Anybody purchase wedding dress BEFORE getting engaged?

posted 3 months ago in Dress
Post # 16
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - By the lake

I’ve been engaged since July 2017 and our wedding is in June 2020.  Nope, I haven’t even started looking.  I’m more concern about the venue.  I’m easy to please.  It’s going to be simple and I’m not going over $800.

Post # 16
139 posts
Blushing bee

Bought mine for $35. I knew he was going to ask though ….

Post # 17
631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

We weren’t officially engaged but knew we were going to be getting martoed. We had a rough timeline and he knew I bought it. I found the one I wanted cheap on eBay and he encouraged me to go for it ( he didn’t see it).

Post # 19
170 posts
Blushing bee

YUP. (We had already discussed getting engaged, so I knew a proposal was coming within the year, though.)

I happened to check the facebook page for the Etsy shop I was stalking my dress on one day and noticed they were having a 15% off sale (first time I had seen a sale with the shop ever). YES, PLEASE. Feverishly consulted with my mom, sister, and bridesmaids, and then pulled the trigger. Best decision ever – saved me over $100 and ensured my materials were set aside for future use!

Post # 20
252 posts
Helper bee

A friend of mine told me that her mother convinced her to buy a wedding dress that not only was very cheap (it was on clearance) but also looked good on her. One of her friends passed by and asked, “I didn’t know you were engaged. When are you getting married?” Her mother responded, “Some day.” A dacade later, she got married. 

Post # 21
90 posts
Worker bee

Yes!  I came across a wedding dress in my early 20s on a vintage clothing website.  It’s been hanging in my closet for at least 7 years.  I was dating someone at the time and we were talking about getting married so I bought it just in case because I’m insanely picky and I knew it could take me over a year to find something I liked because I only wanted vintage.  We dated for 9 years and I changed my mind about marrying him over time, but I’m still so glad I bought the dress.  It was under $300 and it still fits perfectly (never needed alterations) and I love it.  Now I’m in a new long term relationship and we plan on getting engaged in the next year or so (job location problems are holding it up).  One less thing to worry about!

Post # 22
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Kind of. I bought my dress when I was engaged to a different guy but we broke up. I’ve never seen another like it, and loved it soooo much. 

12 years later, I married my husband in it. We talked about it beforehand and I made sure he was really, really OK with it. He loved it. I planned to sell it after the wedding but he won’t let me because he’s sentimental about it!

I’m really glad I kept it. Not just for financial reasons, but I don’t really like a lot of current wedding dress fashion and I’d never have found one like this now. 

Post # 23
23 posts
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Estes Park, CO

Yep. We are getting married when we think our kids are ready, and it’s not yet but probably soon, so we are not officially engaged. We designed my ring together and it’s waiting at the jewelers for him to pick up. In the meantime, I picked up a $3k dress at a sample sale for $399 when I was shopping with a girlfriend for her dress. It just CALLED me because it matched my great grandma’s shoes that I want to get married in. 

When the kids are ready we are going to plan a simple ceremony and do the thing hopefully within a few months, no two year waiting and giant venue and a crowd. Right now the tentative plan is to wed on our family vacation in July. Having the dress ready is nice, actually. Our checklist may not be happening in the traditional order, but it works for us. 

Post # 24
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains

Yes…. I was 99% sure the proposal was coming and I had been watching dresses and the one I liked went on sale for half off and my size was still available. I saved $750 with 30 days to return. I’m very glad I bought it when I did.

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