(Closed) Anybody Scared to Say Yes to the Dress?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I had a tough time deciding…I’m such a shopper, I wanted to make sure I got to see all of my options! But when you know, you know. So if you haven’t had that moment yet, maybe you should keep shopping 🙂

Post # 4
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889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club

@babypearls:  not at all. If you go through my threads you will see how many times i said yes than changed my mind then went back to the dress etc. Than i found my dress and it was it. Even now i said yes and still i’m having this agonizing fear that i’ll hate it when it comes in cause i didn’t try it in the color i ordered so a little scared here and if i hate it i have no choice cause i blew my budget getting it. Trust me i know how hard it is LOL but we will be ok and look FAB on our day 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

In my normal life I am a very decisive person, however, since I started this quest for the perfect dress, I have become this girl I just don’t know- I can’t make a decision, not on a dress, invitations, flowers anything. Even my friends are asking me questions like what’s up with you, my Fiance thinks it’s funny. I am paralyzed by worry about being judged, having dress regret, looking fat, being too traditional being too “out there”. I think I have to get my %@#$ together -this whole wedding thing is starting to really undermine my spirit-sorry for the rant, yeah I guess you aren’t the only one who is scared…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not that this relates to investing really, but this Warren Buffett principle is one I try to apply to simplify everyday life…

“No thumb sucking” http://www.warrenbuffett.com/warren-buffett-10-ways-to-get-rich/

Basically it means s**t or get off the pot…trust your instincts and then stick to your guns.

Also, once you purchase a dress, STOP LOOKING. Dress regret only happens to those who continue to visit bridal salons and pine over Brides magazine (which is 90% dress ads).

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@dressme3:  having the same issue as you. Very decisive in every day life but can NOT pick a dress. I actually went through dress regret once so now I’m terrified to make another “bad” decision!!!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

It’s a big decision and they’re constantly coming out with new styles.  Just take a deep breath, think about how you envision yourself walking down the aisle.  Is your dress shiney, silk or satin, fitted, mermaid, ballgown, lace?  Or even if you have no idea think back on what dresses you tried on and what looked good on you.  If a sweetheart neckline flattered your body type pick out a dress with that option or one that can be made into a sweetheart neckline.  I think no matter what dress you pick your Fiance is going to be happy with your pick.  Just take the pressure off yourself and stop thinking that there’s a better dress out there because chances are there probably is but you can’t try on EVERY dress, there isn’t enough time 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

@phillybride61513:  I agree about stop looking once you find a dress.  I was stupid and kept looking and ended up with dress regret…I’m completely happy with my 2nd dress choice and have learned to NOT look at pretty dresses anymore.  Even now when I post on threads and people are showing off their dresses I’ll often think to myself “Maybe I should look at dresses with that kind of skirt or top or material” and then I think “NO I love my new dress, no more $$$”. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Am definitely a person who is scared to pull the trigger on anything, especially a dress. It’s been eight months of obsessing but I’m finally starting to just pick stuff and bedhappy with it. I’m even thinkin about picking a dress and not trying on any more!

Post # 13
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@babypearls:  thanks! it’s really helped to simplify things for this over-thinker!

Post # 14
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115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My time is limited so I need to say YES SOON!!! I will be posting pics Sunday..

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m definitely scared to say yes to the dress because I live in a different city away from my mom, my sister and all my bridesmaids and most of my friends. I have been the only person other than the bridal store employees to see me in my dress. I love the dress, but pictures can only do so much. I wish I could show them in person. Even though I’m flying home for the holidays, I can’t locate the dress in my hometown either. I’m close to saying yes, but there’s a nagging part of me that says I should try on other dresses when I visit home.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am totally having dress regret and freaking out!  I had a friend tell me that I had tried on enough dresses and that I needed to make a decison.  That, along with the pressure of the salesperson, convinced me to buy a dress!  They would not let me take any photos until after I bought the dress.  When I saw the pictures, I was not happy!  I didn’t like myself in the dress!  UGH!  I’m hoping it is just the fact that it was a photo taken from a phone and my hair/makeup was not done.  Also, my dress will be a different color which is a little unnerving.  I also had a friend offer to hand sew additional sequins/beads onto the dress to give it more sparkle. 

 

I am also a very decisive person in normal life.  I guess it just tells me how important the dress is to me!

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