Post # 1
I know it’s not all about the gifts! But my Fiance and I are one of those rare couples who actually are starting our lives together and have very little to no household items. Our wedding is this Saturday and our registry has barely been touched. Out of 100 people expected to come only 8 gifts have been purchased. Our most expensive item is a vacuum (and we put it on there not expecting people to buy it but to get the discount after the wedding). Has this happened to anyone else? Just wanted to vent and know if this is common these days.
Post # 2
You’ll probably get a lot of cash. 90% of our registry was done just from the shower, and we only got a few physical gifts at the actual wedding. If you didn’t have a shower it makes sense that not a lot of people bought from your registry. I personally always give cash at weddings, and only give something off the registry if there’s a shower.
Post # 3
i’m assuming you mean very few
gifts (as in quantity) and not very little
gifts (which refers to size). because i certainly received little
gifts, but also many
gifts. as for your registry, is it common in your area to gift cash (like in the northeast US)? or are registries the be-all-and-end-all of gifting (like in the southeast US)? if it’s the former, many people will likely bring a card with cash or a check – i know that’s always my standard gift; i typically don’t bother with registries.
Post # 4
Did you have a shower? In my area (northeast, US) it is common to bring a boxed gift to the shower, and money to the wedding. Were guests made aware you have a registry? I wouldn’t worry about it. If you receive cash, use it on the household items you were hoping to receive. Seems odd, though. Everything on my registry was purchased, which surpised me. Not one item left.
Post # 5
A lot of people gift money these days, at least in my circle. Also – it’s not unusual for people to buy the gift last minute and just ship it you directly. We got a few gifts in the days following our wedding as well as before.
Post # 6
For my sister’s wedding, I know she had gifts coming in on the second to last day (There were even people who bought stuff on her wedding date) which was delivered to her home later.. You could always make a cash fund on your registry so you could use that to buy household items too.
Post # 7
Agree with the bees above- where I’m from, most people give physical gifts for the shower and cash/checks for the wedding. Also, for my friends who have recently been married, many gifts were bought in the few days before the wedding and even afterwards to get sent to their house. I wouldn’t worry!
Post # 8
You may get a lot of cash at the wedding.
Post # 9
People end up buying a lot of the gifts the day of or day prior to the shower. Do not worry about it. You might also get a lot of gift cards as well. I got a lot of gift cards and some cash at mine. I also received gifts from the registry later. Like some people that didn’t come to my shower sent me a gift and some people bought stuff off my registry and gave it at the actual wedding. I am even still getting gifts mailed to me after the wedding. We now have so many gifts I don’t know what to do with everything. I think you should just relax and wait. I bet you will end up getting some stuff later on.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for your kind replies!
To answer the questions above:
Yes, I mean very few gifts. Sorry!
We are getting married in the south east but a lot of our friends are from the NE. Maybe that’s it, but even family hasn’t touched the registry (and they are from the SE as well).
We had a wedding website and links to it were on there.
Yes, I also had a shower. Got a lot of declines because it was out of town, even then only one person bought off the registry. Everyone else bought random gifts that were not on my registry.
Getting cash wouldn’t be the end of the world, hoping for that!
Post # 11
i received a handful of boxed gifts at my weddings. most of it was envelopes with checks. or people mailed gifts a few weeks later.
i know i don’t always bring a gift to the wedding and mail a check a few weeks later, after they return from their honeymoon.
i would assume people wouldn’t want to carry a gift to a wedding or let you worry about carrying boxes home.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
We got a lot of cash and very few physical gifts, but I also didn’t have a bridal shower so I wasn’t really expecting physical gifts anyway.
Post # 13
Dude…I buy gifts the day of. MAYBE the day before. I wouldn’t worry about it yet.
Post # 14
I honestly wouldn’t worry about it and be grateful for the gifts you do get. I bet most people are just going to give cash.
Post # 15
You’ll likely receive cards with money. Personally, I always give money when I’m a wedding guest.
1) It’s easier to bring a card with money in my purse instead of a physical gift
2) It seems like a win-win. The couple can use the money to buy off their registry or toward something else.