Post # 1
I am a shy person, and I hate being the center of attention..and the idea of all eyes on the groom and I is starting to make me very nervous.
Please share your experiences! Do you really just feel comfortable because it’s your day?
Post # 2
I totally felt this way. The ceremony was the worst, but by the time the reception came around I was relaxed and was able to enjoy the night. Just remember that people aren’t focusing on you as much as you think 🙂
Post # 3
DH and I are both shy/introverted people. We were both a little nervous about being the center of attention on our wedding day but it honesty wasn’t that bad! My sole focus during the ceremony was DH, I didn’t even really notice our guests. It really felt like it was just the two of us. Plus we kept the ceremony nice and short so we weren’t up there too long anyway.
As for the reception, I really didn’t feel like people were paying that much attention to us once we got to the reception. We had a sweetheart table which was nice because it was some alone time for DH and I and we didn’t need to pay attention to anyone else. Everyone was pretty focused on what was going on at their own tables.
I honestly felt some comfortable and relaxed and happy all day.
Post # 4
Good! That’s what I am hoping! Just the idea of that gives me so much anxiety!
Post # 5
I’m SO nervous about this! It’s the only thing I get anxious about when I think about our wedding day.
Post # 6
I’m incredibly introverted and SUPER nervous about this. Luckily, I’ve talked it over with our day-of coordinator and we’re making a plan so I can have a few minutes of breathing time every hour or so, in the bridal suite, away from everyone. Hopefully it helps.
Post # 7
Well, I guess I had the opposite experience of previous posters. I got married Saturday and the whole time leading up to the wedding I was stressed about the attention and sharing such a private part of my life publicly. I desperately wanted to elope, but my husband wanted a wedding, so I finally agrred to have a small 40ish person one. Long story short, it was an awful experience and I was highly stress and uncomfortable. The night ended with me sobbing to my mother in my bedroom while my husband tried to cover for my early exit. The whole day felt like a performance and not my wedding day. It was absolutely terrible.
Post # 8
I’m fairly shy being in front of a crowd. I’m planning on being very tipsy!
Post # 9
I’m an incredibly shy and anxious person. My Fiance is easy complete opposite and his family is very loud and outgoing. I’m afraid that I’ll seem like I’m not having enough fun at my wedding reception. And I don’t want to seem stuck up either.
Post # 10
Yes! my wedding is coming up in October and I’d say that really is the only thing that makes me feel nervous when I think of the day! However all my showers and everything have really dipped my toes into that and honestly I’ve kinda relished the attention. So with each event I get less nervous because the attention is all good attention. Just remember that when you get nervous 🙂 I think this is an extremely normal feeling. Most average people are not used to this magnitude of attention!
Post # 11
I am nervous about this as well! I’m not one who likes to be in the spotlight. From what I hear, the day flies by so you really don’t get a chance to take it all in and think about anything. That might help! LOL!
Post # 13
I’ll be starting the day with mimosas at the very least! That or maybe a little marijuana to help with my social anxiety. I am not looking forward to the ceremony at all. I’m very glad my future husband will be there with me….fainting is a possibility, and not at all glamorous (hilarious one day maybe).
Post # 14
I don’t like being the center of attention either, but on the day of the wedding I was able to put that aside and enjoy myself. I was especially nervous during the ceremony, when everyone was staring at us. Fortunately, I just held my FH’s hands and looked at him the entire time. Seeing him smiling back at me made everything okay. Then, once you get into the reception, it won’t be as much focused on you the entire time. You can also skip the first dance or keep it short (under 2 minutes) so that way you don’t have to worry as much about people looking at you.
Post # 15
My husband was pretty nervous about it. We’re not much of a PDA couple anyway, so it was kind of awkward for us both really, to do something so ‘sacred’ in front of others. Here are some things we did to reduce the perceived attention:
Invite a small guest list – if you know everyone there, you’ll be more comfortable on the day. Don’t let anyone force you to invite your 3rd cousins once removed if you don’t know them or care about them.
Skip the special dances, speeches, tosses, etc – they aren’t necessary, half your guests hate them anyway. It keeps the whole atmosphere more relaxed if you don’t ‘choreograph’ your reception.
Meet with your photographer ahead of time – the weirdest part of our day was having someone take dozens of pictures. You want to feel relaxed and natural about that, so get comfortable with whoever you choose. You may also want to do a First Look to help reduce tension about photos and surprises as you walk down the aisle.
DIY catering – doesn’t work for most people, but my husband insisted that he be allowed to bbq. That way people could come up to him to chat, but he didn’t have to do that awkward greeting to each table. I actually think he’d have been fine, but hey, whatever works!
Last – turns out that once the ball is rolling, you’ll pretty well forget about your audience anyway. Not completely, but you definitely will zero in on the important thing – getting married! We had some humor at our ceremony thanks to mistakes we or our bridal party made, but it was all in good fun and kept us relaxed. And when it came down to it, neither of us paid a lot of attention to the crowd.