Post # 1
This past weekend I got pedicures with my best friend, and then we decided to look around TJ Maxx since it was closeby. While we were there, I saw wedding dresses marked down to $99 including one that I was a little obsessed with before JCrew got rid of their line of wedding dresses. I felt so silly trying it on when I’m not even engaged, but it was so lovely. My friend convinced me I’d be crazy not to buy it. If I end up using it, I saved over $1000 on my dress, and I still have 30 days to return it if I change my mind.
Anybody else buy the dress before the proposal?
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2020 - City, State
About 5 years ago I bought a dress that I absolutely loved but was being discontinued and I wasn’t engaged. When I finally did get engaged, to someone else over a year later, I mentioned that I already had a dress and he was not happy with the idea of me wearing a dress that I didn’t buy ‘for our wedding’. So, I bought a new one, and a reception dress, for our wedding…which never happened. Now, three years later, I am engaged to someone else, and I have 3 wedding dresses. None of which I can fit in or want to wear to my wedding next year.
My suggestion is to wait until you are engaged, unless you know it is coming soon. Our tastes change and who knows, they may come out with a dress that you like even more by the time you actaully do get engaged and figure out what type of wedding you are going to have. Hope this helped.
Post # 3
yes! Funnily enough I purchased my JCREW wedding “skirt” when they were having their huge sale when they went out of business on the wedding side of things. I bought it about 1.5 years before I was engaged, and still loved it just as much!
ETA: we had a short engagement, so I was so happy to already have a dress and not have to look for one!
Post # 4
This sounds a bit crazy town to me. Does your bf know you’re buying wedding things before being engaged?
On a side note, I didn’t even know they sold wedding dresses, so that’s cool.
Post # 5
Yes I bought my dress before getting engaged. I knew we were going to get engaged soon and the bridal salon was having a 10% off trunk sale.
Post # 6
If the dress is ridiculously cheap then I see no problem with buying it. Just maybe don’t think about it as a wedding dress? Think of it as formal wear and don’t discount it should a fun event arise. It would be a shame to see it go to waste waiting for another opportunity someday down the line. Plus, by the time your wedding day roles around you might prefer a different style.
Post # 7
I did! He has the ring but hasn’t asked yet. I purchased my dress already because I’m having it custom made and we want a short engagement, so I wanted to make sure it was finished and delivered on time for any alterations it may need.
Post # 8
I did about a year before I got engaged. I got a good deal,so I didn’t regret it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
I did. We were not engaged but we knew we wanted to get married and had a timeline down and my dad and I just walked into a store to just look and I found something at a price that was good and could be altered so I just grabbed it. Figured it might be difficult to find something nice and simple at David’s bridal again. And turned out I was right. I never saw that dress ever again whenever I have gone in there. I wouldn’t have done it though unless we hadn’t had the This Is Happening talk and started researching rings together though.
Post # 10
Generally I’m against the idea of buying a wedding dress before an engagement, but $99 for one you really like? Eh, why the hell not?
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I would, if I found something I loved. But I’ve been told that we need to be married in 6 months (ACK!!! WHO DOES THAT before proposing???) and the proposal is coming at least by Feb. 14.
I’m completely losing my marbles, and at this point I’d buy even a bin bag that looked fab.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chaska, MN
I did! Just received mine too! My boyfriend and I also have the big stuff set in stone like date, photography, venue, food, and bridal party. We started planning in November last year after talking about it for a few months. I also just found out he finally bought the ring so it’s “officially” happening soon!
I would totally buy it!!!
Post # 13
lauraloo : haha oh god my mother would kill me x.x
Post # 14
Hmm, not quite the same but similar.. When BCBG was closing all the stores, I bought a beautiful column dress for 80% off. I figured it’d be great for a gala or fun glam event, but deep down I was thinking/hoping it’d be great for an engagement photo shoot. This was before I was seeing anyone seriously. Fast forward a few years, and whaddya know, it was perfect for the e photo shoot! 🙂
Also, my mom bought her dress for my wedding before I was dating anyone, haha. She did the same thing with my brother, though he was in a serious relationship at the time. So she ended up wearing the two dresses intended for her two children’s weddings.
Post # 15
I bought mine before I even knew my boyfriend but it was a bit of a different situation.
I was looking for a dress to wear to a prom themed party at a thrift store and when digging through the racks came across the most GORGEOUS cream colored vintage gown. I knew it wasn’t what I was looking for for the party but I loved it and wanted to try it on anyway. And then it fit wonderfully and looked so beautiful I thought I’d be a fool not to buy it. It was only $14 so I brought it home.
When I got home I looked up the tag and found out it was a very expensive designer gown, so I put it in a garment bag and brought it to my mom’s house for safe keeping. Over time I decided I wanted to wear it one day as a wedding dress.
I say go for it. Some people may think you’re crazy but I think it’s crazy to spend thousands of dollars on a dress you’ll only wear once. And when the money you’d have otherwise spent on a dress is instead paying for the open bar at your wedding one day, that should be enough to shut up the haterssss