world.  It honestly has been overwhelming at times.

I also am from a different denomination than the church where my Darling Husband pastors, so that also definitely has required some adjustment on my part. However, the people of our church are very special, and they have been extremely welcoming to me.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Nope, but my papa is a pastor haha 🙂

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes I am getting married to a pastor. He is notcurrently pastoring, he will be doing his doctoral work before he pastors, but yes it’s an adjustment, but I am thankful that God prepared me because my father is a pastor and although, it’s different roles…it has given me some knowledge, talking to my mom and etc. of her experience and I also have close friends who are married to pastors, so it’s a blessing….but I once heard that ‘ the Spirit of God will never take you, where the Grace of God cannot keep you.’ that has always gotten me through some rough patches, because I know God will enable you to be the best you can be, n whatever your role, as long as you let Him. All the best!!!

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Im marrying a preacher as well. IM FEELING THE PRESSURE OF HAVING A CHRISTIAN WEDDING AND HVING A LITTLE FUN AS WELL. I DONT WANT TO HAVE A BORING RECEPTION I CANT DECIDED IF I SHOULD SERVE WINE OR NOT? SHOULD I HAVE A! DJ OR A BAND? IF SO WHAT KIND OF MUSIC CAN I PLAY THAT WONT HAVE ALL THE OLDER ELDERS HEAD FOD THE DOOR? IM 28 YRS OLD AND MY FIANCE IS 35 . HE ISNT THE UPTIGHT TYPE. ITS THE CHURCH THAT IM WORRIED ABOUT….PLEASE HELP

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