(Closed) Anyone attend a wedding with no wine?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Is the venue totally dry, or do they just have a moratorium on wine?

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Do you mean you can’t have any wine at the table, or just no wine bottles?  My venue wouldn’t allow wine bottles, with that many people they were worried about people overserving themselves or minors drinking.

Can you have a bar?  I’ve been to a few wedding where the MC forwarns people about any upcoming toasts so they can get something from the bar beforehand.

I’ve also been to dry weddings and punch was used to toast.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

One of our reception options doesn’t allow wine due to staining issues. They have cream colored carpet. No wine at all in the venue. But they allow other drinks, and we’re not huge wine drinkers, so if we go with them, we’re doing champagne, sparkling cider and an Italian soda option for table choices

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Nona99:  +1

i have never been to a wedding where there was a wine bottle sitting on the table so for me this is not a big deal. 

honestly for me, I would chose the venue because you also dont have to worry about drinking and driving (assuming it’s not totally dry) since people can just stay there. this and that it is a really nice venue, would be more important to me than bottles on the table and paper lanterns (I personally don’t like this look and would prefer the tulle/lights but that is just me). Again this is assuming it is not 100% dry

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We weren’t allowed to have wine on the tables, but we could have wine — the bartender just had to pour it, and they had servers bring it around during dinner. You might want to clarify exactly what their policy is!

For the record, I’ve never been to a dry wedding, but I went to one that just had beer, and it was just fine!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I dont think it’s a big deal at all.  We didn’t have wine on the tables, but we did have champagne.  People who drank wine had to get it from the bar, like those drinking beer or mixed drinks.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

we had no alcohol at our wedding. we had sparkling cider. nobody complained (i wouldn’t have cared if they did), but my wedding was also very small. less than 20 people.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am actually not serving any alcohol at my wedding. I just don’t like it and my SO doesn’t either. Our immediate families just don’t drink but most of my extended family does. I know they wont like it but I have been to weddings without and honestly, I didn’t hear anyone say “where is the wine?” You can do toasts with the drinks they have or sparkling cider. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is very strange to me. Gingerale? wtf

seems like there are a few things that make you unsure about this place…

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@nikkip84:  That has got to be the weirdest thing I’ve ever heard…and the only reason I can think of for that rule would be to either preserve and save the carpets, tables and linens from the offending and totally staining beverage or because they’re afraid of broken glass? 

But let me get this straight…if I were invited to your wedding, I would totally give you an awesome gift and probably buy new shoes to wear, and Mr. 99 and I would be sitting at a table with Uncle Buck and Aunt Esther talking about how much you could buy with a nickel before the war and Mr. 99 could have his glass of single malt scotch at the table…but I could not have a glass of very dry merlot?

That’s just such a random thing, but I don’t think people will care, as long as they can have an adult beverage of some type they’re usually content, although I know I’d be curious about the forbidden drink…like what if I drank my wine out of an old fashioned glass…?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No place with a liquor license will let you set a bottle of wine on the table.  Ok, no ethical place.  I’ve been to a wedding where we got pitchers of cheap wine for the tables.  But I digress.  Anyone could help themselves to a bottle – they have to ID at the bar.  If there is an open bar people are able to get their own drink. 

Could you have passed champagne?  Like people walking around offering it to guests before the toast?  We had servers pour a glass of either champagne or sparkling juice for everyone before the toast.  It cost a little extra but was much classier, in my opinion.  We didn’t serve wine at all, just the champagne toast, then an open bar with liquers, liquor, mixers/sodas, and bottled beer.  Everyone had plenty to drink, trust me.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

so you can drink it by the bar but not at the tables? thats a bit odd!!

ive been to a venue where you cant have bottles of wine at tables but servers will bring you a glass. but not one that only allows certain drinks served

im curious!!
edit – im all for non alcoholic toasts if thats what the couple want. but i think sparkling apple (you call it cider in the US right?) is more crowd friendly than gigner ale

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Personally it sounds to me like you have a LOT OF UNANSWERED QUESTIONS about this venue.

My best suggestion is to put together a list of them… and beforehand decide what types of answers would be deal-breakers for you (No Self-Serving Bottles vs NO WINE at all are very different things)

I have been to a Dry-Wedding… like Nona99: said in her reply above (# 12) I didn’t treat THE GOING part any different … still dressed up, got a gift, cryed at the Ceremony, hugged the B&G, chatted with wonderful people thru dinner, danced up a storm, and thanked the Hosts before we left.

If anything tho I will admit THAT was the different part… THE LEAVING.  We certainly didn’t stay as long as we would have had it been a “Wet Wedding”.  Mr TTR left before midnight (lol around these parts Receptions run to 1, 2 or 3 AM) and headed off to our Hotel Lounge / Bar for a Nightcap.

I realize it isn’t the same for all people… but for us it isn’t a Wedding / Party / Nightout without at least one glass of Wine or Champagne.

EDIT TO ADD – Sorry but I don’t buy into all these American Bees who are saying that NO WHERE allows Wine Bottles on a table… Lol, even here in “stuffy” Ontario with our Antiquated Liqour Laws, this stuff flys.  Be it wine you buy from the Venue by the Bottle, or House Wine served up in a Caraffe… it is ok.  See it at Dinners, Weddings, Funerals, Galas and Socials all the time.  Infact I’d say that the requirement to buy solely by the Glass would be the exception to the rule for such events.

 

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