(Closed) Anybody NOT take part in the ring shopping/choosing?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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SarahEliza:  that is GORGEOUS.  Ring envy, right here!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

DH picked out my ring all by himself. We had talked about getting engaged but when I he did propose I totally did not see it coming. Mine is a classic solitare 3/4 carat. I love it! 

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My guy picked it out all on his own with zero input.  I didn’t even tell him which material or color I was interested in because I knew he’d do a great job all on his own, and I don’t wear much other jewelry so it didn’t really matter.  I was shocked he got me a ring with a diamond, but I absolutely adore it!  We picked out wedding bands together.  

The e-ring is a vintage one from 1910 that he found online and fell in love with.  I chose my own wedding band when we went together.

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Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My DH picked out my ring, and I wasn’t involved at all. I think at one poitn a long time before I was casually browsing online and pointed out a few I liked – but other than that I had no say so. Along those same lines, I wouldn’t have changed a thing because my proposal was a total surprise.  

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Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My husband wanted me to be involved because he knows he isn’t the greatest jewlery picker-outer. If I wasn’t a jewlery person, then I probably would have let him do his own thing, but I’m very much so a jewlery person, and he knows I have certain styles I like. I didn’t get super specific with him. I told him I like rectangular shapes (which left him with emerald cut or radiant cut) and that I liked halos in white gold. We went to 2-3 stores together and I tried on different sizes, shapes, etc . I never told him any carat size, and eventually came up with a short list of what I liked. From there, he got a ring made that I had never seen but absolutely love and is perfect. He told me after he proposed that had I not been involved he’d had gone with a solitaire on a plain band because it was a safe bet.

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agmd2016:  not sure about the theory of “he should know your taste in jewelry if youve been together long enough”. Its not like knowing how you take your coffee or how you like your eggs.  A ring can be a major investment,  and I think most men appreciate some direction be it from the  future bride, future Mother-In-Law , pinterest etc. What I wear on a daily basis to work is much trendier than what Id like to wear every day for the rest of my life. I switch between rose gold, pearls, yellow gold…but my engagement  ring will be platinum as I feel its the best everyday metal. Im glad he asked. Also there are a lot of posts here with women redesigning rings bc they are unhappy with them as they had no input. If I were a guy I wouldnt chance it. 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I inherited the stone and we had talked about wanting to design something together. We had a personal jeweler who was amazing. Fiance likes platinum and scrolls,hearts,etc. I like gold,rose gold, thin,dainty, high setting. We are such different styles.  He buys jewelry for me that is in his taste. ๐Ÿ™‚ It was such a special moment with our jeweler bc he had the freedom to come up with what worked best for the diamond. It is a miners cut and from the 1920s. He asked us about metals and I told him the family story/love Story about the stone. It is very romantic. I like wearing pieces that feel the same. That’s when Fiance realized the rose gold band would be much more me than the platinum. It also did more justice to the stone. We both agreed on 6 prong for security and the setting&band are one solid piece. I may have given our jeweler a nudge indicating i preferred a high setting ;-). when the ring was finished, Fiance was almost in tears.  He was so happy it was something we experienced together because now he knows in his heart I love it (unlike other pieces I love simply bc they are “from” Him. 

He “hid” the ring in our house and proposed 4 months later. The proposal was perfect and the ring was still new to me because I had just had a “concept” of it before, no drawings,etc. 

i love that people are taking a less traditional route and including their partners. I have been in the wedding industry and a lot of men can be overwhelmed in the jewelry shop and just go with what the salesperson suggests. 

We have known each other 12 years, together 5. He is a lot of wonderful things but attention to detail, not so much. I am so happy I was included. I don’t think id trust him to pick out a shirt for me, lol. And he would probably say the same. we go for our own styles. 

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Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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agmd2016:  My DH picked out my ring completely alone! I think he did a great job! I told him I liked yellow gold, but that was about it. Honestly, I didn’t even know what I really liked, which probably made it easier for me to fall in love with what he got for me.

He tried SO hard, went to many different places over the course of a few weeks, then finally had it made. It’s so special to me because of the tiny details and how hard he worked to make me happy! <3

 

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

we went looking for rings together but I wasn’t finding anything I really liked. We ended up going to a place to design a ring and I was present for the initial meeting. After that, fiancé said he’d rather surprise me. Im not a fan of surprises but I said fine. it killed me to not know what was going on! lol. But I did have specific things I wanted in the ring. And I sent him ring inspirations Via text. haha. He did a great job and I’m glad it was a surprise. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

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sammy_w:  We did the same thing! I went to the initial meeting, showed him the parts of various rings that I liked, but that was all I got LOL. I wasnt even allowed to see the CADs. I can’t wait to see the final product. Glad you had a great experience!

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My wonderful Fiance had dragged me into jewelry stores a couple of times (after we’d been dating about 3 months!!) so he knew that I like white gold or platinum and I didn’t want a typical halo- but rather something kind of unique. We hadn’t even discussed diamonds.

He got me a gorgeous 1.23 ct f/g vvs1 (I think- may be vvs2) in a very delicate and unique platinum floral halo. I absolutely love it. When I went in to get it sized we looked at bands. I’m not a fan of the band that goes with it because I want to be able to wear the band on it’s own and I found one that I loved and he ordered it on the spot. I love this guy!

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My fiancé picked out my ring all by himself and the proposal was a complete surprise. We were already living together so we knew marriage was coming somewhere down the line but I had no idea that he would propose when he did. I had casually mentioned a few times that I like really simple jewelry and didnt want anything too big or something that costs a fortune so i guess he had somewhat of an idea of what I liked. He did a great job though and surprised me with a beautiful round .33ct white gold solitaire that is pretty much exactly what I would have chosen for myself. I’m happy I wasn’t a part of ring shopping, the fact that he chose it and everything was a complete surprise makes it feel so much more special to me ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 28
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Busy bee

He sent a couple of rings in the beginning when we were just brushing the topic of engaged. He has good taste in jewelry so I told him the top 3 cuts I prefer but nothing else (his clothing choices are another story. Jewelry is good). So it was a surprise and he totally shocked the hell out of me. 

if he wasn’t a good shopper I would definitely want to be involved. I know he’d rather me be happy then spend his hard earned money on something I didnt love (like clothes. He knows not to shop for clothes for me.)

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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agmd2016:  I pretty much let him pick out the ring, I did say a couple times that I love the shape of mypromise ring(and he obviously listened) since that’s what I got, but I never went ring shopping and tried my best to shut up about it since I wanted it to be a surprise. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee

Fiance picked mine out himself. He asked what I wanted and I told him to look at Pinterest if he really wanted to know, so he did. I didn’t think he was seriously thinking of proposing.  I had pinned lots of rings so he took that to the jeweler and said “this is what she wants.”

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