(Closed) anyone not changing their last name?

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
11268 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i don’t plan on changing my name.  i am an encore bride and kept my name before too.  it’s just who i am.

my fi doesn’t care.  he says he is marrying me, not my name.

Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

kind of similar, but not exactly

My mom did take my step fathers name, but her kids (me) had a different name so for school purposes she signed her name hyphenated so it wouldnt be so confusing for teachers and school docs. Legally though her name was different than ours due to her new marriage.

Post # 5
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m keeping mine for both professional and personal reasons. He can call me “Mrs. FI” as a pet name. 🙂 And no one is going to think it’s weird if you have a different name — folks have blended families, it’s no big.


Post # 6
1842 posts
Buzzing bee

DH desperately wants me to change my name. If I do change it it won’t be until after my passport expires in 2016

Post # 7
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I did not change my name and have not had a single regret.  It was mostly for professional reasons, but I am personally very attached to it as well.  In our personal life, if I get Mrs. DH, I won’t correct people.  At work, I just said I wasn’t changing and everything has stayed the same.

The one time DH gave me a bit of grief over it, I told him if it meant so much to him, he could change it for me.  I tossed my wallet over.  He took one look and started his back-peddle.

Our kids will have my name as a second middle name with DH’s last name.

Post # 8
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m not changing my name. Fiance doesn’t care what I do, and I really don’t like how my name sounds with his last name, so I’m just keeping mine.

I’m so looking forward to not having the “name change” paperwork and hassle! I just had to renew my passport two weeks ago, so I’m glad I had already decided cuz I’m not paying another $160 to have to renew it again just to change my name come December.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

Post # 9
400 posts
Helper bee

The only reason I wouldnt change mine was for professional reasons, even though I dislike my last name. What is the reason for you not wanting to change yours? THAT is the important part of this.

Post # 11
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not changing my last name… the funny thing is that growing up, I always assumed I’d one day get married and take my future husband’s name.  Now that I’m in that position, I cannot imagine having to give-up a part of my identity so that I can be known as Mrs. DH… I get the romance of it, but I’m not living a fairy tale here.

Post # 12
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not and Fiance is cool with it. Some of my family think its odd, some think its awesome. I can only see one or two people on FI’s side having an actual problem with it.

Post # 13
35 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

lol – I love how so many of us are holding off for passport reasons. I’m a dual citizen so I totally get it!!

I’ve struggled with the name change. I don’t love my last name, but my dad was an only child, his dad immigrated from Sweden and passed away, and my dad has also passed away. It’s only my sister and I, so we won’t have anyone to carry on our family name. So I feel kind of guilty about this.

Fiance doesn’t care at all whether I change or not, but he’s adamant that our kids have his last name. I don’t particularly think either of us have great last names, and they are definitely non-hyphenable.

I don’t know what I’m going to do. For the bride & groom announcement we’re just having them announce us by first and last name. If I do change, it won’t be till my passports expire 😉

I’ll probably consider it more carefully when we’re closer to being ready to have kids in  a few years.

Post # 14
400 posts
Helper bee

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@millielue:  I totally understand your reasoning! Just wondering, if you didnt want to be a member of your FI’s family through his last name that might be a problem 😛 I actually dont really think my SO’s last name sounds good with my name either.. don’t have to worry about that *yet* but there definitely isn’t anything wrong with keeping your name. It is YOUR name afterall.. and the tratidion is somewhat dated.

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