Post # 1
For context, I’m 27 and I’ve been married for about 18 months. We’re approaching the TTC phase of our life and I seem to be acting out and rebeling in an unordinary way. I’m acting a bit like I was when I was 20…going out a lot, going to more concerts, going out with my gfs, drinking A LOT (not often but every weekend getting pretttty drunk) anddd more. I think it might be because I’m afraid how much my life will change once I’m pregant and have a baby. I’m not sure whether this behavior is normal and acceptable, or whether I might not be ready to get pregnant. I am truly at a loss to understand what’s going on with me. I’ve always wanted to be a mom (I want several kids) so I’m a bit surprised by my behavior.
Has anyone gone through a similar experience?
Post # 2
I didn’t feel that way, but I was 32 when we started TTC so maybe just a different phase of life. I’d say it sounds like you have some ambivalence about whether you’re really ready to have a baby right now. Why not table it and reassess in another six months?
Post # 3
I haven’t but I can understand why someone would go through this. It’s a lot, and it’s incredibly nerve-wracking, even when you are “ready.”
I agree with Tiff, why not table it and reassess so you can warm up to the idea slowly. You have plenty of time, even if you want several kids.
Post # 4
I am 29 and we plan to start ttc once we get married. Should be engaged soon and married around August. Anyway…
I can say in the last year I have had a lot of sloppy nights with my SO. We don’t go out as much but we enjoy each others’ company. And when we go out… I feel as bad as my bar tab does… $$$ wow
I don’t think I am personally scared of losing that life. In fact I truthfully feel like I am so over it. The hang overs are one… being overweight from booze and snacking… being tired from partying or whatever. But I get your side as well. It is a BIG change.
NOW… I AM scared of losing my freedom to just do whatever I want… and that is more about sleeping and lounging without being woken up or scared the kids are gonna get in trouble if I fall asleep. I don’t see why I couldn’t plan a random trip with a child(ren) since I have family to watch or a freaking car seat to take them places lol. SO YEAH… just worried I am going to miss sleep. SLEEP.