Post # 1
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Blushing bee
We are moving to florida a few days after the wedding so Fiance can go to school…… for underwater welding. Its taken him quite a while to decide what he wants to do with his life. He is very excited about this. I was excited at first too. The oppertunity to travel and good money to save for our future. However i started to read about the risks, and im a worrier by nature. I started crying the other day because I’m so afraid of losing Fiance. Its a very dangerous job. So does anyone else have a Fiance who has a dangerous job? If so, how do you deal with it and keep yourself from being a nervous wreck?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
I personally do not but I have a friend whose Fiance is a Electrical Linemen meaning he puts up power lines. There is a possibility that he could be electrocuted and he has known people to be electrocuted. She has told me that most often you realize that they have put it many polices and procedures to make his job as safe as possible. You have to trust that your Fiance has studied in this field and really understands the dangers and protects himself as best as possible.
Will your Fiance be welding large boats mainly or what would his job entail?
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
Well he will technically be an underwater construction specialist. And what he does is up to him. There are diff kinds of underwater welding, including on shore and off shore. Offshore is the most dangerous. I wasnt too freaked out until my mom told me that the oil spill that happened was underwater welding and guys died. That really upset me. And everyone says they knew something was wrong but continued to work, so i told Fiance if he ever felt like something was wrong or they werent being safe or didnt feel safe for any reason that i didnt care if he lost his job, he needed to refuse to work.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
@truitjen: haha That would freak me out too. I’d say wait until he at least decides what he wants to specialize in before you start to over analyze. That whole Bridal Party oil spill was definitely not an occurrence that happens often.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
My fiance’s job is not as overtly dangerous as, say, firefighting or lion-taming, but yes, he takes a significant risk every time he’s on shift. People have been maimed or even died since he’s been there, and the powers that be have fired a few guys for taking unnecessary risks. A good friend and coworker of his died a couple days ago, and I was honestly surprised when I was told it had happened at home, not work.
I guess I’m used to it, though. My uncle is a search-and-rescue firefighter and one of my brothers is in the military (the other is just kind of reckless, but he doesn’t get paid for it lol), and they’ve always come home. I have plans at a dangerous job myself, so I’m probably not as worried as I should be when he goes off to work. The truth is, my fiance could do his job for 20 years without a scratch, and I could get hit by a bus tomorrow. That’s life. I’m not going to waste it worrying.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I will be the one with a dangerous job in a few months and I am worried about how my Fiance will handle it. I am going to be a police officer and I know it is what I have always wanted to do and he is excited for me (and finds it a little sexy) but is also scared. I don’t blame him. I would be scared too.
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
My Fiance is a fireman & EMT, which I consider to be dangerous jobs. At first I was a bit nervous, but once I learned about all the training and safety protocols they go through I felt a lot better. He takes it all very seriously, which gives me peace of mind. I can control the fires, illness or just general crazy that people will through at him, but I can trust that he is fully prepared to handle all of it and in the safest way possible.
I also try to distance myself from people who like to dwell on the dangers of the job; it will only make you crazy.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@kfricke89: That’s the one! How far into the approval process are you? (You said you had a few months before you start, that’s why I ask). I’m sure the requirements are different in Texas, but damn, there’s a lot to get through up here.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
My husband is a fireman. He has been through lots of training and the whole deparemtent is continously taking different training courses. I 100% trust every single one of the men on his crew and feel like they are like a second family to us. I agree with @Miss Yoga Pants that you can not dwell on the dangers because it will only make you crazy.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
@deliciousappleblue: Well, right now I am on hold because I have to finish my degree in May. Once that happens I will finish the application processes and the testing. So, in reality I have more months than I want to admit to myself. I wish I were closer! Its so exciting and nervewracking. I have 3 departments I am in the middle of the application process for and in the end it will all come down to where we are living, who really wants me, and who will pay more. This process takes forever! I am so happy I started it when I did! I can’t imagine beginning it after I had my degree. I would go insane.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@kfricke89: I’m working on my degree as well, which is why I haven’t applied yet. I figured once I finished my undergrad, I’d apply and continue to do my masters on my nights off. Now I’m thinking that I don’t want to be too old when I apply, so I might start now and keep doing school while I work, if I can. I haven’t decided yet. It bugs me too to have so much time ahead of me, so I know how you feel. To be fair, if I’d started university right out of high school, I’d be on a completely different path and be starting over right about now anyway. *sigh* Good luck to a fellow lady cop!
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
@deliciousappleblue: Thanks! Something I realized and am definately keeping in mind, as I want to go to law school (FBI sounds even better that a beat cop!) is the fact that many departments have tuition reimbursment where if you are going to school while emplyed with them they will help pay tuition so long as it is related to the field you are in. So, I plan on taking advantage of that. Begin applying your last semester! Each application is like 20-30 pages and takes FOREVER to get through and hear back about. It’s better to start now and have them keep it frozen and wait for your degree than to wait until after you have your degree in hand. Atleast, that is what I think.
Also, Yay! I don’t see many female cops on here! It makes me feel good to know I’m not the only crazy one. lol
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
J’s job can be dangerous, but mostly a danger to his health. He’s a plumber and that can cause several problems. It depends on the products they use or what people use in their drainage, etc. J does know of a guy who asked a woman if she used Draino in her sink before he went underneath to inspect the problem. She told the guy no. Well, turns out someone did and it got into his eyes and blinded him. Other things worry me as well, but I’m not going to get into all of it.
I wish your Fiance the best of luck with his new job.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Yes! FI’s a middle school teacher! The most dangerous job of all!!! 🙂
I have a cousin in Florida who was also into underwater welding. It really isn’t an easy task.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@kfricke89: Yeah, I know a few cops (every time I meet one I latch on and hope they’ll offer references – I’m pathetic, I know), and the supervisor of my work’s other branch is married to the top inspector in my home region, and they all tell me the department will pay for my schooling, which is why I plan to apply before finishing. I just know that the more education you have before applying, the better your odds of even getting hired, so I can’t go in there with nothing. It’s frustrating, but so worthwhile! I’m glad you’re almost there, it gives me hope! Lady in blue, coming through. 🙂